So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here

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Toppingfrmbottom -> So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/25/2013 2:47:15 PM)
And I asked the leader could I come back and help them out, and I'd work on my talking and my constant interrupting and irritating people , and she said yes I could come back! I am very excited because they're super close, they're only 5 minutes away, and they meet every Wednesday, and should I want to learn to quilt or cut quilt squares or anything like that, they'd teach me and supply everything I needed, i wouldn't have to buy a thing.

TheLilSquaw -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/25/2013 3:56:01 PM)
That's a good step. Don't get discouraged, I know that is easier said than done at times.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/25/2013 6:58:01 PM)
I just have to remember listen more than I talk!

JeffBC -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/26/2013 7:11:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I just have to remember listen more than I talk! While that's a good indicator it's kind of off-base in my opinion. What matters is not how much you listen or talk. What matters is whether you genuinely care about someone else's opinion. Do you solicit that opinion? Do you ask questions when you don't understand it or it seems stupid? Do other people's opinions change your own on a regular basis? In other words, to you respect them. That, in the end, is what people want... to be respected. The way they know you do is because their thoughts matter in your brain. I talk a lot... arguably too much. Carol knees me under the table from time to time on that point. But what is always true is that if I'm talking to someone at all then I care about their opinion.

littlewonder -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/26/2013 10:39:57 AM)
The problem with that Jeff is that tftb isn't aware of the social cues of that. But hopefully maybe your words will help her a little with that but what she needs to do I think is watch how others interact with one another, to catch those cues. It's too bad she doesn't have someone to go along with her to this stuff to help her by stopping her or explaining to her until she understands on her own. tftb, just really pay attention to what others do. Try to pick up on those cues by what others are doing. You are going to have to really focus yourself until you get into the natural habit. Good luck.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/27/2013 1:07:04 AM)
My mom is coming with me to give me someone to sit with and focus on if I get nervouse, and to safely talk to and not be a pest. And to let me know if I might be inadvertently doing something wrong.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/27/2013 1:56:48 PM)
So I went today and I talked very little and listened a whole lot, i didn't stay very long i haven't been sleeping very good and my head was hurting me, but it was a good first re introductory i think.

kalikshama -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/27/2013 1:58:44 PM)
Yay! Glad to hear it :)

DomMeinCT -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/27/2013 2:00:30 PM)
Good for you for getting there and trying it again! You know, you could also have a frank conversation with the leader there and ask her to privately give you feedback/coaching on how you're doing. She might not be the best at it, but just like you're learning and trying, it might allow her to be honest with you and nip a problem in the bud so that you don't get ever to that point again where they ask you not to come.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/27/2013 3:38:55 PM)
DomMeinCT, yes, I told her I wish you would have told me all this before and she said well i didn't want to hurt your feelings. Doing that is the last thing on earth i wanted to do. And I said and I am so very greatful, but it actually hurt more to be so abruptly cut off cause i didn't realize quite what i had done. So I do think it would be a good idea to check in with her privately every few Wednesdays and get a progress report!

Thaz -> RE: So in an effort to rebuild some social bridges, i called a local charity craft group here (2/28/2013 1:13:54 AM)
Getting feedback after any learning activity (be it public speaking and interaction or wild and kinky sex) is a good thing. Possbility arranging subtle hand signals from your mother or the class lead for feeb back IN the event might work for you? Better than collecting bruises on your shins?

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