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RE: How much respect is necessary? - 2/2/2013 5:17:22 PM

sexyred1

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The kid thing is huge. You cannot negotiate wanting kids.

Politics I can deal with as long as everyone listens to the opinions of the the other person. You do not have to agree on that. I don't find it disrespectful to have different political views, unless he keeps saying , You are an idiot for thinking that way.

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RE: How much respect is necessary? - 2/2/2013 6:47:57 PM

LafayetteLady

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Which is what I interpret "you need to be schooled" is.

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RE: How much respect is necessary? - 2/2/2013 7:16:03 PM

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Differing opinions can be healthy and stimulating in a relationship but only if there is a core respect for each other under pinning the relationship.

On the politics front you clearly differ, not an insurmountable object on its own, but both your standpoints raise alarm bells. Why do you think he is "just a party hack" and why does he think you "need to be schooled"? Both these extracts tell me that you have little respect for each others view.

The kids issue doesn't need any clarification, you are worlds apart.

If you are feeling that things you would look for in a vanilla relationship are missing, why would you be willing to overlook them for the sake of a little kink?

Can you have a successful relationship? I suppose that depends what sort of relationship you both want. Casual, with a bit of kink thrown in, sure it could work, something more in depth, I'm not so sure.

Good luck to you both though.

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RE: How much respect is necessary? - 2/15/2013 4:37:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedTex

I'm pretty new to the Lifestyle. I have a Daddy that I like quite a bit. Sexually we are very compatible and I respect his knowledge, experience, and dominance completely in that area. But so many of the things that would be important in a vanilla relationship we are just not on the same page about. (Ex: He "may" still want kids; I'm definitely through having kids!) And some of those things, we are so far off that I find myself unable to respect him in those areas. (Ex: Politics. Very important to both of us, but to me he is just a party hack and to him I need to be schooled.)
So, my question is how much respect is necessary between a sub and her Dom? Can we have a successful relationship if I don't respect him in all areas?
TIA

To me it depends on the nature of the relationship.
If it's that rarest of rare thing, that mythical creature, much discussed, almost never seen, a real true straight-up, no emotion involved TPE, then whether she respects me matters not a whit. The only thing that matters is whether or not she obeys.
But, like I said, those tend to be about 1 in a 100.
If you want something with emotional connection, yeah, for this cat there has to be respect, on both sides.
Because fuck, how can I trust someone if I don't respect them?

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