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TheLilSquaw -> RE: Serving from affection (1/25/2013 6:24:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ForeverGaia My question for you TheLilSquaw is - if he asks, do you feel obligated to do a task, even if you don't like the act itself? Gaia. He has flat out told me. Don't do shit I ask you because you feel like it's your JOB or you feel obligated to. He's flat out said, if you don't want to do it because either you want to do it or it's me asking asking don't do it. Tell me no. Does he ask me to do things I don't like or enjoy. Or things I simply wouldn't do otherwise. Yes, sometimes. But I do them because it's him asking. I do them because I love I him and I know he puts 50-70 hours a week in. So if I can do something to make his day easier I eat that up like it's chocolate covered bacon. I do them because I feel honored that he asked me because he doesn't ask people to do shit for him. I do them because at the end of the day, I will always always have his back. Not because I am obligated to but because of my devotion to him. I hope that answered your question. ETA: We do have a power exchange, but we are not an M/s couple. He is the dominant in our relationship and very much the one in charge.

littlewonder -> RE: Serving from affection (1/25/2013 2:11:54 PM)
Master has me do things for him quite often that he knows I hate. He does it because he likes to see me do things for him that he knows I'm doing purely for submission, to serve him because I am his slave. He also likes that it gets him off. It doesn't matter if it's sexual or non-sexual. Plus sometimes it's just something that has to be done and why should he do it?

ForeverGaia -> RE: Serving from affection (1/25/2013 2:50:23 PM)
Thank you all for your answers, it's given me much food for thought. My Master is similar to yours little wonder with regard to doing things for him that he knows I'm doing purely for submission. Gaia.

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Serving from affection (1/25/2013 5:03:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 I am not a slave but I am in a long term committed relationship. He works as a general contractor. This week he has been outside all day every day we live in Maine it's ridiculously cold, he does it for us. Does he love it? Hardly. I wake up at 6 and bring him coffee, lay out his clothes and pack his lunch. While he showers I start his truck so it's warm when he gets in it. This is I guess serving from affection but it's more respect to me. Just as he takes the garbage to the dump for me, changes the oil in my truck, and all those other things that are so not BDSM related but reinforce our love for each other. He comes home absolutely freezing to a hot meal and usually a massage and some quiet time til he is ready to talk. A lot of what we do it mutual respect and stems from being together forever and knowing what we need from each other. You are a lucky woman to feel like that about someone.

DesFIP -> RE: Serving from affection (1/26/2013 4:47:46 PM)
I'm a mother. I don't think I thought about affection when doing my kids' laundry. I don't think about it when doing his. It's just something that needs to be done in order for us to thrive. However, he's not a sadist so he isn't going to make me do something I hate or have problems with. That's not something that would work for me. Nor does make work, done for no reason but to see how subby I was. That just makes me lose respect for the person.

samdarella -> RE: Serving from affection (1/26/2013 5:47:33 PM)
I really wish I had reached that state of nirvana where serving is bliss no matter the task. I love Master every day all day. And I am blessed that He allows me to be the one that serves Him. But there are times I grumble about the task. But I do it bc as some have said, Im his slave and must obey or bc it needs to be done and I'm the slave. It used to really bother me that I wasn't always happy about the task at hand. I felt a lot better about it after attending a workshop last weekend at our local dungeon. Raven Kaldera and his boy Joshua were the speakers. (if you ever get the chance to attend one of their seminars they are fantastic presenters. Very engaging. ). Anyway, this slave in a leather based TPE relationship has some of the same thoughts and feelings about service. Sometimes you just do it bc He said so. Don't have to like it just have to do it. And sometimes Master likes it that way. Would I be proving my submission if I enjoyed every thing He had me do? It's a bonus and not a requirement for me to enjoy doing it. I do strive to reach a place in my head that I could be happy all the time no matter what I'm doing for Master. But I'm not there yet. That's the journey.

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