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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: My Sandwich Fetish (2/12/2013 3:26:05 AM)
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Well you are lucky that eating sandwiches and receiving oral sex are two things that many women enjoy. Your kink is likely to be an easy one to indulge and I imagine very few people will have sandwiches as a hard limit.
But don't forget that you've spent a long time building up these fantasies in your head, and reality rarely works in the same way. You need to have a good long think (preferably after you masturbate so you don't get side-tracked into sandwich-land) about what you are offering in this arrangement. If you are going to submit to someone, you have to be willing to follow their orders and indulge their kinks. Most dominants will happily give their sub a bit of their favourite things, but most of the time it goes the dominant's way, so if you don't get some degree of pleasure from actually serving and submitting, you may not really want a Mistress.
For example: Imagine I'm the Mistress. We have a weekend together. During that time, I would like to have you make me a hot meal, wash up, run me a bath, rub my feet and then watch some movies with me. Maybe I'll send you to buy me ice cream. Then I'd like to go shopping, and when we get home you can tidy the house. Sex time - I want to role play that I'm a sexy enemy spy and I've captured you. This will involve some pain play and me dumping cold water over you, because that turns ME on. Then we snuggle and the next day at lunch time I decide to treat you by having sandwich-related-funtime. See how it's about YOU serving ME and when I do your thing, it's because I WANT to treat you. Be honest with yourself - would you be happy with that? Would you be able to enjoy serving and doing the dominant's bidding? Or would you just be going through the motions and constantly asking about when it was your turn?
I mention this because you give me the impression of someone who is looking to act out a very specific fantasy and that fantasy is crowding everything else out of your head. You are unlikely to find someone else who is as excited by this as you are, so you need to make sure you don't lose sight of the other person's desires and needs. If my husband suddenly developed a clown fantasy, you will find me buying giant shoes and practicing face-painting, because I care about him and my needs are being met. If you want to do this specific fantasy, you need to get someone to care about your pleasure. That might be a Mistress who is getting such excellent service from you she wants to reward you. It might be a good friend who does it in exchange for you acting out a fantasy for her. It might be someone who does it for you in exchange for money or chores.
This should be an easy one. Be a great person, give something back and you WILL get to act out your fantasies.
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