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Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:04:26 AM   
Dreadmath


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Status: offline 		Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this thread ^^

I recently was approached by a "submissive" who began by asking me about a specific BDSM activity and if I enjoy it. I sort of indulged in conversation with her, telling her my viewpoint on it (positive) and then we exchanged Skype accounts. She sent me pictures (as far as I can determine, they are legitimate) and she asked for a normal video call.

I tried that but then realized that she was not having video or audio herself, so I stopped and explained that I was only interested in a face to face conversation. She apologized repeatedly, then went on to explain that it was some technical issue. It did not look to me as a scam, so we proceeded to chat, but the discussion was mostly about her asking me how I would do X and Y to her, over and over.

I indulged her for a while then got tired of the repetition, so I told her "Bottom line: Yes I enjoy doing that, so if you do too, talking about the minute details over and over again is a bit pointless" I was way more interested in getting to know her and so on.She responded by apologizing repeatedly again for wasting my time and then went offline.

I was kind of taken aback by the situation, so I turn to you for advice ^^. Was I mistaken in my approach? Was she just weird? Any and all feedback is greatly appreciated.
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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:10:46 AM   
SinFix


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Status: offline 		Sounds more like a guy pretending to be a chick to get some wanking fodder from you....

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:12:42 AM   
Dreadmath


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Status: offline 		That would be my first impression as well. I dread at the possibility of those pictures being from an unknowing acquaintance. Perhaps I should report the profile?

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:14:06 AM   
SinFix


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Status: offline 		There isn't really anything to report, without proof that the pictures are not theirs...   lesson learned and move on is the best bet...

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:16:26 AM   
Dreadmath


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Status: offline 		Will do this then, thanks for the quick reply ^^

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:22:05 AM   
SinFix


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Status: offline 		You are very welcome..

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:28:21 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It was a dude. You didn't indulge him so that's why he went offline.

Just a dude looking to wank off.


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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 10:30:59 AM   
Dreadmath


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Status: offline 		I am just glad I got away without getting any oddities on my video feed ^^

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 12:09:02 PM   
Killerangel


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Status: offline 		It was a guy who wanted to jerk off or keep jerking off. Any woman who approaches you out of the blue about a sexual activity is someone to be suspicious of, particularly if that's all they want to talk about.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 1:59:05 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Yup. Your suggestion of an early face-to-face meeting will serve you well in filtering these people out.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 2:08:34 PM   
Alecta


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Mind you, it could be a chick. Girls are into anonymous wanking too, and guys are more likely to accuse you of being a fake when you don't want to talk about it anymore whereas girls are more likely to be meekly apologetic and fade away. Bottom line though, they won't be into meeting and putting their money where their mouth is either. That's why I always jump to coffee before getting involved.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 3:56:58 PM   
Dreadmath


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Status: offline 		Exactly, I prefer starting with casual discussion myself (And I am a sucker for coffee). Once again, thank you for your responses.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/13/2013 7:26:24 PM   
LafayetteLady


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta

FR~
Mind you, it could be a chick. Girls are into anonymous wanking too, and guys are more likely to accuse you of being a fake when you don't want to talk about it anymore whereas girls are more likely to be meekly apologetic and fade away. Bottom line though, they won't be into meeting and putting their money where their mouth is either. That's why I always jump to coffee before getting involved.


That's what I was thinking as well.  I realize there is software that can make a male sound like a female, but I don't think the average wanker is going to have it.  Girls get be just as bad as men in wanting to just cyber sex. 

Either way Dread, you handled it just fine.  Extra points for worrying that some poor unsuspecting female had her photos stolen.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/14/2013 11:11:58 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

It was a guy who wanted to jerk off or keep jerking off. Any woman who approaches you out of the blue about a sexual activity is someone to be suspicious of, particularly if that's all they want to talk about.


Not necessarily. I know some men who are seeking relationships who tell me that some women do approach them and ask details (what will you do to me, etc.) just as men do this to women.

We cannot generalize that the woman he spoke to was a man; it might just be a woman who wants to find a man who will fulfill her exact needs. Sort of like a fetish delivery system, which we all encounter.

There are preferences like these on both sides and genders.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/15/2013 12:08:44 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: SinFix

Sounds more like a guy pretending to be a chick to get some wanking fodder from you....

DiNG DING DING we have a winner!!!

Welcome to what women experience often. Ohh tell me specifically how you'll do ___ over & over it was a dude.

Eye spy should locate owner of pics

< Message edited by theRose4U -- 1/15/2013 12:11:26 PM >

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/15/2013 2:40:20 PM   
Dreadmath


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Status: offline 		Such a weird way for a guy to wank, I must say ^^

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/15/2013 4:37:19 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		Hang around here a while...I guarantee you will see wierder!!

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/15/2013 6:34:25 PM   
Dreadmath


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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Close second is married bi-guy that's a sissy hooker in ballet shoes looking for a pimp


No.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/15/2013 7:06:28 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreadmath


quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Close second is married bi-guy that's a sissy hooker in ballet shoes looking for a pimp


No.

WAY!! Hang a while you will see the psycho parade go by in epic proportions. Currently showing is frat boy of the magical penis that believes anyone not admiring it is a bot or fake.

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RE: Being approached by a wayward "submissive" - 1/15/2013 7:21:34 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U
Close second is married bi-guy that's a sissy hooker in ballet shoes looking for a pimp
Are you referring to the one from the USA that specifically wanted to be prostituted in India?



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