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How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocatively kinky CM profile PRIOR to responding?


I spend NO TIME evaluating provocative profiles before contacting them
  8% (5)
I spend SECONDS evaluating provocative profiles before contacting them
  21% (12)
I spend MINUTES evaluating provocative profiles before contacting them
  69% (39)


Total Votes : 56
(last vote on : 5/20/2016 12:53:08 PM)
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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/14/2016 9:24:38 AM   
Lookin4Lace


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Status: offline 		Hello all, I normally don't chime in on message boards but this topic came up while i perusing another topic and figured it might be worth investing my time in reading, after much reading of both sides those that do and those that don't, the know how-to's and the ones who don't care to, I felt it was about time i got off my duff and posted, so here are my thoughts on the topic\

In this day and age there is something to be said for taking the time to know someone before meeting with them, granted we are all consenting adults here, but in reality IMO, it just makes sense.

when i am approached by a potential candidate, i observe how they handle themselves, I look at their profile, read their journal entries, view their pics, and ofcourse i check here as well, however i have found that even those that are being truthful can also be fake as well, not on this website as of yet, but one i was in about a month ago seemed perfect and met my needs everything i listed above checked out and her and I started talking via exchanged cell numbers, and then on a whim she asked me to install Skype so that i could get an actual visual of her, now I'm looking for LTR and i thought that would of been covered when we met however that's when i thought to myself this would be a good time to do a backwards IP scan, for me this is nothing more then a little hobby of mine but when i found that her IP originated from mainland China, that is when i just cut to the chase and asked her about it, and she verified that she was indeed living in China and not 7 miles away from me.

This may not be uncommon but for my lifestyle and who I am, it works for me its not paranoia it is just being cautious and informed

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/15/2016 5:20:22 AM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		one of the things I have done as a slave in relationships is housework. I'm tired of people assuming I'm a slave in order to get laid.

as for the question I don't contact people, I sent a pm to someone once here complimenting them on something they said but no reply.

I tend to ignore the pm's sent to me that mention anything to do with sex. However I am conversing with some gentlemen who knows nothing about BDSM is interested in getting sex but at the same time is interested in hearing my take on BDSM.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/15/2016 7:06:10 AM   
DaddySatyr


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The poll doesn't contain an answer that I can select.

The truth is: I almost never respond to any profile for the purposes of investigating the potential for a relationship.

I have been known to respond to a journal - or even forum - post, but I am not usually the one who is going to make first contact, based upon a profile.



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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/15/2016 5:38:26 PM   
Awareness


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Status: offline 		Fakes are astonishingly obvious for a few reasons. I'm not going to mention why they're obvious, because I want them to keep making those mistakes. Provocative profiles are generally fake.

When I was single, those that were clearly not fake got evaluated for emotional stability. Whining, lists of things they wanted, complaints about the opposite sex were all red flags.

It doesn't take long. I can spot a nutbag within a sentence or two.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/15/2016 6:43:02 PM   
DocStrange


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Status: offline 		I do not spend anytime investigating profiles. Obvious fakes are rather easy to spot. And even if you cannot see the fakes upfront, it is always glaringly obvious within a few emails. Take that with a grain of salt as I have not been actively searching profile for a couple years now. But it did apply when I did.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/16/2016 12:08:10 PM   
Wayward5oul


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Sorry, Snitch, your writing and outlook regarding fake profiles doesn't strike me as feminine. You seem to be a sock for a man, who has decided to hide behind a fake profile. Why?

Sometimes I wonder the same thing. Other times I'm not so sure.

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/16/2016 5:58:40 PM   
HoneyBears


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Necro thread over 3 years old ...

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/17/2016 11:58:47 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		Sorry, Snitch, your writing and outlook regarding fake profiles doesn't strike me as feminine. You seem to be a sock for a man, who has decided to hide behind a fake profile. Why? Well spotted you.DarkSteven- I cannot fight this fight forever.

A few seconds i can always tell, but only 99% of the time :)

And whilst I am on this one did I really hit send/post with that poll the other day you know who you are direct me to it I will retract it you did not deserve that from me

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/17/2016 6:49:09 PM   
Greta75


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Status: offline 		I always read profiles prior to responding. How much time, I don't know. A few minutes?

I mean, if the message was crap, it gets deleted. But if the message interest me, I will read his profile, and my response will include a question I have for him base on his profile.

But if it's someone from the forum, then I can't be bothered, because ya know, forum folks, you already know them and their personality, and quite a bit about them from the forums. I somehow never look at profiles of people from this forum. And I can reply them as I am probably corresponding with them on the forum itself already anyway!

< Message edited by Greta75 -- 5/17/2016 6:50:49 PM >

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RE: How much energy do you invest evaluating a provocat... - 5/17/2016 7:07:09 PM   
ThatDizzyChick


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quote:

And whilst I am on this one did I really hit send/post with that poll the other day

Why yes, yes you really did.
quote:

you know who you are direct me to it I will retract it

Can't, it was deleted.

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