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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: how can i find (1/18/2013 1:43:02 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
1. Show a real pic. One with skin tones. Ideally several pics, showing you doing things.
Yeh, unless your limitation is that you suffer with a rare case of Smurfism, the blue face isn't doing you any favours.
Profiles that always impress me go something like this:
Photos: One nice, smiling, clothed picture showing head and shoulders
One photo which shows your full body (still clothed!)
One or two photos in which you are engaging in a hobby (playing a musical instrument, doing sports, traveling, dressed up for a formal event, fixing your bike, baking... pretty much any hobby will do)
They should be recent, and actually look like you, but you at your best. Don't use a webcam or mirror shot as your first picture since they are rarely flattering and don't tell anything about your personality. And if you do use any indoor pictures, for gawds sake make sure the house is tidy! People are going to assume you are presenting yourself at your best - think job interview - so a scruffy house suggests this is always how you live. Likewise photos of ex partners are offputting, and penis shots will make people think you only care about getting off. Unless of course, you do only care about getting off, in which case, go for the penis shot, that makes it very clear.
Then text: nice and simple!
First paragraph: a little about you as a person. What qualities do you have (avoid 'very obedient' and 'good at oral sex') which make you a good catch? What hobbies do you have? If you want to mention what you do for a living, or a goal you are working towards, this is where it goes. This is where I'd also make a brief mention of whatever these limitations are - no need for details just a heads up so people who can't accept will move on.
Example: Hi, I'm Dave, a 35 year old computer programmer who loves adventure in my spare time. I'm very active and love rock climbing, sailing and camping out, but I also enjoy quiet nights in with a movie or a good book. I lost my left hand in an accident as a child but as you can see, it doesn't stop me trying new things.
Second paragraph: What sort of relationship you are looking for. 24/7? Fuck-buddies? Sub in the bedroom, equals out of it? If you have a specific interest, mention it here but don't be graphic or go on about it at great length. Again, you're just giving someone a heads-up about basic compatibility.
Example: I'm looking for a woman for a long-term relationship who likes to be dominant in the bedroom but equals outside of it. I'm interested in trying bondage and caning though I don't have much experience in this area, so I'd like to find someone who would enjoy experimenting with me. I would really like a lady that I can spoil and make her feel loved.
Third paragraph: Who you are looking for. Bearing in mind the more specific you are, the more chance of putting someone off, so try not to come up with a whole laundry list. Then again, if something is VERY important to you, mention it, better to put people off than to waste a lot of people's time.
Example: I'd like to meet someone aged between 30 and 40 who lives in my county. My ideal partner would enjoy sports and be willing to come traveling with me. I have two dogs that are very important to me so if you are not an animal lover we will probably not be compatible.
And then just tie it off with a simple 'Hope to hear from you' or 'Thanks for reading' or something like that.
Oh, and if you decide to use the checklist of interests, resist the urge to tick 'expert' at more than a couple of things.
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