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Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 2:38:39 PM   
TAFKAA


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I've long maintained that sexual polarity is the key to passion and this study puts another nail in the coffin of the egalitarian nonsense trying to steer us all down the path to androgyny.

Let that be a lesson to you men: Stop dusting the house like a pussy and take her while she's doing said dusting.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 3:22:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		The last part of that article pointed to earlier studies finding women less satisfied in their marriages when the husbands did not share in the housework. Putting all those studies together, it appears that women are happier in the less sexual marriages. That's a fairly grim conclusion...

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 3:24:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I stand over her and beat her for motivation to get it done.....I mean that's kinda a DUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHH.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 4:23:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		eehhh...for me I always like when he helps me with chores. It frees up my time and his and gives us MORE time to have more sex and more playtime.

It was the same when I was married and had a child. I was exhausted all the time because I was doing all the chores, raising a child and working. At the end of the day all I wanted to do was sleep while he wanted sex 24/7. Well, I used to tell him all the time, had he helped to take care of our child and helped me with some chores I might not be so tired and we would both be able to do more together. Yeah, never seemed to sink in though. So the more work I did while he just sat on the couch while he watched our child try to strangle the cat and did nothing, the less sex he got.

So, you wanna have sex and complain you're not having enough? Ask yourself why. Could it possibly be she's tired from doing everything?

So yeah, while I like a man who is a man and does the "manly" chores, I also like a man who understands the fact that the more help the faster things get done the less tired we both are and the more sex and fun we have together.


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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 5:33:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Are you serious OP? If I did the dishes without being asked, or vacuumed "just because", my ex-wife couldn't keep her clothes on. Why would I have wanted to pass that up. Nothing wrong with sharing the load.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 5:36:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		When a man voluntarily does some of the housework it makes the woman feel cared for and hey, that's a good reason for hanky panky.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:04:38 PM   
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When a man voluntarily does some of the housework it makes the woman feel cared for and hey, that's a good reason for hanky panky.

That was her feelings exactly. Or just a random gift from ye olde Walgreen's. It meant I thought about her when buying smokes lol. No, single people (mainly single people who have never been married/in a long term committed relationship) I feel just don't get it. I'm single now (divorced), but I don't think like my friends who have never been married. They also (my single buds) don't seem to totally grasp the concept that I have kids, so can't just drop everything and "kick it" at a moments notice.

My advice to the newly married fellas on here; treat her like a queen. Do some damned chores. Nothing un-manly about sweeping a floor. Pick up your shoes. Don't let it slack. And don't take her for granted. I did, and lost the game. I may be young, but I've got experience.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:12:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Y'all may hate me for saying this but (and for the record this is only the second time I have agreed with Tafkaa) I have to say, there are two slaves here as of now. If I came home and saw my husband doing dishes, I'd think the girls died.

But....we're it just he and I, I'm sure he wouldn't mind helping me do a few things, although I can't say I'd ever ask for help. He has offered to help me do a few things, and when needed I will say yes. He does the man stuff..taking out garbage, detailing the car (well taking it to get detailed), fixing things that need it, etc.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:15:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master will help me with stuff around the house if he sees I need the help or I'm sick or something like that because he wants to be able to have free time just as much as me. He knows that the more one of us has to do the less time we have to spend doing the things we want to do together and who the hell wants to do them alone???

Yeah, if I had slaves and it was more than just us two, sure...they can do the work but we don't operate in that way so we help each other because that's what you do in relationships. It just makes life run smoothly.


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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:22:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's less what chores you do, than the attitude taken. Growing up, I learned you do what needs to be done.

Also, I don't think a submissive would mistake what I am, or what I was doing lol.

Still, an interesting subject, Awareness.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:26:20 PM   
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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:28:41 PM   
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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:34:02 PM   
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The notion that androgeny kills passion resonates for me. I may well be very unevolved, but whenever I see a man pushing a baby stroller, I have an instinctive reaction unfavorably judging his masculinity. I see it all the time because I spend time in parks every day with my dogs, and I have this reaction so strongly I've come to notice it. I thought of it immediately when I read the linked article in the OP.

I work in the "divorce industry" (how's that for a euphemism), and I have seen consistent evidence that egalitarian relationships often devolve into sexless partnerships, with one or both eventually seeking passion outside, then ending up in divorce court.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:39:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

~fast reply~

The notion that androgeny kills passion resonates for me. I may well be very unevolved, but whenever I see a man pushing a baby stroller, I have an instinctive reaction unfavorably judging his masculinity. I see it all the time because I spend time in parks every day with my dogs, and I have this reaction so strongly I've come to notice it. I thought of it immediately when I read the linked article in the OP.

I work in the "divorce industry" (how's that for a euphemism), and I have seen consistent evidence that egalitarian relationships often devolve into sexless partnerships, with one or both eventually seeking passion outside, then ending up in divorce court.

Sorry you feel that way. I pushed my daughters up and down the street, in parks, malls, you name it. My own opinion, if a Dad loves his kids, he'll want to do things like that. My daughters will be 3 in March (they are twins) and I'm damned man enough to admit I attend "coffee fiestas" (I drink coffee, girls don't know what hot tea is really, and they like the word "fiesta") with stuffed animal dignitaries, let them put their "pretties" (fake jewelry) on me and brush my hair while saying "pretty Daddy". I don't give no fuck about some "masculine image" when I'm spending time with my girls. Sorry, touchy subject for me.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:41:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

~fast reply~

The notion that androgeny kills passion resonates for me. I may well be very unevolved, but whenever I see a man pushing a baby stroller, I have an instinctive reaction unfavorably judging his masculinity.


You sure isn't just a dislike of babies? They all look like Winston Churchill to me, which I find disturbing.



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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:41:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		My husband helps with the chores. He's quite a bit OCD and ex-military. He likes things just so.

I'm extremely grateful. Of the two of us I have the more stressful job. I tend to travel quite a bit for work and I have a much longer drive. I love coming home on a Friday night and hearing him say everything is cleaned so you don't have to do it this weekend. That doesn't happen all the time though. Often times we will negotiate who's doing what. He always does the dishes. I hate them. We had to have a dishwasher, for me that wasn't negotiable. I cook more than he does. He only cooks if I'm not getting home till late. I clean the shower, sinks, and toilets one week, while he vacuums, dusts, and changes the sheets. The next week we switch. It's helpful and stress free. We can clean the apt together in less than an hour. We do our laundry separate because I have business clothes and he has clothes that are ruined from work. Then we spend the weekend together and enjoying one another.

Him cleaning the house, taking the dogs for a walk, or even getting up in the morning to let them out is the greatest gift he could ever give me.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:50:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I expect my honey pie to help out with the chores, shit he creates half them with his slobby ways.

I certainly w*ould not have sex with him if he tried to weasle out of helping me out around here, based on some article or some notion he's a man he don't have to do house work. In fact I'd tell him he could take his opinions and move out, maybe his opinions will fuck and live with him, but I sure aint.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 6:59:50 PM   
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You sure isn't just a dislike of babies? They all look like Winston Churchill to me, which I find disturbing.



I don't think it's that. All bulldogs look like Winston Churchill to me, and I love bulldogs. Babies are adorable; I'm just glad I don't have to own one.

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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 7:37:30 PM   
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I see Ben Affleck in my moms gossip mags carrying around his daughters or playing with them and I find it enticing.

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

, but whenever I see a man pushing a baby stroller, I have an instinctive reaction unfavorably judging his masculinity.



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RE: Well I could've told you that! - 2/1/2013 7:42:03 PM   
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Who knew there were "manly chores" and "man stuff" when it comes to helping out? Hmmm. It's all shit that needs to be done and a caring partner never dumps all the weight on the other one(s). I work full time and am a graduate student. My Master is "manly" enough to know that it's not "unmanly" to help out with the things we both need done and He would never be petty enough to refuse to help me with a task that was "only for women." Ha! YMMV.
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