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RE: The begging paradox - 6/20/2006 6:41:00 PM   
MDPA1962


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As for all other requests, I ask once.  No means no.  A repeated question is referred to as nagging, and never warrants good results. 


this is How I Look at it as well, But within a scene, Very Hot to have a slave Beg to Perfom a task you Know you Both want, and to deny it to Her as well.... as part of a scene Love it, In real time < Nagging and pestering Just earn paddlings

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/20/2006 6:57:15 PM   
Misstoyou


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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

So in which case in day to day life would begging be appropriate?



In day to day life, I would consider begging simply another word for whining, which even my students know I can't abide....in sexual situations, my submissive begging to cum is hot...and of course you know, benji, having a puppy "beg pretty" is simply adorable.

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/20/2006 7:48:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Alrighty, I read most of the responses so far, and I think both subs and Dom/mes are on the same page - in situations where promted, beg, otherwise don't.  Pretty much what I thought anyway, but thanks a lot for the input!

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/21/2006 1:57:44 AM   
meatcleaver


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Status: offline 		I thought this thread was about making money without working and would be full of hints as to where it is best to beg ie. the metro station or the shopping centre etc.

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/21/2006 7:46:03 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji
If I want something from my Mistress(let's pretend I have one) and she doesn't want to give it to me, I should drop it.  After all, Mistress knows best, and pestering by begging is prolly gonna earn me a whipping or an ignoring.

If I want something from my Mistress, and she does want to give it to me, no begging needed.

If Mistress wants me to have something, and I don't want it, I take it anyway, because Mistress knows best.

If Mistress doesn't want me to have something, and I don't either, I hope we're not bickering over it.

So in which case in day to day life would begging be appropriate? 


In all your examples benji, the decision has already been made. If I can do something my girl wants and she doesn't ask for it, I'm not a mind reader, it might not cross my mind if she doesn't ask. She could simply ask... but she knows I enjoy her begging, thus likely to get me in a better mood.... However she knows from experience that it doesn't mean she WILL get whatever it is simply because she askes. It is MY decision. I am more than capable of enjoying her begging and STILL saying "no"... but she is still making me happy by doing so

Once the decision has been made, she also knows that no amount of begging will change the decision.... so far she has never pushed that even close to the point where she would get in trouble. My decisions tend to be final and are accepted as such.


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RE: The begging paradox - 6/21/2006 9:25:33 AM   
kittinSol


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Status: offline 		Holy donkeys benjoid, you've graduated up to 'evil'. I beg to ask whether begging isn't something which gives quite a lot of Dom/mes pleasure.

It is a way for them to feel the power they exert over the submissive. I know many get a kick out of it (funnily enough).

Personally it's something I find very difficult to do, but then again, submitting IS very difficult anyhow. Bit of a paradox since that's what I am. But that's matter for another thread lol.

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/21/2006 9:58:28 AM   
HisTicia


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Status: offline 		I think that for play.. begging is fine..and you usually know when to do it.  I usually beg without having to be asked to... I find that if they ask me to.. I can't really do it.. I feel sort of silly..the passion just isn't there.
 
I hope that when I beg..it's known that I really, really, really want it.......such as cumming.. or more flogging..etc. 
 
When it's done away from a scene..but still in sort of a play bratty mood.. it works also..other than that.. it is considered whining.
 

 

 

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/21/2006 9:41:50 PM   
Sinergy


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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

I thought this thread was about making money without working and would be full of hints as to where it is best to beg ie. the metro station or the shopping centre etc.


I read about a study done by several graduate students who put on rags and stood with a "Will Work For Food" sign on freeway offramps.

Apparently, people doing this 5 days a week make about $30,000 a year tax free.

Go figure,

Sinergy

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/23/2006 1:56:34 PM   
genvieve


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Status: offline 		Simply put, begging in a scene can intensify the scene.
 
Begging outside of the scene, is topping from the bottom.

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RE: The begging paradox - 6/23/2006 2:04:45 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		I beg only when told to during play.  And it's only requested when I'm being pushed. 
It's only requested to further humiliate me.  He makes me beg for things that embarrass me and things that are hard for me to accept.  It makes everything very intense.
I love that feeling.

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