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RedMagic1 -> RE: Why is this so hard to do? (2/17/2013 10:40:40 AM)
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ORIGINAL: yugla
Why is it that a simple request to prove ones truthfulness or existence is such a great conversation stopper ; a simple iChat or yahoo Im?
The trick is to move the conversation to a point where the person you are talking to wants to demonstrate good faith.
Put the shoe on the other foot. A woman is talking with a man, and she wants to be sure he's not married and cheating. If he gives her his number or his Skype info, and offers to call her or take a call more or less whenever she wants -- 7 in the morning, or 9 at night -- he probably really is single. Just the fact that he made the offer is often enough. Same thing about women cam-verifying. Women know that men on the site have to deal with scammers. Asking for video or voice verification before making travel plans is completely reasonable. Make her feel safe and interested, and she'll be happy to verify, 99% of the time. (Even the women on this thread saying they never would, actually might, given that scenario. They are responding to your defensive tone, as I read things anyway.)
If you talk with someone for a short time, and can't get her to feel safe and interested, then the two of you are incompatible, and my suggestion to both of you would be to save time and move on.
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