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Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 8:00:04 AM

artglfr

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I admit I felt kinda bad for the sub at the party. She was totally "taken over" by the Protectoress and her partner. After both of them finished with her she spent the rest of the party sitting on the floor with at least one of them within glaring distance so NO one that I saw ever talked to her.

Talked to others there about her and was told that she had NOT been introduced to people, didn't speak to anyone and it was told to me that apparently she had been "ordered" not to speak to others. I cannot say this for a fact but it certainly was true that she was silent.

One of her "protectors", apparently intimidated a newbie who was at her very first party. I didn't find this out till afterwards or I would have definitely said something but he would take toys out of his bag and glare at the unprotected newbie with it in his hand and she was not happy about it. This newbie was not a shy awkward wannabe but aq very interested and well connected sub that attended with a well known player that i am certain will have some words with the protector.

This "unprotected" Newbie came quietly over to me as I was enjoying an excellent "cupping" session with my girl. I was surprised yet happy when she asked me about how long i could leave them on and if it hurt. I answered her questions then applied one to my own forearm to show her it wasn't painful. Next I pointed to her forearm and asked if she wanted one. Her eyes lit up and she said "yeah". I put one on and didn't leave it very long and she skipped merrily out. a few minutes later she came back and asked if i would put one on her breast. I did and she went to show the people she had come with and I heard them making appropriate noises of support.

The two newbies were so different, each is entitled to their own way of doing things but I was sad the protected one did not get to meet any of the awesome people who were there and gratified to see there is a Newbie who is self aware enough and not afraid to explore, ask questions and continually "Check the info she found with people she trusts". I hope she asks me to play with her again but even if she doesn't I got to show her that some of us are SS&C.

I only wish there was a way to share information with the "protected" sub so she could meet others and not be smothered by "protectors" that don't appear to be very SS or C. Any ideas or is it a lost cause?

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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 8:06:54 AM

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Any ideas or is it a lost cause?

Not necessarily a lost cause.

Who knows, maybe they are her perfect matches.

She chose them for herself, one hopes she's thrilled with her choice.

Otherwise, no, there's nothing you can do. And sadly, once a person gets INTO this situation, they feel they need to continue it to justify that they are making the right choice. That's part of why I used to keep slutting around for the wrong reasons- if I stopped, I'd have to admit I was doing it for the wrong reasons.

Luckily I DID stop, DID realize I was being an idiot, and then started slutting around for the right reasons.

But it's up to her- and if she's happy, then it's all good.

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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 8:19:39 AM

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LA, I always love Your replies. Again I am smiling , thank you.

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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 10:32:18 AM

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Damn, why didn't I know you then....

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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 12:22:09 PM

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art,

sounds more like the old bait and switch, I will protect you but what I really plan on is using you. Hopefully she will grow tired of being treated that way and grow out of it. Isn't it funny sometimes how those that hop up to be protectors are actually the ones that people need protected from.

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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 12:34:47 PM

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Art,
I dont have much to add to this but I wanted to say thank you. I think it was very sweet of you to help the unprotected one and also to be concerned over the protected one. I wouldnt write it up as a lost cause. Never say never

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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 1:32:42 PM

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Dear artglfr, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I'm glad you shared with us the follow up per se of the party.

I wonder (out loud and in general) if the teasing was absent, the newbie that was protected and smothered (sadly) might not have been forced through anxiety or fear, to be as free as the unprotected submissive.

Sometimes teasing to cause somebody to be more relaxed or such, backfires, to which indeed has happened.

Just reminds us all (in general) how our actions, behaviors, words and such impacts others so many ways.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Protected sub Part 2 The Party - 6/20/2006 2:50:57 PM

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