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Getting started--with sincerity - 6/20/2006 11:43:41 AM

anam

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Greetings, all. I've been lurking on CM for well over a year and have had only a small amount of good correspondence. I'm always a bit stuck when I go to introduce myself to a Domme becuase I do take the issue of sincerity seriously, yet the vast majority of folks don't want anything to do with online relationship-building (as it is quickly, and understandably, written off as "cyber"). I live in a relatively small town in Alaska where, to my knowledge, there really is no "scene." So...What I'm asking is for advice for getting started with sincerity. I'd like to be guided by a dominant woman to experience the layers of my submissive yearnings, but I don't know another way to approach this, given my geography, than via online relationships. For those of you would entertain this kind of relationship beginning, what would you need to see in a posting? I don't really consider it online "play" so much as online relationship building. While I'm very intrigued with prospects of carrying out tasks and reporting via alternative media !, I'm also needing to build some trust since I'd rather not find my images circulated across the net.

In short, do you know of Dommes who would gently ease a new sub in via online relationships here? Any advice vis a vis the sincerity vs. online dynamic? I've had one invitation to travel down south and participate in a group, public scene, but I'd far prefer building some one-on-one (two or three on one if you must : ) trust first.

Just looking to get real!

Humbly,

Anam

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RE: Getting started--with sincerity - 6/21/2006 5:20:00 AM

IronBear

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Greetings Anam,

I just looked through your profile and the only thing missing on first glance and reading your post is that profile wise, i think it would be to your advantage to explain that you live in a remore small community with little or no scene and that a LDR is perhaps the only way you can start off... At least this shows why you are looking for an online relationship.. Cheers lad and good luck.

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RE: Getting started--with sincerity - 6/21/2006 9:10:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: anam

...yet the vast majority of folks don't want anything to do with online relationship-building (as it is quickly, and understandably, written off as "cyber"). I live in a relatively small town in Alaska where, to my knowledge, there really is no "scene."

I started out back in the late 1960s in one of the largest cities in the USA. At that time, there was no visible community to speak of, so the only way I could ever hope to meet anyone was via the mail or over the telephone. No one seemed to mind it back then, so why is this such a problem for people these days?

I've actually been quite successful in meeting others online, but it does take time and effort. I noticed that you have been on CM for a little over one year. During that time you should have made at least a few contacts.

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RE: Getting started--with sincerity - 6/21/2006 9:14:34 AM

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I would have to agree with Iron Bear with explaining your geographical limitations. Just don't give up. The One for you is out there. It just may take a little while for you to find each O/other.

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RE: Getting started--with sincerity - 6/21/2006 10:10:35 AM

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I should have add as perhaps an encouragement, HIB has been looking (well we have had vacencies) for both male and female slaves for a Gorean home for over two years now... It takes time (and the drying up of that bloody Pacific Duck Pond).

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RE: Getting started--with sincerity - 6/21/2006 2:07:08 PM

anam

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Thanks, folks, for these insights and words of encouragement. IronBear, I will tweak the profile a bit to be right up front with the geo-challenges. Meanwhile, I'll keep the faith. Sure appreciate it.
Humbly,
Anam

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RE: Getting started--with sincerity - 6/21/2006 3:52:39 PM

anam

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ilive2servher: I've had one really good connection with a woman who switched to major sub mode shortly after our contact, and a few fleeting exchanges, but nothing that has deepened into a learning experience. Your profile is really helpful to me. I like how explicit and trustworthy you seem. I'll make my way slowly, I guess.

I appreciate your time.

Anam

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