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juliaoceania -> RE: simple question (6/20/2006 11:32:08 AM)
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This is a very difficult question...
I define D/s in relation to the person I am involved with. I define power exchange by how it transpires between myself and the dominant that is in my life. It is so reliant on the other person in it, two halves of the whole, that I simply cannot answer this question without specifying that it is the qualities he possesses that makes me feel secure, not D/s itself.
What about him makes me secure? In the entire time we have been communicating,for over three months, he has never put me down even in the smallest of ways. He has never denigrated my opinions, even when they disagreed with his own. He compliments me on my intellect, my way of moving, my looks, my empathy and compassion. He makes me feel good just to be around him. The most secure one can feel is to be their total self and their true self and that trueness is honored within the relationship. So far that is the impression he gives me, I am honored by being myself and being accepted for who I am.
If he reads this post that will make me happy, because I want him to know how very much his friendship means, and how much feeling secure with him and the burgeoning trust I feel for him means to me. He has qualities that inspire me such as honesty, tolerance for others, humor, and a razor sharp intellect. Not many men I know could discuss chaos theory for example. Because of these qualities I feel a respect that engenders my desire to submit to him and secure enough to be submissive.
Just me.. etc
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