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njlauren -> RE: How do you know if he/she is interested in Femdom? (2/24/2013 8:52:09 PM)
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I agree about the relationship with a coworker, those things are generally fraught for a lot of reasons...
That said, the only way to find out is to ask. There are plenty of ways to introduce her to the subject, there have been plenty of articles about 50 shades of gray and other such books, for example, not a bad way to break the ice. But as others said, what is wrong about talking about sex? And more importantly, do you need to come out immediately and say "I am interested in being the sub to a woman" or something like that..
For example, you guys are going to bed, and say "hey, hon, what do you think of roleplaying? I would love to try having it so I am there to serve you, to have you tell me what you want, how you want it, to let me pamper you, and give you what you need" and build from there. You could also try the more direct approach, and say something like "you know, I really have been wanting to try and find a relationship where I can explore the dynamics between us, where we can explore different things. I would love it to have the relationship more where my partner leads things, instead of me" and if she is intrigued, explain it. There are a ton of ways to do it, there are books on the subject, too (I think greenery press has someone).
And yes, it is possible to do that, happened in my case:). One of the secrets is taking it slow, and explaining the difference between pain (which is stubbing ones toe in the middle of the night going to feed the cat) and sensation (getting flogged or whipped):). Like I said, there is plenty of opportunity to break the ice with everything flying around these days.
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