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Owner wants to try butt plug - 1/29/2013 11:47:07 PM   
JessN


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Status: offline 		My Owner/Husband wants to try this, he thinks it would look attractive which I do not disagree with him at all. Now we've both agreed to go with smaller sizes before working up to the big ones but I want somebodies opinion. Do you think they are attractive? I won't wear them long term by any means, but how long would it take to get used to?

Oh and a little announcement, my Owner has also agreed that in two weeks I'll get my nipples pierced too which I'm so excited about.

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 1/30/2013 7:33:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		If *you* and *your owner* find the idea of you wearing a butt plug attractive, why do you care what *I* or *anyone else* thinks of it?

Experiences will vary. Some people make anal play sound like something you must take weeks, perhaps even months prepping for. I took one afternoon to progress from virgin bum to being bum fucked. We didn't rush by any means ... The pace was comfortable for me and I didn't suffer any ill effects from it. It may take longer for you.

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 1/30/2013 10:48:43 AM   
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No I don't think they are particularly attractive, but that doesn't matter as long as you guys are having fun.

It depends what you mean by 'get used to it'. I never feel particularly comfortable wearing them so I wouldn't say I ever got used to it. But like rhymeswithcupid, it didn't take long to be able to have anal sex comfortably. I do think anal sex is a very variable thing - some people find anal sex yummy and lovely, others never find it pleasant no matter what. So you might never get up to a big size, or you might not need the smaller size.

Just the obvious things to think of - no sharing, use proper toys for safety and I'd probably avoid wearing them for long stretches for hygiene reasons. And if you're planning on wearing them whilst going about your day, the smallest size are easiest to get in and easiest to fall out. Bear that in mind.

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 2/6/2013 5:21:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't mean to hi-jack your thread, but it's a sort of related question ?

I've been experimenting with a silicone plug, but find it keeps coming out. I've rigged up a harness to keep it in, but it needs to be quite tight. A Mistress has told me that it's MY fault that it comes up and I just need to learn to squeeze and hold on to it harder. Another sissy I know has told me that I just need to get a bigger plug.
I want the plug to be uncomfortable so I'm reminded it's there, but also want to be able to wear a light summery dress and skimpy knickers while 'plugged'. Has anyone got any suggestions ? Do I need one with a longer neck so it can go in further, like the metal ones with the glass "Jewel" on the stem ? or ?

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 2/6/2013 5:37:09 AM   
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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 2/7/2013 4:21:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: pamelacdnz

I don't mean to hi-jack your thread, but it's a sort of related question ?

I've been experimenting with a silicone plug, but find it keeps coming out. I've rigged up a harness to keep it in, but it needs to be quite tight. A Mistress has told me that it's MY fault that it comes up and I just need to learn to squeeze and hold on to it harder. Another sissy I know has told me that I just need to get a bigger plug.
I want the plug to be uncomfortable so I'm reminded it's there, but also want to be able to wear a light summery dress and skimpy knickers while 'plugged'. Has anyone got any suggestions ? Do I need one with a longer neck so it can go in further, like the metal ones with the glass "Jewel" on the stem ? or ?


Without seeing what you've got and what you're doing (and please, don't show me) it's hard to say. A very slender plug will work its way out - that's what this part of your body does best. You might need one with a slightly longer 'neck' part. You want the widest part to be far enough inside that the two sphincters are tightening around the narrowest part, and then a base which flares out to prevent any unfortunate accidents. If there isn't much difference between the widest and narrowest points, there's not much to hold on to no matter how hard you clench. Equally if the narrow part isn't very narrow or it fits badly so your sphincter rests on the bulbous part your sphincter can't tighten very much and it might come out.

The size of the base is what will determine whether it can be seen under your dress - you can get smaller bases on larger plugs and vice-versa. As long as you can get it back out again the base is doing its job so personal preference.

You might be best investing in one of the 'anal training' or beginner's variety sets which most sex shops do, then you can figure out which suits you best.

Oh also - I don't know what length of time you are discussing here, but eventually like any other muscle you will reach the point where it is too tired to clench any more, so just squeezing to hold it in is probably not going to work if you're looking for longer than ten minutes.

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 2/11/2013 12:11:36 PM   
GoddessBych21


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Status: offline 		I love wearing mine it doesnti have a very long "neck" peice but I've never had a problem with it slipping out. Like they said maybe you just need a longer "neck" peice or the bottom right before the "neck" to be thicker. I don't think it will be a problem of seeing it under your dress. Mine has a big base and I can wear it undetected with tight jeans and no panties.


I love anal sex and anal play. If I may ask a question without stealing away from the OP I do anal about 2-3 times a week but everytime we do it It hurts at the very beginning. Is that normal? Or is there a way to be able to do it and get right to doing it without pausing for pain or starting slow to keep from pain ?

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 2/12/2013 3:51:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am not a doctor so take my opinions with a big pinch of salt.

You just have to know your body. For me there is two kinds of pain - 'ordinary' pain, and 'holy shit something is wrong' pain. Example - if I go running and work hard, my legs ache, my feet get sore, the muscles hurt on the uphill sections - this is ordinary pain that means I am pushing myself but won't come to any harm. If I go running and feel a sudden stabbing twingy pain in my knees, thats 'something is wrong' pain and means I need to stop and do something about it. You need to listen to your own body.

For me it's always painful in the beginning and feels better after a minute or two. There shouldn't be tearing pain and it shouldn't be agony. Beyond that it's down to you to know what is normal and safe for you, and to keep an eye on your body afterwards so you know when you have gone too far.

I don't think the majority of people can just jump in and go right at anal sex without some pain, even if they have been doing it for a while. Porn has created a myth that anyone can take a huge object up the rear without preparation or lube - but remember you don't see the part where they prepare off camera, or pre-insert the lube, or the bit where they had to stop and start over because it wasn't working. For a lot of people it is not a realistic goal.

Remember this part of your body does not self lubricate and is not designed for a penis, so it is not a sign of weakness to take your time and use lube and generally take care of yourself. There may be some other people who need less prep, but so what? It's not a competition and it is not worth hurting yourself over. Remember also that everyone's anatomy is different. Because it's tucked away we can't see the differences but just like boobs or feet or penises, everyone's butt is a bit different. You may never do it without discomfort, it might just be the way you are.

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 2/12/2013 5:55:53 AM   
GoddessBych21


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Status: offline 		Its o.ly painful for a minute or two then its comfortable. So I guess I'm doing it right lol thank you for your help I realy appreciate it

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 3/4/2013 7:40:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I dont want to jack the thread either, but was wondering if any of you have some techniques for long time plug wearing? Im new to anal play so my plug is small but I do enjoy it. I enjoy wearing it for long periods, but when I sit down at all I still have the urge to push it out, do you get past that and just accept it? Any techniques or ideas would be good to know! Thanks! :D

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 3/4/2013 10:03:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: JessN
Oh and a little announcement, my Owner has also agreed that in two weeks I'll get my nipples pierced too which I'm so excited about.

They're one of the slower healing piercing and you'll need to take care of them. Be sure to go to an experienced piercer and treat them right afterward.


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ORIGINAL: JessN
My Owner/Husband wants to try this, he thinks it would look attractive which I do not disagree with him at all. Now we've both agreed to go with smaller sizes before working up to the big ones but I want somebodies opinion. Do you think they are attractive? I won't wear them long term by any means, but how long would it take to get used to?


I don't think there's anything particularly attractive looking about the average butt plug but that some of them can be quite artistic or rather cute. That said, I don't think he's talking about that, I expect he means that butt plug play pushes his buttons fetish-wise. Some people on here will share that fetish some won't, but that doesn't matter so long as he finds it attractive and you enjoy it.

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ORIGINAL: JessN
how long would it take to get used to?

Start small and use lube. As long as you aren't allergic to silicone lube and it's compatible with the toy it's the thing to use. As for how long it takes to get used to that depends on how big and how long you plan to wear it. A 3/4 inch well lubed plug should go right up there and be fine short term though you may find you enjoy it more after a few times when you get used to processing the sensation.


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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 3/4/2013 10:15:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: hollycheer91
I dont want to jack the thread either, but was wondering if any of you have some techniques for long time plug wearing? Im new to anal play so my plug is small but I do enjoy it. I enjoy wearing it for long periods, but when I sit down at all I still have the urge to push it out, do you get past that and just accept it? Any techniques or ideas would be good to know! Thanks! :D


I'd say the biggest thing is to start with the right plug for the job. If you're trying to use a toy in a way that it was never designed to be then you'll have a real uphill battle. You'll be better off with a plug designed with long term wear in mind: http://www.mr-s-leather.com/D259/world-s-most-comfortable-butt-plug.html

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 3/6/2013 5:06:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		It probably varies by person how hard it is to keep stuff in. I personally tend to push anything out (I imagine a plug like gotsteel would be very easy to keep in though). You could look into getting a belt/harness or special panties to hold stuff in if your interested in wearing it for a time without having to worry about pushing it out.

I think they can look very good (there's all kinds of jewelry ones). Take it very slow in my opinion especially if the one putting it in doesn't have a lot of experience doing so. Might be easier to do it yourself at first to get used to anal; it's a lot easier when you're at the helm.

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 3/6/2013 5:44:16 PM   
hollycheer91


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Status: offline 		I do think the anal jewelry ones are super cute! Lol. But I am fairly new to anal, so I am starting small :)

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RE: Owner wants to try butt plug - 3/27/2013 4:19:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Go to meo.de & check their butt plugs out.

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