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thezeppo -> How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 11:08:35 AM)

I have sent a couple of unsolicited messages out to Dommes since I joined, but as my profile indicates I will have a lot more time to be active both online and in real life once I graduate - procrastinating on the politics forum aside, I have already been more active than I intended there. I read the FAQ's, which gave some advice on what type of picture to have (no cock shots!) and I am tempted to change my picture to one actually of me, albeit not a close-up face picture. I have some concerns about students or parents finding my picture and complaining about me, so I wouldn't really be comfortable with a face picture. My question is how much does it matter? Obviously I have read that men respond more to visual stimulus than women, so should I be more concerned with my written profile? Is my picture okay as it is or should I put some more thought into it?



muhly22222 -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 12:40:19 PM)

Not a Domme, so my answer might not be very accurate.

Your picture isn't the worst on CM, not by a long shot. In fact, it's kind of funny and quirky.

But to me, it also seems a bit cliched. If you're going for quirky and funny, that's great, and it could definitely help you, but it'll do more if it's original.

One of the ways I got around showing my face and still having a picture up was to put up the picture that you see on the side there and then make a reference to it meaning something in my profile (a true reference, btw). I've gotten a lot of interest from what seem to be the "right" kind of women for me. It probably helps that I've never seen that painting anywhere else on this site -- so if you steal it, I'm going to report you! [8D]



wannapleez -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 12:42:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: thezeppo
I have sent a couple of unsolicited messages out to Dommes since I joined, but as my profile indicates I will have a lot more time to be active both online and in real life once I graduate - procrastinating on the politics forum aside, I have already been more active than I intended there. I read the FAQ's, which gave some advice on what type of picture to have (no cock shots!) and I am tempted to change my picture to one actually of me, albeit not a close-up face picture. I have some concerns about students or parents finding my picture and complaining about me, so I wouldn't really be comfortable with a face picture. My question is how much does it matter? Obviously I have read that men respond more to visual stimulus than women, so should I be more concerned with my written profile? Is my picture okay as it is or should I put some more thought into it?


I can only speak from personal experience. I used to have a profile picture. It was not a cock shot, but it wasn't of my smiling mug either. It was a shot from behind, primarily of my back and way less ass than the average plumber shows when he's under your sink. I came on the fora to ask an unrelated question and the ass-ripping that I received for my pic -- two years ago -- is just now starting to heal.

The Domme-to-male-sub ratio here is enormous, so I imagine that even if you look like Brad Pitt, a picture isn't going to get you much more direct solicitation (her initiation) that what you have now -- well, except for fin dommes.

If you initiate contact, it would probably be wise to offer (in that first note) to provide pictures if she desires. Granted, some Dommes probably discard notes unread from those without profile pix (or "real" ones -- as in contrast to what you have now) and therefore would miss your offer. But I'd have to imagine that those who do that are either very busy or at least kinda shallow or both. You have to ask yourself if that's the kind of Domme you want to involve yourself with.



LadyPact -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 12:48:17 PM)

I'm going to step up and say yes, it matters. With the gender ratio being so far out of balance on a kinky internet site, you want every advantage that you can have above the vast sea of males out there. No, it's not a necessary requirement to every female out there. For the ones who feel the opposite way about the subject, why give all of those guys who have a pic up a better chance than you?

There are a lot of ways to post a pic of yourself without making it easy to identify you. Be creative. If you can't be creative, be clever. See what other male submissives are posting. Some of the most popular submissives on these boards have avatars of themselves but you'd never be able to know it was them if you passed them on the street.



wannapleez -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 1:19:08 PM)

Would "Vast Sea of Males" be erotica or horror? ;-)



LadyPact -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 1:20:49 PM)

That's a whole 'nother thread.



EsotericLady -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 1:38:55 PM)

OMG! Hahahahahahahahaha
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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

Would "Vast Sea of Males" be erotica or horror? ;-)




EsotericLady -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 1:52:16 PM)

Personally? I don't take 100% stock in people's profile photos for the simple reason that:

I have yet to meet someone in person who looks exactly like the photos they offer with their profiles.

Well over 50% of photos you see in avatars of incredibly alluring, sexy, and flawlessly bodied individuals are being used by someone who looks entirely the
opposite.

Many photos are several years old...if not more.







irishayes -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 1:53:01 PM)

Yes, it matters. I'm not saying it's the "be all, end all" thing of course, but just keep in mind that your profile (including picture) is often times the one and only source of info anyone has to form an opinion on. It tells people a lot about you, your interests, and your priorities both in and outside of bdsm. It doesn't have to be something amazing, but the more work you put into your picture and profile, the better because a lot of people don't put in any effort at all and trust me, women notice.

So, bottom line, pick something you're comfortable with and that represents you as a person in a way that you would want people to think of you.



wannapleez -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 3:49:24 PM)

Thank you. I'm here all week. Don't forget to tip your waiters and waitresses.

(Though, frankly, I thought LP's response was even funnier.)


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ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

OMG! Hahahahahahahahaha
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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

Would "Vast Sea of Males" be erotica or horror? ;-)






xLaChienne -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 7:19:20 PM)

I have had many people message Me that didn't have a picture on profile but sent one in the initial message or soon thereafter. I've always been completely fine with that.

So it's not necessary to have one on profile if you are concerned about it but it is nice if you have one to share.

In that, make sure you have a stellar profile and a decent introduction.



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 7:50:27 PM)

As a general rule of thumb, recognizing that there are MANY exceptions to all general rules of thumb, men care more about pictures of women than women do about pictures of men. I think this is why, whenever I look through the most recent new women's profiles, about 80% of them have pictures of drop dead gorgeous young women.

What's even more amazing than that ratio is how many of them seem to be the products of multiple births, from litters that make "Octomom" look like a piker.



SomethingCatchy -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 10:11:57 PM)

I spent years dating men who were physically unattractive because I felt that I needed to. Being shallow is bad, right? Now I only date men who I find attractive. If the picture isn't up to snuff my interest will drop, but how far depends on his personality, too.

Basically knowing what someone looks like is very important to me because I've embraced the fact that I'm shallow and need to be sexually attracted to partners.



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/8/2013 10:30:59 PM)

I would say, that what you post on this side, is A LOT more important than your profile picture. A profile picture is important, if you want to capture some attention, so it is important. What you say in your profile, is usually what gets any dominant's serious attention or reply.
There is no picture up at present, so I cannot comment on that.
Good luck, M



thezeppo -> RE: How important is the profile picture? (2/9/2013 6:05:18 AM)

I have been laughing reading the replies to this. Thanks everybody, I think I will change my picture if I start using the other side more regularly. I will try to think of something that says a bit more about me, this one is very misleading. I'm not even that cleverly disguised.



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