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So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:19:50 PM

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My first session with a Mistress is this Thursday and I can barely contain myself and my submissive nature. Any tips on how to wait almost forty eight hours until then?

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:27:49 PM

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My first session with a Mistress is this Thursday and I can barely contain myself and my submissive nature. Any tips on how to wait almost forty eight hours until then?

Video games. Lots of video games. If it's your first, yeah, it is very exciting and clock-watching. Let us know how it goes and good luck and have fun!

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:31:30 PM

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Blarg! Can't wait... :)

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:31:34 PM

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My first session with a Mistress is this Thursday and I can barely contain myself and my submissive nature. Any tips on how to wait almost forty eight hours until then?

If you are not practicing looking in the eyes in a mirror, combing your hair, washing your ass, tying your tie and polishing your shoes, cleaning your car considering table manners and generally working on practicing up and reminding yourself of first impressions and social skills, then you better be on the toilet shitting for 48 hours, so that there will be no shit left to kick out of you. What flowers are you bringing?

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:36:39 PM

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My first session with a Mistress is this Thursday and I can barely contain myself and my submissive nature. Any tips on how to wait almost forty eight hours until then?

If you are not practicing looking in the eyes in a mirror, combing your hair, washing your ass, tying your tie and polishing your shoes, cleaning your car considering table manners and generally working on practicing up and reminding yourself of first impressions and social skills, then you better be on the toilet shitting for 48 hours, so that there will be no shit left to kick out of you. What flowers are you bringing?

Is this a paid session? If so, then I say just wash. The rest is not necessary, unless she's giving you a discount.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:41:11 PM

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Wells I always do the other stuff (Who doesn't?) but is flowers appropriate? And if so is a dozen roses ok?

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:42:58 PM

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Well it's both. First one is paid to see if she likes me and then the rest if I pass is me being her pet.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:43:53 PM

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Wells I always do the other stuff (Who doesn't?) but is flowers appropriate? And if so is a dozen roses ok?

Yeah, I didn't mention bathing and grooming as I thought those were a given. As to the Roses? Look up the meaning of the colors before going with roses, as (to some) the colors have different meaning, and you don't want to come off the wrong way/wrong intentions.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 3:53:09 PM

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Well it's both. First one is paid to see if she likes me and then the rest if I pass is me being her pet.

It sounds as though you are trying to impress her on a personal level. In that case, yes, dress nicely and comb your hair.

I don't know about flowers. Some women love them, but others don't. Some might regard it as pushy or over the top, or presumptuous.

Remember you may not like her either. I don't know what to make of her charging you for what sounds like just a first date. Keep your eyes open and proceed with caution.

My recommendation is that if you have a very good time, express your thanks and use your "flower money" for a cash tip.

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Oh! And if money is changing hands, do not touch her breasts or her privates, and do not let her touch yours.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 4:29:46 PM

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How do you wait? Find things to occupy your mind or distractions.

Call Me cynical, but the rest of the thread doesn't sound quite right. You're going for a pay session that is going to determine if you become a personal playmate/pet? That would be a new one on Me. I have heard of some less than ethical tactics being used as the hook to keep returning paying customers. Along the lines of once you go and enjoy your session, dangling the promise of a personal arrangement like a carrot in front of a mule. All the while, reason after reason keeps coming up why you have to continue as a 'customer' rather than a pet or personal submissive.

Not all pros do this, of course. It's a very small fraction. Most pros are honest about these being business transactions from the get go.

Edited to add - If you are paying, it's not a *date*.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 6:24:26 PM

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My first session with a Mistress is this Thursday and I can barely contain myself and my submissive nature. Any tips on how to wait almost forty eight hours until then?

Yepper.

When you hit 40 hours....realize...it's just 40 more hours.

When you hit 32....it's just 1 more than 31....downhill slope. Gravy.

At 21 hours....it's less than a day.

At 2 hours (after she's put out all the spread)...call her up and tell her you've changed your mind and you want her to pay you.

At 45 minutes tell her "I realize I was wrong....what I'd rather do is split the commission on your next 3 sessions".

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 6:41:48 PM

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I have done this three times with three diff Dommes. Initially discussed being a personal slave/pet with all three. Twice we did a session and then we went out for lunch and discussed Her needs for a personal slave. The other time we just did a session and spoke more about what She wanted. All three times I ended up being a personal slave for varying amounts of time. The longest was off and on over a 3-4 year period as she travelled quite a bit. I would pick her up from the airport, get her place ready for her when she returned etc.
To sum up, it's worked all three times for me.
But LP sounds correct that if She asks for another paid session then She is probably not serious about having you as a pet.

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How do you wait? Find things to occupy your mind or distractions.

Call Me cynical, but the rest of the thread doesn't sound quite right. You're going for a pay session that is going to determine if you become a personal playmate/pet? That would be a new one on Me. I have heard of some less than ethical tactics being used as the hook to keep returning paying customers. Along the lines of once you go and enjoy your session, dangling the promise of a personal arrangement like a carrot in front of a mule. All the while, reason after reason keeps coming up why you have to continue as a 'customer' rather than a pet or personal submissive.

Not all pros do this, of course. It's a very small fraction. Most pros are honest about these being business transactions from the get go.

Edited to add - If you are paying, it's not a *date*.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 7:02:11 PM

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My first session with a Mistress is this Thursday and I can barely contain myself and my submissive nature. Any tips on how to wait almost forty eight hours until then?

Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, of course, it's too dark to read.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 7:07:02 PM

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I wish I could like this post.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 7:07:53 PM

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That was my first thought when I read the OP, but then I thought, maybe I'm missing something. Nice to know I'm not alone in the confusion.

To me it just sound very strange that if a pro domme is looking for a personal slave/pet that she has the candidates pay her to find out if they are "right" for the position. Seems like she could "interview" dozens, tell them all they aren't right, and then do it again.

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 7:35:52 PM

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It NEVER hurts to bring a gift or flowers.....EVER!

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 7:44:59 PM

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As far as flowers go, if you're trying to impress her without coming across as pushy, you might consider getting one rose, and possibly using the rest of the flower money to tip her if you enjoy yourself.

Until then, I'd just do whatever it is you normally do. Work, go to school, read, play video games, watch tv/movies, etc. Don't think too much about it.

And good luck!

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 7:48:27 PM

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Calm down and don't expect anything.

For all you know, this person could be a guy, weigh a ton, be ugly, not be anything at all what you want, etc....

ETA: After reading the rest of your responses, I agree with LP. Something's not right. I'm gonna guess you will show up, pay for a "session" and then she will tell you that the rest of the "sessions" of you being her "pet" will cost you by giving her "tributes" which she will probably try to convince you is not payment lol.

Or she will take you home where you will live the rest of your life and from that point on, all your income is her income which is fine if that's what you want. Just be sure you know what you're getting into. Don't walk in blindly and imo, that's exactly what you're doing so nothing I say here is going to make a difference. You're horny and desperate and at that point, it's just like listening to Charlie Brown's teacher...blar blar blah blar blah......

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/5/2013 11:02:16 PM

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Calm down and don't expect anything.

For all you know, this person could be a guy, weigh a ton, be ugly, not be anything at all what you want, etc....

ETA: After reading the rest of your responses, I agree with LP. Something's not right. I'm gonna guess you will show up, pay for a "session" and then she will tell you that the rest of the "sessions" of you being her "pet" will cost you by giving her "tributes" which she will probably try to convince you is not payment lol.

Or she will take you home where you will live the rest of your life and from that point on, all your income is her income which is fine if that's what you want. Just be sure you know what you're getting into. Don't walk in blindly and imo, that's exactly what you're doing so nothing I say here is going to make a difference. You're horny and desperate and at that point, it's just like listening to Charlie Brown's teacher...blar blar blah blar blah......

Oh gosh lol. Wouldn't that be terrible ?

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RE: So I'm waiting. - 2/6/2013 12:40:28 AM

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You are just NAUGHTY!!!!! LMAO

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At 2 hours (after she's put out all the spread)...call her up and tell her you've changed your mind and you want her to pay you.

At 45 minutes tell her "I realize I was wrong....what I'd rather do is split the commission on your next 3 sessions".

(I'm here to help).

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