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BLACKKAJIRA -> Not sure wat to do????? (2/15/2013 8:06:03 AM)

i am a black sub who loves to be dominated by white women i have had no luck in this i was wondering if someone could help me..... and i love race-play...Please Help!!!!!!!!!!




SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/15/2013 10:40:45 AM)

Start with this link. Profile Help: How to Attract a Dominant Woman

Then move on to this one. CMail Help: How to Contact a Dominant Woman

Other than that, there's no magic wand that will bring you what you want. Be the sort of person that will attract the type of partner you want and exercise patience. That's all you can do.




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/15/2013 10:55:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: BLACKKAJIRA

i am a black sub who loves to be dominated by white women i have had no luck in this i was wondering if someone could help me..... and i love race-play...Please Help!!!!!!!!!!


Well, what have you tried?

Are you going to munches and community events? Are you looking for profiles that interest you and sending thoughtful emails which show that you are interested in them for more than just a fantasy-fulfillment system?

Your profile says nothing about you. You've made no effort at all. Dominant females are a minority group and in high demand. So you need to put your best foot forward and show what an awesome person you are. Show yourself as more than your kink. So you like race play? OK. What else? Do you like to go to clubs, to bake, to crotchet, to do ballroom dancing? Are you a great listener, an adventurous soul, a fan of the fine arts? And what are you looking for? Long term, play-only, fuck buddies, lifelong partners?

Basically give some idea of what life would be like is someone got with you.

Here's the thing. A dominant woman has no shortage of people wanting to lick her pussy and be bossed around. What's harder to find is to find someone who is interesting and compatible enough to enjoy spending the other 23 hours of the day with.

Strive to be the best person you can be. Learn skills that make you useful. Be a really good, honest, well-rounded individual. And be pro-active in meeting people so they can see that about you. The rest is just patience.




TNDommeK -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/15/2013 12:46:53 PM)

That's what I told her in the intro section. Her profile is blank. Op, you've gotten great advice here. Get out of the house, go to munches and play parties. The world is waiting!




muhly22222 -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/15/2013 1:06:47 PM)

I just have one more piece of advice to add to what AS said. When you put something in your profile, keep it positive. Negativity will attract negativity, and you'll hate your search online.

I only say this because you have a journal that is in all-caps, with lots of exclamation points, and a very negative overall tone, and that's all that you tell people about what kind of personality you have. I know I'm not a dominant woman, but I am a dominant man who is currently looking, and I wouldn't send you a message based on what's in your profile now.




LadyPact -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/15/2013 8:02:58 PM)

From just this short blip, I would guess that you are making the same mistake that a lot of men make. You are chasing a kink (race play) rather than trying to attract a person.

Worst.

Method.

Ever.




BLACKKAJIRA -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/24/2013 6:02:28 PM)

Thank You all very much




BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/24/2013 7:52:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
From just this short blip, I would guess that you are making the same mistake that a lot of men make. You are chasing a kink (race play) rather than trying to attract a person.
Worst.

Method.

Ever.
I agree with this 100%. M




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Not sure wat to do????? (2/25/2013 4:47:19 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
From just this short blip, I would guess that you are making the same mistake that a lot of men make. You are chasing a kink (race play) rather than trying to attract a person.
Worst.

Method.

Ever.
I agree with this 100%. M

When men do that, we usually tell them we are women, not kink delivery systems. I think that applies here too. [8|]

NBMG




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