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Advice please - 2/6/2013 10:22:28 PM

slaveg79

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Can a slave be owned by a Master and then (with permission from master of course) then have a domme also ?

Would this work ?

Long story short Master said i could have a lover who then turned out to be a domme .

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 6:07:36 AM

LittleMsMary

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In short, sure, why not? It all depends on what you and the other people involved in this relationship think/want/enjoy. As long as everybody is being upfront about any other relationships and expectations then I don't see any problems at all. How long it will last, who knows? But that doesn't mean you shouldn't or can't do it and let things take their course.

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 6:16:31 AM

slaveg79

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Thanks though nothing has happened between myself and domme as yet there is lots of talking going on :) x

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 8:32:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveg79

Can a slave be owned by a Master and then (with permission from master of course) then have a domme also ?

Would this work ?

Long story short Master said i could have a lover who then turned out to be a domme .

Adding a bit of specificity to LittleMsMary's "up-front" thought: Your Master gave you permission to have a lover, but not necessarily a Domme. There is (or at least can be) a different dynamic there. So be sure that he is OK with that.

One other thought (and this probably riffs off LMM's "expectations" thought): If any aspect of either D/s relationship goes beyond the bounds of play times, you need to figure out in advance whose rules get obeyed when his conflicts with hers. Personally, I think he should "win" since he was with you first.

That said, do not be afraid to talk to him about something that she wants that may conflict with what he wants. Maybe it doesn't -- or maybe he has changed his mind. For example, say that you have always been shaved since before you met him. But she wants you to grow a landing strip. Unless he just reminded you yesterday that you must always be shaved, he may not care, or he may have changed his mind, or he may be simply intrigued by a change, or it may be an acceptable variation (e.g. maybe his thought about shaved is just that he doesn't want hair around your pussy, but above it is fine with him).

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 8:40:40 AM

slaveg79

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Wannapleeze thanks
yes we spoke about this and have said because i am owned by master EVERYTHING goes through him first for approval :) x

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 8:52:25 AM

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You lucky, lucky slave..........
Slave boys I know would give a left nut for the opportunity you are experiencing.

Only advice is to keep doing THIS -----

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Thanks though nothing has happened between myself and domme as yet there is lots of talking going on :) x

COMMUNICATE and you'll be fine.

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 8:53:28 AM

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Wannapleeze thanks
yes we spoke about this and have said because i am owned by master EVERYTHING goes through him first for approval :) x

Sounds like you're ahead of the game, then.

Whether or not it works is up to the involved parties. Contrary to what some believe, there is no BDSM Council that rules on whether something is acceptable or not. ;-)

Go have fun!

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RE: Advice please - 2/7/2013 9:02:41 AM

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Thanks LanceHughes and wannapleez x

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RE: Advice please - 2/8/2013 6:30:04 PM

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Can a slave be owned by a Master and then (with permission from master of course) then have a domme also ?

Would this work ?

Long story short Master said i could have a lover who then turned out to be a domme .

It's his (as importantly...your) call.

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RE: Advice please - 2/9/2013 5:08:12 PM

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It would work, given all the facts are set on the table, and everyone agrees that your primary allegiance is to your master. It would not work, if said Domme is as controlling as some (moi), and would require being your priority. M

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