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samdarella -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 12:58:33 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Maybe the FETfolk have less tolerance for 20 yo FinDommes. It doesn't make em trolls.

ResidentSadist here... using the slave's puter.


So are you saying that you think the hooker with a whip that has "an abundance of wishlists" and requires "weekly tribute" just wasn't taken seriously by the leather community FetLife? That's OK, the mods seem to let the hookers advertize here at CM now despite the lack of policy change. Don't get me wrong, there are few pro Dommes that have given back to the community they eek their living from. But the 20 year old noob "Findommes" are another story entirely.




LadyPact -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:01:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KickassUsername

I kind of agree. Fetlife is pretty weird, it's an online BDSM community that discourages dating. I hate it for that alone. It's like "Look at all these awesome people that live close to you! Don't try and meet any of them though." And, like any other site, the guy-girl ratio is like 20:1.
I don't think it discourages dating. I do think it encourages people to leave the house though.




samdarella -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:04:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: KickassUsername

I kind of agree. Fetlife is pretty weird, it's an online BDSM community that discourages dating. I hate it for that alone. It's like "Look at all these awesome people that live close to you! Don't try and meet any of them though." And, like any other site, the guy-girl ratio is like 20:1.
I don't think it discourages dating. I do think it encourages people to leave the house though.



I agree. It doesn't have the AFF find a date (or client) features. But it has social Facebook style software.

ETA: Oooooops. ResidentSadist here. The slave's puter won't log out of CM for some reason. Hmmmmmmmmmm?



TheLilSquaw -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:04:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Princess2846

Its the worst site I have ever used. People just spend the entire time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. I don't recommend it to anyone. Does everyone agree?



Nope, I don't agree at all.
I have NEVER been bashed on fetlife.
I find fetlife very useful when it comes to many things.

Finding local activities
Networking with models, photographers, producers, and other website owners
Finding locals into specific fetishes such as foot worship.

There are also MANY groups for pros and financial dominants.
So I dunno.
Perhaps it's just YOU OP.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:07:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: KickassUsername

I kind of agree. Fetlife is pretty weird, it's an online BDSM community that discourages dating. I hate it for that alone.



How does fetlife discourage dating?
I know many people who meet for casual play and LTRs on fet.



Delilya -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:12:37 PM)

I find Fet to be very useful for the things I need from it. Shrugs, different strokes.



mnottertail -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:18:18 PM)

Apparently it is useful for shopping for trolls, I mean it is that; right?



Kaliko -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:34:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Princess2846

Its the worst site I have ever used. People just spend the entire time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. I don't recommend it to anyone. Does everyone agree?



I wouldn't say it's the worst site I ever used. I don't dislike it. (Anymore.)

But...

Yes...there does seem to be a faction that spend their time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. In fact, there are whole groups dedicated to such activities.

Such is life. Schoolyard bullying and whispering behind people's backs doesn't get old for some. And their inability to recognize themselves in their own criticism is humorous.

Eh...just find out what groups they're in or what groups they run, and then avoid.



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:34:34 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Princess2846

Its the worst site I have ever used. People just spend the entire time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. I don't recommend it to anyone. Does everyone agree?


Translation: On FL if you upload a stolen picture as your icon and claim that you're drop dead gorgeous, somebody is likely to report you for the stolen picture and have it removed from your profile. Also, there's no good way to market being a "Findomme" there.



TwoHeartsBeatOne -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:35:31 PM)

@KickassUsername

I read your profile and it says that you are a masochist who seeks sexual play. That's great. You also state that you do not seek a D/s relationship. Again, you are being clear and that's great!

In D/s relationships, Trust must be built, or it's just kinkster play. Trust means becoming friends first. It involves patience, commitment and humility.

I think this may be why you think that Fet discourages dating. D/s means becoming friends first.

FetLife gives people many options in terms of labels so that those who wish to play, can say so. Those who wish to be D/s, can say so. There is even an option, "Unsure."

That would be my one suggestion for CM... to add more options for labels. It does help clarify.
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ORIGINAL: KickassUsername

I kind of agree. Fetlife is pretty weird, it's an online BDSM community that discourages dating. I hate it for that alone.




DaddySatyr -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:41:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Princess2846

Its the worst site I have ever used. People just spend the entire time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. I don't recommend it to anyone. Does everyone agree?


Which site are we talking about, again? I think this description would fir a few sites that I know of (minus the superlative, in the beginning, of course).

Hello? CCC? Are you listening?



Peace and comfort,



Michael



OsideGirl -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 1:46:20 PM)


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ORIGINAL: KickassUsername

I kind of agree. Fetlife is pretty weird, it's an online BDSM community that discourages dating.


So, do you hate Facebook because it discourages dating too? Because Fetlife is basically kinky Facebook.



graceadieu -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:10:28 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Focus50


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ORIGINAL: Princess2846

Its the worst site I have ever used. People just spend the entire time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. I don't recommend it to anyone. Does everyone agree?


I joined fetlife about 3 months back.

Dunno if I'd agree with your gripes but after years of using sites like CM, bondage and bdsm-online etc, I simply couldn't make head nor tail of what seems an overly convoluted and user-unfriendly format in comparison.

Put it down to me bein' old.... lol I haven't been back for at least 2 months - I voted with my feet.... lol

Focus.


I think the difference is that Fet is supposed to be a social networking site like Facebook, rather than a dating site like this or bondage.com (haven't used the other one you mentioned). So it's set up to connect you with people you know in real life (and people they know) and to local events, rather than to help you find somebody to date or play with. It is pretty much a pain to use it for the latter purpose.



littlewonder -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:16:33 PM)

No I don't agree.



graceadieu -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:17:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TheLilSquaw


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ORIGINAL: KickassUsername

I kind of agree. Fetlife is pretty weird, it's an online BDSM community that discourages dating. I hate it for that alone.



How does fetlife discourage dating?
I know many people who meet for casual play and LTRs on fet.


I have, too - in fact, we've dated a couple women we met on Fet - but it's definitely harder to use for that purpose than sites like this, because it doesn't let you sort people by gender, sexual orientation, or kink/Ds role. On the other hand, if you're looking at local folks, they probably know somebody that you know or have been to a munch or event you're familiar with, which makes it less likely they're a scammer or fake.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:25:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle


Also, there's no good way to market being a "Findomme" there.


Not true.
There are MANY groups dedicated to financial domination and those who participate in the kink.
Hell there are MANY groups for pros as awhole on fetlife.
There are also tons of people who participate in those groups.



TNDommeK -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:49:20 PM)

I still don't really know how to navigate FL, but I like it.



subspaceseven -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:58:40 PM)

I find this site to have more trolls, being on FL for a couple of years I have not received any requests for money,gift cards of people who demand I serve them online and send them a gift card

I'm here for the boards which I like better, but for meeting "real" people FL is better



EsotericLady -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 4:59:44 PM)

Trust me when I say that what you found on FetLife you will find on every, possible, personal website known to man on the Internet. So fasten your seatbelt dear, for it's going to be a bumpy ride!


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ORIGINAL: Princess2846

Its the worst site I have ever used. People just spend the entire time bashing others to make up for their own insecurities. I don't recommend it to anyone. Does everyone agree?




DarkSteven -> RE: FetLife is full of trolls (1/21/2013 5:15:30 PM)

Fetlife is a social network. It's not really set up for meeting for dating. So if that's what you want...

I dunno what you mean about trolls. Depends what you mean by "troll".



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