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ORIGINAL: badpaliden

Well I think  one of the aspects  that Calandra was mentioning was the idea that it could be a common goal to be obtained  as  the folks involved got to know each other.

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

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Hello Bp, great question. I for one would never travel anywhere without a safety net. The prospective sub/slave should have and if asked be able to prove the ability to get home and have a place to go.

If they work outside the home while i agree the majority of their earnings should go towards upkeep and living expenses a sum should be set aside for them that they cannot touch just in case.

I realize not everyone can produce a huge sum just prior to traveling to relocate but anybody should be able to put away at least bus or airfare.

Scooter and Jewel have kept subbies on in the house until they had a job or a way to travel but i can see where if the relationship went really bad this could be an issue

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ORIGINAL: lisa1978

Having money set aside that the other person cannot touch is just very smart and basic common sense and it is certainly something I have and will do. For a dominant to insist on it before the submisssive moves in with them sounds great in theory.

Now tell me how practical it is? To grow attached to someone and care about them to where you want to live in the same house but then going, sorry but I need to see $2,000 before we go any farther. Something tells me theory sounds better than practice.

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

Personally I think its a great idea, that way if it doesn't work out the person has some money to get home on. I think people who move without meeting prior particulary need to have some money banked away just in case. Let's face no matter how much you talk to someone on the phone or online you don't REALLY know them until you've been around each other IRL. It pays to take precautions.

~Lashra

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ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing

To expand on this a bit, we have a preference that a completely new prospective servant (especially one with very little lifestyle experience) who wishes to relocate to our area start by obtaining an apartment (preferably in our area of town -- we have a good arrangement with the company that manages the property we're living in now, and has several buildings with -very- reasonable, inexpensive apartments within 5 blocks of our complex) and at least a part-time job (enough to be able to pay for food, groceries, and any bills they have like charge cards, etc.) for the first 3 months.

We also expect that our servants will work outside of their service to the enclave (especially now that we are in a very small place and both working full-time as well as going to school, and so have little to keep a servant occupied for hours on end every day). We find that this enables daily contact for observation in the beginning, and helps to keep a reasonable pace in getting established, while providing a "haven" and some security for the prospect until we determine whether or not he or she will fit more closely as family. It also helps to weed out those who are truly interested in developing a relationship from those who are strictly searching for someone to pay their bills and give them a place to live, rent-free (unfortunately, we had 3 of those, when we were first starting out in the process of "vetting" new servants without LEB's input, which actually ended up costing in the 6-figures to terminate their participation in our household).

Does anyone else have these kinds of requirements as well?

ZWD

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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold


I do...now...
Whether all the submissives out there who argue to the contrary want to believe it or not, there are an awful lot of folks who are seeking to "run away", as I put it.  I have offered, several times in the past to allow a boy to try this lifestyle (and Me) "on for size".  Not surprisingly, I am turned down.  They do not want to move, find a job, and take a 6 months lease on a nearby apartment.  Yet it makes perfect sense. But if I say "Sure!  Come on down, and move on in" they are good to go. 
I have also been left with extra expenses and the worry of "where will he go", because no provision was in place.  My fault as much as the submissive's fault.  But we learn.
If there is a good, solid relationship, and the people are in the right place, mentally and emotionally, then I have no problem, and there would be certain arrangements in place.  But the other option of moving nearby for a trial is often refused.   Why is that?