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suggababy23 -> Consider a hetero sub? (6/18/2006 9:05:28 PM)
I was talking with a friend of mine earlier and I was curious if a Domme would consider taking on a hetero female sub to train, knowing that she would have no interest in any form or lesbian or bisexual sex?

ladylexington -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/18/2006 9:16:15 PM)
Of course. Not all service is sexual. If a sub has the ability to grasp power exchange and the willingness to accept it, I would definitely consider her.

fergus -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/18/2006 9:17:04 PM)
Well, I can't speak to this experience specifically, but ... I am a hetro (male) sub, and once, a lesbian Domme contacted me and asked if I would ever consider a service position with a lesbian Domme, knowing that there would be no sex. For this and other reasons (like distance, compatability, etc) I politely declined. We still write on occasion, and I consider her to be "good people" :) I have also heard about hetro sub males, and Bi Dommes who find the notion of foced bi in their hetro make subs to be exciting. Come to think of it, a Domme once asked me if I would do forced bi. I told her no, and she, being a very respectful person totally understood that :) She is another friend that I still talk to now and again. fergus

Misstoyou -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/18/2006 9:21:30 PM)
For me, personally, it's no, though mostly I've declined lesbian or bi women. I process my lifestyle interests sexually, and since I'm straight, I don't have any visceral drive to dominate a woman.

suggababy23 -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 12:38:39 AM)
This isn't something I myself have considered but it is something that a friend of mine has suggested as a possibility. I wasn't sure if most Dom/mes related domination to sex or if they saw it as unrelated.

MsKatHouston -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 12:54:50 AM)
absolutely I would

Master96 -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 2:14:36 AM)
Dear suggababy23, May I ask you? Why would you seek a Domme to train while you are hetero? In addition, I think lesbian relationship doesn't include sex only... as for other relationships as well. Could you be bi? Attracted to men sexually and females emotionally? Maybe what I just wrote was stupid... anyway, good luck. Master,

MistressTheaZ -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 3:46:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ladylexington Of course. Not all service is sexual. If a sub has the ability to grasp power exchange and the willingness to accept it, I would definitely consider her. Agreed, also to add: just because one takes on a sub for training does not mean it will necessarily evolve into a long-term D/s relationship. I have taken male and female subs in the past whom I wasn't attracted to or intended to have sexual contact with. Certainly, just because one is bisexual does not mean that you're attracted to ALL women, laugh, and it may likely be I don't have an interest in her that way anyhow. If it would be something she'd fret over, I'd wonder why she sought out service with an admittedly bisexual or lesbian Domme, honestly. Preferances are individual, of course - there are many who do not make sexuality, (oral or penetrative sex), part of their respective dynamic at all, regardless of sexual identity. There are others who involve elements and still others for whom this must be a component. That said, I personally wouldn't look for a long-term pet with whom I didn't share a mutual attraction leading to more later on. ~Thea

MHOO314 -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 5:38:24 AM)
I have and I do now mentor a female submissive, but it is conceptual philosophical work only that she then translates in to her relationship ( with her Master's full permission by the way...)---I could not take one "in" as I find the dynamic of female submissives and male submissives very very different in actual practice.

Proprietrix -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 6:51:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: suggababy23 I was talking with a friend of mine earlier and I was curious if a Domme would consider taking on a hetero female sub to train, knowing that she would have no interest in any form or lesbian or bisexual sex? Absolutely! If we had the right personality match, we'd probably hit it off splendidly. She's not looking for sex. Neither am I. The only part I'd be leary of would be the "to train" part. Train for what? For whom? If she's going to be in my collar, I'll train her in my ways, with my rules. And then, I'd want her to be mine. I wouldn't want to put a lot of time and effort into training her just to give her away. I'm a bit more selfish and greedy than that.

suggababy23 -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 7:55:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Master96 Dear suggababy23, May I ask you? Why would you seek a Domme to train while you are hetero? In addition, I think lesbian relationship doesn't include sex only... as for other relationships as well. Could you be bi? Attracted to men sexually and females emotionally? Maybe what I just wrote was stupid... anyway, good luck. Master, Thats a good question. And actually the reason is because I am finding an increasing sense of frustration as I have been looking for men to train me. I am fairly new in this lifestyle and I am pretty much open to learning as much and all that I can. However, with the Dom's I have met, it has started out with the promise of training and ended up in every direction but. So I have been thinking that perhaps if I met a Domme who had no interest in me sexually, we could stay focused on my training and not some sort of romantic relationship. And no, I am not bi sexual.

thetammyjo -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 9:10:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: suggababy23 I was talking with a friend of mine earlier and I was curious if a Domme would consider taking on a hetero female sub to train, knowing that she would have no interest in any form or lesbian or bisexual sex? That wouldn't bother me because while I have trained some women and been served by some women, none of that has been sexual. I would to insist though that anyone coming into my house be at least poly friendly because we are poly and would not tolerate some monogamous person coming in and trying to change us or preach to us.

Master96 -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 11:11:21 AM)
Dear suggababy23, I’m sorry to hear about your frustration. And you have the right to seek knowledge and training from anywhere you can, and I welcome you and encourage you as you are "new in this lifestyle"... you have all my support. Be patient… you’ll meet the right Master, it just takes time. Master,

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 11:29:15 AM)
Since sex is not really a part of service life here, we would, if she was suited in other areas. We're basically gender/pref irrelevant here, except in assisting someone to accept him or herself as s/he is, including any gender or preference issues. ZWD

sweetnsensual -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 11:40:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Master96 Dear suggababy23, In addition, I think lesbian relationship doesn't include sex only... as for other relationships as well. Could you be bi? Attracted to men sexually and females emotionally? Master, i think that's absolutely wonderful. the idea that a person can be bisexual in the sense they're attracted to men sexually and females emotionally. a friend of mine has this exact problem. she wants a man sexually but often finds that bonding with them emotionally is difficult--personally, i think she just picks the wrong guys but on with it. but, she also is attracted to women. she likes a woman's shape, her softness and the emotional side of a relationship but, as of now, cannot picture herself actually having sex with a woman. neither of us think there's something wrong with it--i want to get that across. she just can't picture it right now. she learned of her attraction to women somewhat recently and is still figuring things out. i just wanted to compliment Master96 for introducing the idea to the conversation. Thank You very much.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/19/2006 12:56:12 PM)
I would definitely consider a hetero femme sub. The power exchange does not need to be, annd mostly is not, about sexual things. Like Proprietrix, I am not sure how I would feel about grooming a girl for a potential Male Dom, but it is not out of the realm of possibility. And My profile invites petitions from both male and female, because My dynamic is not sexually oriented.

suggababy23 -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/20/2006 5:35:22 AM)
Thank you for everyone's responses :)

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/20/2006 8:30:33 AM)
My slave girl anne is het. she's married and also has a sexual Top (the marriage is open). Any combination of sexual orientations that you want to think of exist as Ds or Ms relationships. Master Fire

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/20/2006 9:15:41 AM)
I have no problem with that. My preference is for a lesbian, but that's because I also intend to have a male slave, and the household would be easier to manage without the possibility of sexual tension arising between the 2 slaves. That's a preference, however, not a requirement, and if I find the right female to be My slave, it won't matter to me if she is straight, bi, lesbian or asexual. Just so long as she is My slave. quote: ORIGINAL: suggababy23 I was talking with a friend of mine earlier and I was curious if a Domme would consider taking on a hetero female sub to train, knowing that she would have no interest in any form or lesbian or bisexual sex?

LadyMorgynn -> RE: Consider a hetero sub? (6/20/2006 9:17:30 AM)
Amen, sistah! LOL. quote: ORIGINAL: Proprietrix Absolutely! If we had the right personality match, we'd probably hit it off splendidly. She's not looking for sex. Neither am I. The only part I'd be leary of would be the "to train" part. Train for what? For whom? If she's going to be in my collar, I'll train her in my ways, with my rules. And then, I'd want her to be mine. I wouldn't want to put a lot of time and effort into training her just to give her away. I'm a bit more selfish and greedy than that.

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