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yegg -> Avoiding the form letter in initial correspondence (11/8/2004 11:07:26 AM)
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I have a question for the submissives/slaves out there, particularly the females, since they're probably the ones who deal with this most. I see a lot of profiles of female submissives that say something along the lines of "if you can't be more creative than to send me a form letter, don't message me." However, I am having a hard time trying to figure out how to write a letter that wouldn't be considered a form letter, when there aren't any personal details or information in the woman's profile.
Let me start by saying, I do not use a form letter. However, I will concede that most of my letters probably look a lot alike, especially when there is no personal info in the profile. I know the obvious answer is to simply not waste my time writing to someone who can't be bothered to write a decent profile. However, I feel that by doing that, I'm missing the opportunity to meet someone who might be compatible with what I'm looking for.
Another concern in writing that first letter is that writing a 2 or 3 page letter to a complete stranger telling her all about myself seems like overkill and silliness. My gut feeling is that an initial email should maybe be a paragraph, basically inviting the person to take a look at my profile and tell me if they're interested, and offering to send a picture to them if they're interested. If they have something truly unique in their profile I make an effort to comment on it, or ask them a question about it. If there's something that really strikes me about their picture I will include a compliment about that feature, without going overboard.
I am never rude in my initial emails, nor do I use the "on your knees now, bitch" style, as that just seems way too presumptuous to me. I do read profiles, and don't send messages to women who have specific qualities they're looking for, if I don't possess those qualities. I don't send messages seeking relationships to women who already have relationships, or to women who are looking for other women (I'm male). I don't send emails to women out of the area I'm in, unless they have some indication in their profile they would relocate.
Despite my efforts though, it just seems that I often times end up just getting the cold shoulder treatment. Email is simply read and never responded to, or worse yet, simply deleted, unread. I know I don't have a picture in my profile due to career concerns, which may account for some of the lack of response. I realize that a new female profile here may get 150-200 emails initially which simply boggles my mind. How do I make my message stand out from the crowd of idiots, HNGs, abusers and fakes? How do you custom tailor a message to someone who doesn't give you any unique material to work with?
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