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how come so many people ask for at least a no thank you, - 1/24/2013 5:49:02 PM

warmsnuggles

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and then turn around and try to tear you a new one when you give it to them? i know the internet doesn't have a rep for being the nicest place in the world (though this really is a great place to go after too much internet), and i don't let it get to me too much. i just wonder why theres so much hostility?

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 5:59:31 PM

CountZer0

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Oh boy, I wish I got the no thank you! That would be nicer than the silent treatment ;)

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 6:02:01 PM

littlewonder

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This is why no one gives a "no thank you" anymore. It's not worth the hassles of the responses from that.

It's common. Just don't give any response at all next time. Delete, move on.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 6:12:22 PM

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From another relative newbie...welcome!

Honestly, people just want to complain. If you don't read their message, they'll complain about people not even bothering to read it when somebody puts effort into writing a message. If you read their message, but don't reply, they'll complain about it being rude to ignore people. If you reply that you're not interested, they'll complain about you not wanting somebody of as high a caliber as they clearly are.

If you want to reply to those who send you a message that they clearly put some thought into, even if it's that you're not interested, that's not a problem. There are lots of guys who appreciate that, too. But you're going to get some rude responses...just ignore them and move on.

Or, alternatively, you can just not reply unless you're interested. Most people learn to take no reply as a reply...not that everybody is so well-adjusted. In short, don't expect civility on the internet, no matter what you do.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 6:37:37 PM

lizi

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And the nasty response is exactly why women don't really respond to say no thanks. We have thread after thread where a man will decry the decline of "common courtesy" because he doesn't get any response to his email. They don't understand the abuse that is leveled at women who dare to turn men down.

My best suggestion is to say no thanks if you feel like it, but dont feel obligated. It is NOT a sign that you are unmannerly to ignore an email from someone. They'll just have to get over it. The hostility comes from being rejected I believe. Which people should expect, not every person they write to will be exactly perfect for them, you'd think that an adult should understand that. I think too that kink plays into it; men believe that kinky women are easy so when they get turned down by the "sluts", it stings a little.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 6:37:41 PM

warmsnuggles

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quote:

In short, don't expect civility on the internet, no matter what you do.

haha, excellent advice. they should start engraving that above the screen on every monitor they sell.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 6:45:05 PM

warmsnuggles

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yeah, i can see rejection having a little sting to it. but even so, being rejected online is like rejection-lite. its the watered down version even a scaredy-cat like me can handle.

or at least i thought i was an overly sensitive scaredy-cat. until now lol

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 6:46:00 PM

TheLilSquaw

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My silence is my no thank you.
I used to send out thanks but no thanks emails when I 1st joined CollarMe years ago.
I learned quickly that far to many people can't stand rejection.

The reality is I am not obligated to do anything but be Cherokee and die.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 7:28:06 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: warmsnuggles

and then turn around and try to tear you a new one when you give it to them? i know the internet doesn't have a rep for being the nicest place in the world (though this really is a great place to go after too much internet), and i don't let it get to me too much. i just wonder why theres so much hostility?

Fuck you.

(And I mean that in the nicest of ways).

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 7:49:50 PM

DomMeinCT

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You can't possibly meet the expectations of every stranger who contacts you and with whom you don't wish to begin a conversation.
The only expectations you have to meet are YOURS.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 9:33:32 PM

TAFKAA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: warmsnuggles

i know the internet doesn't have a rep for being the nicest place in the world (though this really is a great place to go after too much internet)

*snarls* Must.... resist.... warm... fuzzy... vibes... from.... weirdo... internet.... hug... site.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/24/2013 10:49:26 PM

warmsnuggles

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omg its weird right? i thought it was creepy until i got about six hugs into it then i just went awww

quote:

ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

*snarls* Must.... resist.... warm... fuzzy... vibes... from.... weirdo... internet.... hug... site.

oh and a warm fuck you to you too, LookieNoNookie

< Message edited by warmsnuggles -- 1/24/2013 10:53:41 PM >

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/25/2013 10:01:35 AM

needlesandpins

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oh it's fantastic when your profile says that you are not looking so don't bother asking because the answer is no, no matter how fantastic you think you are. so, they still think they are the most amazing thing on the planet, they invade my inbox with their self centred drivel, and then when i say no i get the 'get over yourself you fucking jumped up bitch' line. this often comes from a sub/slave that certainly doesn't like it pointed out to them that a) the answer is NO just as in my profile which b) they either couldn't be bothered to read, or c) did but are so disrespectful that they can't follow a symple instruction. so why the fuck would i want anyone that doesn't respect my wany right from the outset? that little thing there seems to be totally lost on them.

no matter what you do you can not win. so they are just best ignored.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/25/2013 3:36:05 PM

Killerangel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

oh it's fantastic when your profile says that you are not looking so don't bother asking because the answer is no, no matter how fantastic you think you are. so, they still think they are the most amazing thing on the planet, they invade my inbox with their self centred drivel, and then when i say no i get the 'get over yourself you fucking jumped up bitch' line. this often comes from a sub/slave that certainly doesn't like it pointed out to them that a) the answer is NO just as in my profile which b) they either couldn't be bothered to read, or c) did but are so disrespectful that they can't follow a symple instruction. so why the fuck would i want anyone that doesn't respect my wany right from the outset? that little thing there seems to be totally lost on them.

no matter what you do you can not win. so they are just best ignored.

needles

You can never win because even if the profile says you aren't looking, some entitled idiot full of rage will write and say you have no right be on this site and not be looking for a partner. I mean how dare you? There's a whole contingent of guys out there that get borderline psychotic when they run across a female profile that is taken by another, they don't see that you have a right to have a profile unless you are using the site to hookup or date.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/25/2013 3:45:26 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: warmsnuggles

and then turn around and try to tear you a new one when you give it to them? i know the internet doesn't have a rep for being the nicest place in the world (though this really is a great place to go after too much internet), and i don't let it get to me too much. i just wonder why theres so much hostility?

Because, as Miss Manners says..."Please and no thank you" are the polite thing to do.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/25/2013 3:59:23 PM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Killerangel
You can never win because even if the profile says you aren't looking, some entitled idiot full of rage will write and say you have no right be on this site and not be looking for a partner. I mean how dare you? There's a whole contingent of guys out there that get borderline psychotic when they run across a female profile that is taken by another, they don't see that you have a right to have a profile unless you are using the site to hookup or date.

That's why my profile says that I'm just here for the forums. It cut the hate mail in half. Adding Master's picture to my profile has reduced that even more.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/25/2013 5:30:10 PM

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FR

The quality of my c-mail has gone up since I stopped looking for anything but friends. No more "let me pee on you", "nice tits", or "can I lick the bottom of your shoes and be your foot stool"! Thank Jesus.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/25/2013 6:09:15 PM

littlewonder

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The only time I ever get mail anymore is when Master decides to have fun and torment me by changing my profile. hrmph. ggrrr

evil, evil man!

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/27/2013 4:29:55 AM

absolutchocolat

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Ah, the adventures of Kana and the little one. Lol.

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RE: how come so many people ask for at least a no thank... - 1/27/2013 4:39:34 AM

Aileen1968

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I like the ones that call you fat and ugly after you send a thank you, but no.
And then they block you so they can't read the response of "hahahahaha"

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