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Newbie - 1/14/2013 8:51:16 PM

missbostonlee

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I'm not new to the bdsm world just to it existing outside of my mind. If anyone has ever been in my place that would understand my yearning to talk to someone who knows what thet are talking about. My friends don't understand. They thought Fifty Shades was hardcore porn.
I need someone who understands the drive to beat my man sitting at my feet but also wanting him to brand me with hand prints. I need an outlet to at least discuss this seeing as how I can't act on my urges. Please... I can beg if that's what it takes!

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RE: Newbie - 1/14/2013 9:42:46 PM

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well if it has all been inside your head it is probably porn driven and means you really are new to bdsm. Nothing wrong with that. I am unsure what you want to discuss though. Could you elaborate your OP further?

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RE: Newbie - 1/14/2013 9:56:09 PM

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Not porn but different things have brought about my interests. Essentially I just want to be able to talk and listen from people who actually live the life. I've never been able to completely feed the little whip inside me. My husband and I have talked some but it doesn't work to top from the bottom and he's not submissive at all. I just don't know how to make him understand this part of me. And I don't have any idea what I'm doing to be able to introduce him.

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RE: Newbie - 1/14/2013 10:04:48 PM

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Well have you asked him if you could play with others non=sexually (or sexually if thats what works for you both) so that you can get your fix? Ask him to attend local workshops and such. Other than that i would advise you to read and read and read some more about it.

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RE: Newbie - 1/14/2013 11:13:14 PM

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I'm gonna say you're screwed. Sorry. He's not submissive. You are not submissive it sounds like although I dunno..you said you also want someone to mark you with their hands so maybe switch? Not enough information to go on.

Your only other answer is to ask him for an open relationship. If he says no then you have some choices....stay and be happy with your marriage, stay and be miserable and just keep it all to your own fantasies in your head, or leave and get divorced. You can't change people and if he's not submissive at all, there ain't no way on earth you're gonna get him on his knees unless it's to clean up spilt milk.

As for the rest of your op, if you just want to hear about other's real life relationships and such and you want to talk about such stuff, just read and respond to topics on the forums.

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RE: Newbie - 1/15/2013 5:12:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

As for the rest of your op, if you just want to hear about other's real life relationships and such and you want to talk about such stuff, just read and respond to topics on the forums.

Or just go to some munches. Tell hubby about munches and see if he'd be willing to go with you.

You're in a tricky spot. You think you want this, but aren't sure and can't experiment easily since you're in a marriage. The ideal is for you to explore together. Like I say, start with a nonthreatening munch. If that whets appetites, try going to a play party together.

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RE: Newbie - 1/16/2013 3:49:41 AM

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MissBoston.... private me... We can have a chat. I think I have valuable experience in a dungeon. Will also introduce you to some men in Boston if You are from Boston...

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