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Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 3:55:13 PM   
spideycool69


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Status: offline 		Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.
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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 4:07:21 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Well duh, if she didn't know you were taking on more Mistresses then of course she'd feel betrayed. Obviously people who have more than one Mistress are out there, and the decent thing to do would be to make sure everyone is apprised of the situation.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 4:12:05 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		I can't answer for anyone else. But who's mine is MINE. I don't want him serving another in a full D/s dynamic. I have no problem with letting my sub play with another Domme, say, getting flogged or spanked by her. I have a Domme friend who lets me spank her sub because I only see mine a few times a year and that's very gracious of her. But I don't want my sub actually serving or belonging to another as well as to me. I can certainly understand why she disowned you.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 5:01:25 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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Status: offline 		There are no hard and fast rules that apply to every relationship with the single exception, "Be Honest". I've known slaves who had more than one dom, doms who had more than one slave, switches who had more than one of each and polys who had more than one polyp... err ignore that last.

It's like cheating in a marriage. Cheating isn't having sex with somebody other than your spouse. Cheating is sneaking around, trying to keep it secret, lying about it. Ever heard of an open marriage? In an open marriage, each spouse is allowed to have sex with other people. What's not allowed is deceiving each other about it. There are open dom/sub relationships too. They're fine, as long as they're honestly negotiated and played by the rules agreed on.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 5:08:23 PM   
Baroana


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Status: offline 		Sounds like you were never hers to disown.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 5:12:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		They are IF their Mistress approves. If she was kept in the dark, then, yeah, expect to get kicked to the curb.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 5:47:38 PM   
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Sounds like you were never hers to disown.


This and what NBMG said.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 6:20:07 PM   
seekingOwnertoo


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ORIGINAL: spideycool69

Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.



ROFL .... apparently, you are unaware of the traditional definition of slave!


Means .. you are OWNED property! You don't get choices! You belong to someone other than yourself.

Get the impression, that is not you.

So why be concerned about slaves rights? Thought Abraham Lincoln took care of that~ At least in the movie!

If you call yourself a slave, you can ONLY serve one Master/Mistress? No? Thought i read that in some book.

Okay, so here is the real deal ...

a relationship is exactly that ... you are either in one ... or your not.

Seems like you were not in one, rather just playing the field.

you were dating someone, with kinky tastes, then she wanted more. (assuming you were honest)

Same way it works in vanilla.

And like Outback Steakhouse ... NO RULES!



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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 9:18:10 PM   
MistressSara7


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Status: offline 		Not all Mistresses are alike and into the same things, that is why it is important to find a D/s relationship where you two are compatible for each other. I would not want a slave that belongs to other owners. To do so and not disclose such information to all parties would be very dishonest and disrespectful of you.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 9:52:53 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		You cheated.

Why did you think this relationship is any different from a normal relationship?

Unless it was a prodomme situation? If so, then I'd say it's the prodomme who went too far. It was none of her business what you do after your session with her.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/25/2013 10:49:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

You cheated.

Why did you think this relationship is any different from a normal relationship?

Where's that button to highlight a post in flashing neon text when you need it?



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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/26/2013 5:11:17 AM   
SadisticMs2


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ORIGINAL: spideycool69

Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.



You know the cool thing about the message boards? You're going to message a Domme on the other side at some point, and she's going to pull up your messages on here to see what you've been chatting about.

She's then going to read this thread you started here......and you'll finally be of service to a Domme by letting her know NOT to waste her time.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/26/2013 8:00:45 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

You cheated.

Why did you think this relationship is any different from a normal relationship?

Unless it was a prodomme situation? If so, then I'd say it's the prodomme who went too far. It was none of her business what you do after your session with her.


This.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/27/2013 8:24:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: spideycool69

Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.


It's perfectly fine, but you have to live in a "Right to Mistress" state.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/27/2013 2:29:34 PM   
wannapleez


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Status: offline 		Well, spidey, you've gotten your answer -- a definite maybe. ;-)

Seriously, though, the responses have run from "hell no" to "yes" to "it depends". Which tells you -- there is no definitive answer.

Until someone sits down and writes a rule book about BDSM and every last person in the lifestyle signs on to every word in that book, there will never be a "is this permissible?" type of question with an absolute answer. I'm not saying your question is invalid -- several people have chimed in with valuable thoughts on the subject.

Case in point: IMHO, HarryVanWinkle's advice to "be honest" is more accurate and hard-n-fast than any answer you could hope to get.

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/27/2013 4:52:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: spideycool69

Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.



Well duh ! Isn`t having two Mistresses cheating, much like having two girlfriends (as well as a tad greedy)

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/28/2013 10:34:05 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: spideycool69

Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.

Same reason one of mine ended up on the curb. Funny thing about dominants is we don't share our toys well. Just deceptive emails to another domme signaled the demise of trust.

Other than little brain thinking, why would you believe this is ok?

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/29/2013 6:08:54 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		I remember one time a sub(in my local community) on Fetlife wanted to "get to know me better" and get involved w/ me. Of course the first thing I did was check his profile when I got his letter.....and write to the Domme who was listed on his profile. She was PISSED that he did that and thanked me that I told her what he was up to. I don't mind sharing my sub sometimes for play, but him actually submitting to someone else? Umm, NO. That is NOT going to go over well and he would be history. I only thought it right to let her know what he was up to and find out first how she felt about it. So there was no way I was going to touch that!!

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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/29/2013 7:46:44 PM   
ServiceBoy89


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Status: offline 		I belive that one mistress if she is not that hardcore need one slave.
But if she is from the supreme BDSM lifetype she will need more.
1-sex slave
1-housework sissy slave(cleaning and cooking)
1-toilet slave
1-Shopping slave
1-Mashohist slave
they are all her money slaves

P.S If I enconter second type I won't survive they are monsters...


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RE: Are slaves allowed to have more than one Mistress? - 1/29/2013 8:16:25 PM   
TheLilSquaw


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ORIGINAL: spideycool69

Well, one former Mistress got mad and disowned me when She found out that I was serving another Mistress too.



I am poly, but what you did wasn't poly it was cheating.
You took your former owner's right to consent away from her.
Which you did NOT have a right to do.
I would have kicked your ass to curb too.
If I can't trust you, you won't be in my inner circle yet alone in a personal relationship of any kind with me.

Now can a sub/slave serve two Dom/mes?
Yes, it happens all the time and works for everyone involved when they communicate openly and honestly with each other.

The reality is any dynamics can happen if everyone involved agrees and works at it.

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