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Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 11:09:49 AM   
MasterAneglo7


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Status: offline 		First of all I would love to thank all that have read and may or may not reply .
Lately I have been conversing with someone that happens to be a Mistress what started out as harmless conversation seems have become a very nice connection. My dilemma is that although we laugh and joke ( oh yes Dom’s laugh and joke too right ?) I find myself at a cross road with the “ can 2 Dom’s make a relationship work dilemma”
I am asking the Mistresses out here for a specific reason for Women in general give much better advice than men because we tend to think with our macho BS ( I am the first to admit that) And in this day and age after this “50 shades” stuff most seem to be here just to be keyboard kinkster’s .
Any input and advice is welcomed and appreciated !!!!!!!

Warmest regards
Angelo
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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 11:11:34 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Yup, they can. There are a few couples here on the forums that have that arrangement.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 11:13:23 AM   
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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 11:16:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think that of all the Collarme couples that have made it work, they opened the relationship up to one or more subs.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 11:21:08 AM   
MasterAneglo7


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Status: offline 		First off I would love to Thank You all for nice words...... And Happy 11th Anniversary to You and Your Husband Lady Pact........

Just seems in this day and age with all the constant BS on here it has become more trying than anything.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 6:29:13 PM   
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Just another voicing chiming in that yes a D/D couple can work. My long term partner is a Dominant and we've been together (this time - long story) 12 yrs. or so. Overall we've known each other and been in each other's lives for 29 yrs this Oct. It just took us a long time to figure out who each of us was and learn how to communicate properly.

Wickad

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 7:00:25 PM   
TNDommeK


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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 7:24:45 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 10:22:02 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		I believe 2 Doms can absolutely work, if they know one another well, and have lots of mutual respect. It is a case of birds of a feather, and both people simply need to be self aware, to be flexible with one another. IMO. M

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/3/2013 11:39:38 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		It didn't work w/ me and my ex, but ours was a different situation. I started out being his sub and then switched to being a Domme while we were together. He refused to respect my also being a Dominant as he was losing his sub at the same time. So even each of us having our own subs didn't help. However, I do know of D/D couples on here who are successful.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/4/2013 4:04:02 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

It didn't work w/ me and my ex, but ours was a different situation. I started out being his sub and then switched to being a Domme while we were together. He refused to respect my also being a Dominant as he was losing his sub at the same time. So even each of us having our own subs didn't help. However, I do know of D/D couples on here who are successful.

NBMG


That must have been a tough time for both of you.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/4/2013 6:36:30 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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It hasnt worked for me personally, but I think that its entirely possible for two D types to be able to have a successful (and lasting based on some of the previous replies) relationship. I think that it depends more on the two of you and who you both are as people, not so much what your labels are. If you enjoy being around her and she you, dont let your identifiers trip you up. You both will figure out a way.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/4/2013 8:57:45 AM   
MistressSara7


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Status: offline 		I don't see why it couldn't work.

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/4/2013 10:36:22 AM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders


quote:

ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

It didn't work w/ me and my ex, but ours was a different situation. I started out being his sub and then switched to being a Domme while we were together. He refused to respect my also being a Dominant as he was losing his sub at the same time. So even each of us having our own subs didn't help. However, I do know of D/D couples on here who are successful.

NBMG


That must have been a tough time for both of you.

It was. I'm glad it's over.

NBMG

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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/4/2013 7:08:53 PM   
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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/9/2013 7:18:07 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Works for Us too, though i am Master's sub (sort of - at the moment the circumstances mean He is doing more for me than vice versa, but the mindset is that i am His sub), He totally respects My Dominant side and would just LOVE for Me to find a 24/7 sub! The idea being that then the sub will take over doing things for Me, so Master can kick back without feeling mean LOL! We have always been open to poly so that helps a lot. This is our ninth year together. I think there are lots of different ways to make it work ... communicate communicate communicate!

Best wishes Angelo,
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RE: Can 2 Dom's make it work ????? - 2/10/2013 12:38:59 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl
I started out being his sub and then switched to being a Domme while we were together. He refused to respect my also being a Dominant as he was losing his sub at the same time. So even each of us having our own subs didn't help.
NBMG
That is a difficult situation, and unfortunately, understandibly problematic. I can absolutely respect a submissive I'm in a relationship with, but if he than became dominant, it would be a huge problem, and potentially one I'd have difficulty adjusting to, or changing to accomodate.

No one's fault I suppose, as people do grow and change, but that is also a big cause for divorce/splits. M


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