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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 3:19:59 PM   
crossboi


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So basically you think women are vapid, thoughtless little bimbos. Nice to know.


I had (still have) a profile here, with the male side of me on. It gets almost nobody talking to me. Alone, night after night, day after day, I opened it up, and there was nobody to talk to. I wrote to some, and most didn't even respond. It was a mirror of my life when kids made fun of me in school. Then, when I grew of age, my foster parents gave me a few hundred dollars, a kiss, and a handshake and I was on my own. Since then, I haven't been much good at anything, until I found this while working at a clothing store.

Cross over to my other side, and instantly, things changed.

At first I would secretly wear some of the larger ladies garments at the store, and then later more openly as I realized the effect simply wearing something had on other people. It wasn't what I thought - it was what they thought.

It didn't change me - it changed them!

You know this too, deep down inside, whether or not you are willing to admit it.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 3:23:38 PM   
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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 3:34:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		So crossboi, when you have sex..do you still fuck women or men or both? I'm just really trying to figure out how this works out for you.


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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 4:06:46 PM   
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I couldn't do it....my beard and the hair on my knuckles would always give me away.


I hide all that under my toga.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 4:19:04 PM   
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I'm just really trying to figure out how this works out for you.



I sense your belligerence and I'm ok with that but really, I'm only wearing your clothes. I'm not taking away anything from you, am I?

As for how I fuck, I do whatever they want me to do and they appreciate me for what I do for them.


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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 4:20:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: crossboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
So basically you think women are vapid, thoughtless little bimbos. Nice to know.


I had (still have) a profile here, with the male side of me on. It gets almost nobody talking to me. Alone, night after night, day after day, I opened it up, and there was nobody to talk to. I wrote to some, and most didn't even respond. It was a mirror of my life when kids made fun of me in school. Then, when I grew of age, my foster parents gave me a few hundred dollars, a kiss, and a handshake and I was on my own. Since then, I haven't been much good at anything, until I found this while working at a clothing store.

Cross over to my other side, and instantly, things changed.

At first I would secretly wear some of the larger ladies garments at the store, and then later more openly as I realized the effect simply wearing something had on other people. It wasn't what I thought - it was what they thought.

It didn't change me - it changed them!

You know this too, deep down inside, whether or not you are willing to admit it.


Forgive me for reading into your post, but it seems like you're saying that you didn't fit as a boy, but do fit as a girl. Are you contemplating transition?

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 4:28:31 PM   
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Then, I'd ask, for any woman who wears a short skirt (you know who you are), do you get more attention from men when you wear it than if you wore jeans? You'd probably say "you get the same attention because you're the same person and men are looking at you as a person", and, again, I'd grant you that, but only barely.


No, I'd say I got the most attention when I was wearing jeans and a pretty t-shirt right after I got my hair done. I've had guys stop their cars in the middle of the street to talk to me. I could say it was because my hair is that fabulous, and it is, but that's not why. It was my confidence. That's what people respond to, not what I'm wearing. I'll bet dollars to doughnuts it's the same for you.


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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 4:31:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
it seems like you're saying that you didn't fit as a boy, but do fit as a girl. Are you contemplating transition?


Before I quit high school, I was ignored by most and made fun of by others and I was jealous of the jocks and the miss popularities, I will admit. I had a few sets of parents, where, I wouldn't say I didn't fit as a boy so much as I wasn't all that good of a child to them. This is kind of personal, so I won't say much more than things change instantly in other people when the same old me dresses differently.

If you could read what is in my mail (I would forward you some but without the identifying information), I'm getting offers from all over the world which I wouldn't be getting if I wore any other clothes. People are appreciating me and I haven't changed a bit in the interim.

All I changed was what I wear.

That's the allure.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 4:48:25 PM   
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As for how I fuck, I do whatever they want me to do and they appreciate me for what I do for them.


I'm curious about the gender of the "they" because if you were less successful with women but more successful with men, well, it's really not that hard to find men for sex

If you were unsuccessful with men as a man but not when dressed as a women, that makes for an interesting conversation.

Despite not agreeing with your views on women's relationship with their attire, I wish you the best!

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 7:06:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: crossboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
it seems like you're saying that you didn't fit as a boy, but do fit as a girl. Are you contemplating transition?


Before I quit high school, I was ignored by most and made fun of by others and I was jealous of the jocks and the miss popularities, I will admit. I had a few sets of parents, where, I wouldn't say I didn't fit as a boy so much as I wasn't all that good of a child to them. This is kind of personal, so I won't say much more than things change instantly in other people when the same old me dresses differently.

If you could read what is in my mail (I would forward you some but without the identifying information), I'm getting offers from all over the world which I wouldn't be getting if I wore any other clothes. People are appreciating me and I haven't changed a bit in the interim.

All I changed was what I wear.

That's the allure.


Crossboi
I am sorry...I will not get into the clothes thing...but I feel that you are in a lot of pain. No matter what, it is hard to get past those early rejections & to not believe that you have found some magic elixir. If you like it do it but it reminds me of high school girls who were never popular or noticed. They start sleeping with every boy in school and they thrive on the attention they receive and love the "jealousy" of other girls who call them sluts... I am sure there are a variety of reasons for cross dressing-some good, some bad...-but I hear that you are in pain & this may be a temporary band-aid.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/13/2013 7:13:13 PM   
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I'm just really trying to figure out how this works out for you.



I sense your belligerence and I'm ok with that but really, I'm only wearing your clothes. I'm not taking away anything from you, am I?

As for how I fuck, I do whatever they want me to do and they appreciate me for what I do for them.





It wasn't belligerence. It was a truly curious question but whatever. No need.


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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/14/2013 12:08:20 PM   
crossboi


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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan
It was my confidence. That's what people respond to, not what I'm wearing. I'll bet dollars to doughnuts it's the same for you.


I never thought about that before.

Maybe that is it. I guess I do act differently when I'm dressed up.

Maybe it isn't as simple as I thought.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/15/2013 4:53:57 AM   
findomsdream


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Status: offline 		I cross dress and go outside wearing some womens clothing but no wigs or make up.
I like women to see me and laugh or smile at me knowing i like to be like them .
Its embarrasing for me. But excites me.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/15/2013 10:36:25 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


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Men don't (usually) wear push-up bras & V-necked tops to promote their sex organs for all the world to see, say, their DD penis-to-ball cleavage lines.



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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/15/2013 4:03:26 PM   
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Anyone in favour of bringing back the codpiece?



Since we've established some CDs say they dress for the reaction, it would be interesting to ask the ladies what reaction they'd have if we guys wore stuffed codpieces again.

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/16/2013 8:14:41 AM   
MistressZaraUK


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Status: offline 		It's not actually that complicated to be honest.

Obviously I cross dress as part of my job, but I'm also an admirer who is lucky enough to live with a wonderful Tgirl partner, so I guess I get to see both sides of the coin.

I think for most guys, cross dressers represent an 'idealised' version of a female conforming to how they would like women to dress and act, basically a stereotype the more passable, the better. Sexually, cross dressers provide 'straight' guys with an outlet to indulge in practices they would never do with their wife or girlfriend, while still maintaining their personal world view that they are heterosexual.

Nothing wrong with any of that, as long as we all make each other's lives that bit richer, everyone wins

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/16/2013 8:47:30 AM   
Diana50


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Status: offline 		I just had to jump in here ... and share this link to some really funky codpieces:

http://tanyamars.com/work/codpieces-phallic-paraphernalia/


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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/16/2013 9:47:05 AM   
Subano


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some really funky codpieces:



Those are hilarious - but not all that pragmatic! :)

I wonder what the purpose of a codpiece is anyway?

Do women 'really' react to them in a positive way?

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/16/2013 11:30:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ya'nnow...since we are on about cod pieces....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5A55eWbiBI

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RE: What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dr... - 1/16/2013 11:05:01 PM   
Aneirin


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What is the sexual nature of the allure of cross dressing for a guy?


Could the same question be asked of a girl that dresses like a guy ?

As to face it probably the only item of clothing sacrosanct for males is a pair of Y fronts, otherwise women can wear the lot whereas the other way around the question always seems to involve sex or perversion when it could be males just want to look beautiful too.

But if it interests most of the questioning comments regards cross dressers seems to come from males where on the whole most females don't have a problem with cross dressing which could be explained by the fact they have the option to wear male attire or female as suits their interest.

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