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help w/ profile please! - 2/2/2013 11:44:52 AM

JadeDJezzy

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Hello everyone, i thought this would be my best bet in being able to find some help. I'm trying to re-write my profile for my Daddy. Something that shows my devotion and love for him. Normally this isnt an issue for me but, i havent written something this important in a long time and its giving me writers block in the worst way. If anyone could help me out, take a look, critique it..anything right now is better than nothing. Please and thank you
i want to make my daddy so happy

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 2/3/2013 6:00:05 AM

kalikshama

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To whom do your journal entries about the person who hurt you refer? Your Daddy or someone else?

- If someone else, start your profile cleanup by deleting them.
- If your Daddy, then I got nothing.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 2/3/2013 6:13:04 AM

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I agree with kalikshama, the journal entries should be the first thing you address, I can understand the need to let some of those things out if it helped you but are they still relevant?

As for your profile, that has to come from you, from within, a general pointer would be to focus on the positives of your relationship, your foundations and what brought you together, and your personal aspirations for yours and the relationships future. Just my tuppence worth.
Good luck.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 2/5/2013 7:29:42 AM

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Your journal and profile seem utterly contradictory. You should first decide the message you want. If your Daddy is making you unhappy (depends on how you read your journal entries), then that is a major problem. If the journal entries are about things external to your relationship with your Daddy, then discard them and profess your devotion clearly in your profile.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 2/5/2013 9:49:24 AM

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I wish I had something to give you. I love Carol. Anyone on these boards can tell you that you only need to ask some tiny question and I can burble on for paragraphs. I can't really imagine something so critically vibrant in my life being obscure to me.

THat all being said, your entire profile is one endless rant of negativity. Why not simply erase the entire thing and start with the basics?

I love you Daddy.

You could go from there. Any time you are inclined to put in more negativity (eg: "... because you're not like all those other jerks") erase it and try again. If you cannot write 3 paragraphs without spewing about how awful humanity is then you are a part of that awfulness.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/16/2013 12:19:17 AM

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When I looked at your profile I was immediately lost and confused. It doesn't share anything about you other than a tirade of rants. My best advice would be to start with a clean slate and spend some time thinking about how your Daddy makes you feel before starting to rewrite it. If all that comes to mind after that reflective time is more rants and negativity, then my best advice would be to have a long honest conversation with your Daddy, as that is a much higher priority than rewriting your current profile.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/16/2013 4:49:26 AM

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The visual is probably the first introduction to anyone's profile - is your Daddy thrilled with the ass in the face picture? If it's not his absolute favorite picture of you, then I think you've probably got something better to offer that would make him proud to have you; your other profile pic would work if there's nothing else. As you said, there isn't much in the written content area, but what is there is very negative. For now I'd just take it out, it really starts things off on a bitter note. Then there are all of the negative journal entries that keep the negativity level overall up very high.

For ideas of how to start and get past your writer's block, why not do what many writer's do and assign yourself a writing assignment? Set yourself up with a main idea like "What Daddy Means to Me", and then for a designated amount of time (not too long, maybe 10-15 min) write down whatever comes into your mind. Don't filter anything out. Then sit and look at what comes out, take the main ideas you see, and set them up as topics and set down to do some exploratory writing on those. Take the best of what you get on each of those headings and perhaps that will be what you want, if not, then take each chunk and extract what is best and set it up for another round of fine tuning. If you get stuck, go back to the stream of consciousness thing you did at the very beginning. Good luck!

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/16/2013 12:53:33 PM

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A journal entry about an ex-boyfriend is probably not the best way to go about it. Neither is your constant negativity towards all kinds of people you've never met.

If the town you live in is his hometown, then putting it down is not the smartest idea either.

Write about why you're with him, what his good qualities are, how he makes you improve yourself assuming this has happened.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/16/2013 12:56:16 PM

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Your journal portrays you as an emotional basket case who is clearly not in control of her life, her emotions or her responses. You misunderstand your own orientation and you're badly in need of a Dominant who'll pull you into line and ground you.

Having said that, you'd have to be really hot for it to be worth his while - because he'll probably end up having to fix you - and that shit ain't free.

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/16/2013 1:46:58 PM

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Yes. Drop all the negative bitching and say something worth reading.Who cares if people keep reporting your profile, or people in town are rude. And I know that's frustrating but ranting on a profile that is other wise meant to show case you, won't accomplish anything.And if you have a Daddy and you're not looking, all you need in your profile , in my opinion, is I have a Daddy, I love him a lot. Not available.

If you want people to know about you, because you hope to make friends, then tell people about yourself. I wouldn't come near you with a 10 foot pole even as a friend, with all the bitching and negativity in your profile.

< Message edited by Toppingfrmbottom -- 3/16/2013 1:53:19 PM >

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/18/2013 7:49:11 PM

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quote:

And if you have a Daddy and you're not looking, all you need in your profile , in my opinion, is I have a Daddy, I love him a lot. Not available.

Ya, I put this profile on Hide and changed my Fet profile to say "Happily monogamous."

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/18/2013 7:50:34 PM

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FR,

Did the OP identify as a Dominant in her profile when she started this thread?

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RE: help w/ profile please! - 3/18/2013 7:58:09 PM

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Yes, she did identify as Dominant when opening the thread.

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