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ShaharThorne -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/27/2013 5:57:50 PM)

Still burning candles for you, my great aunt and now my mother...Mom is seeing the surgeon on the 6th about that lump...ultrasound shows a mass while the ct scan does not...could be a fatty lump.



dcnovice -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 4:18:43 PM)

Thanks to you all!

There was a knock at the door a few minutes ago. It turned out to be a neighbor, surprising me with dinner. I was so moved, tears welled up in my eyes. One blessing of all my medical adventures has been a deeper appreciation of what awesome people fill my life.



msj2u -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 4:39:54 PM)

Hello dcnovice,

I've read this thread and I'm amazed how strong you are! May the thoughts, prayers and candles from your friends help you daily.

Adding My thoughts and prayers along with lighting a candle that each day is better than the last.


MSJ


I'm the One your mother didn't warn you about



dcnovice -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 7:37:59 PM)

Just need to vent for a sec. I don't want to do it in my email updates because the folks I'm griping about will see it.

My cousin--loving but naggy--came by today with some "meals on heels." I really do appreciate that, but not her trying to case-manage me. The piece de resistance was her noting that my landlord needs to fix a few tiles in my bathroom. That's true, but all I could think was

Seriously?

I've got a supersize tumor in my ass that's trying to kill me. And removing it may mean a colostomy bag for the rest of my life.

Once that's tackled, I have a lymphoma that needs to be addressed.

Meantime, I'm healing from neck surgery and wondering if I'll ever walk again without a cane.

And you think I should be focused on a shower flaw that I've lived with just fine for years now?

Needless to say, I didn't say that aloud.

Then had a long, tedious conversation with my therapist aunt, who wants "direction" on how to help me. All I could think of was How 'bout not making my cancer all about you? Didn't say that either, of course.




dcnovice -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 7:53:13 PM)

The same cousin, bless her heart, just texted to ask "What is up for tomorrow other than the 2 p.m. appt?"

I'm tempted to reply, "I thought I'd flip a coin to decide whether to jack off in the morning or the afternoon."

Sigh.



angelikaJ -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 8:15:57 PM)

(((hugs))) dc.



kdsub -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 8:28:59 PM)

Being sick is hell...for the people sick and those that love them...No one knows how to handle the situation and remain sane. Hang in there dc...things can only get better as they say...of course the people that say that aren't the ones sick either.

Butch



poise -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 9:05:16 PM)

While I've not posted before on this thread, I have been rooting for you for quite some time dc.
It saddens me to know you have so much to deal with, but I have faith that you'll get through this.

Please try and go easy on your relatives and those around you that are attempting to be helpful.
Many people have never given much thought to what someone in your situation is dealing with,
until someone they love has been the one affected. I think they all mean well.

I recently read this wonderful article that allows a glimpse into the day to day life of someone with
a chronic illness. I hope you don't mind me sharing it here with you and those that read your thread.
(((heartfelt hugs)))

The Spoon Theory



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 10:06:15 PM)

Dc...my friend. I love you. I believe in you. You will kick these cancers in their ass. I know you. Yes you appear to be this tulip loving teddy bear but lurking inside is a ferocious ninja grizzly. Kind of like Kung Fu Panda but snarlier. You know how much I love you. Healing prayers along with endurance, strength and patience sent for the duration. Get well my friend there are museums for us to explore in Pittsburgh together. Either that or I will be down there dragging you through every damn square foot of the Smith. (((((HUG)))))



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 10:17:54 PM)

DC, always wishing you the best. No need to do more than minute to minute. Your strength is an inspiration!



Aswad -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (4/28/2013 10:40:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

Just need to vent for a sec.


We're here for you, as much as we can be.

And, I know you know this, but I want to point it out anyway:

Back when mom was alive, struggling with her leukemia, I desperately wanted to help, to be useful, and- selfishly- to feel like I was doing something for her. If he thought it would help her, my old man would've chewed his arm off without making a sound. It was painful to see her get the short end of the stick in life, but also distressing for us in a million ways, too. So we, in the family, leaned on each other to avoid putting that burden on her. And we tried to make sure we didn't do what you're relating here. But it was hard for all of us (though nowhere near as hard as it was for her, obviously). Because we loved her, all of us.

I know it sucks, and you're absolutely right to vent, and it's the right place for it. As I said, I also know you know these things. I just hope it can be a helpful reminder that the reason for all this is that they feel for you and want to help you, without knowing how. Love hurts, sometimes. And, sometimes, in the oddest of ways.

So, yeah, just... we're all rooting for you here, DC, mmkay?

Beat this fucker. And vent when you feel like it.

~manhug~

IWYW,
— Aswad.




outlier -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/5/2013 1:28:21 PM)

dc,

I was reading another post and appreciating your thoughts.  So I
thought I should bump this to the top and let you know that I am
still sending good thoughts your way on a regular basis.  

Outlier



DesFIP -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/5/2013 4:23:25 PM)

About the 'direction' on how to help you. Perhaps you're looking at it wrong.
When friends are in trouble, I tend to offer to do their grocery shopping for them. But it occurs to me that maybe that isn't what they need right now. Maybe they would rather I did their laundry or cleaned their bathroom.

But when I offer open ended to do things, I get turned down. I think because people don't know what kind of help it's okay to ask for and what the offering person would feel is too much. So whether I offer a concrete thing, or a more nebulous offer, there's never the right thing said. Because I don't know what they need unless they tell me.

Is it possible your aunt wants you to say "Can you do my laundry" or "Can you go to the store". Maybe she really does need you to tell her what you need her to do for you.

I don't tend to post here, but please know I think of you.



dcnovice -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/5/2013 5:35:22 PM)

Warmest thanks to you all!

Tomorrow I'm heading to NYC to consult a highly recommend surgeon at Memorial Sloan-Kettering. Fervently hoping and praying he can get the tumor out of my ass without destroying the anus in the process.



MistressRosalyn -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/5/2013 5:58:04 PM)

DC,
Sorry I've been absent, and I just got caught up on this thead, I've been offline for a while battling my own health issues. Just wanted you to know you have love and hugs from Arizona. Attitude is all important, and I know you are going to be fine for that reason, alone. I wish my brain could untangle my thoughts so I could write what I am thinking coherantly...but since it can't, {{{{HUGS}}}} will have to do for now.



dcnovice -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/6/2013 5:46:55 AM)

Meeting a surgeon tomorrow at the Rockefeller Outpatient Pavilion in NYC. I keep chuckling at the word "pavilion." It makes me think I'll be seeing gents in boaters and ladies in chiffon dresses, nibbling tea sandwiches as a string quartet plays.



Rasciallymisty -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/6/2013 6:32:54 AM)

DC, I have heard that they are one of the best to seek help at. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Best of luck to you to tomorrow, I will say a few extra pryers for your safe and a comfortable travel to and fro.

hugssss
kar



needlesandpins -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/6/2013 11:00:58 AM)

travel safely, and with ease tomorrow. you have my thoughts dc and i hope this guy gets the job done for you in the best possible way.

needles



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/6/2013 11:35:45 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

Meeting a surgeon tomorrow at the Rockefeller Outpatient Pavilion in NYC. I keep chuckling at the word "pavilion." It makes me think I'll be seeing gents in boaters and ladies in chiffon dresses, nibbling tea sandwiches as a string quartet plays.


Ohhh Lovely. Let us know how it goes. will be burning so many candles tonight that the smoke alarm may go off. <3 you



ShaharThorne -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (5/6/2013 11:56:28 AM)

Candles a-burnings...so far the surgeon says Mom's mass is just some strained muscles from when she had the flu in March. My great-aunt G has been moved to ICU due to an infection and trouble breathing. Meanwhile Mom broke her fibula while we were working on a swing set for the kiddos. I am leaving Wednesday to spend time with my daughter. Huggles for you and best wishes on the mass.



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