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going overboard - 2/26/2013 4:51:04 PM

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yes i have adhd and one of my things i find doing often is going way over board from what was asked of me. i have heard that this happens with many who are service oriented to think that if that is good than more would be better and lots better still.
my question is how many of you subs/slave have this happen to them in trying to please the one/s they serve
and how hard is it to accept good enough and not want to do more

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RE: going overboard - 2/26/2013 5:18:43 PM

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I don't have adhd, and I also wouldn't pin point this on being service oriented, because even
outside the realm of a D/s relationship, I will always strive to do/be/offer the best that I can.

In trying to understand your question more clearly, I think I can imagine that the desire
to over achieve could become frustrating, but in my relationship, I have to trust when
he says he is satisfied with something, and feel it would be a nuisance if I persisted.
I don't think this means he doesn't recognize my potential to do even greater though,
and neither should you. :)

< Message edited by poise -- 2/26/2013 5:30:54 PM >

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RE: going overboard - 2/26/2013 6:39:04 PM

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Ask her when it's good enough and when it isn't. My ex, also ADHD, had a saying "good enough for government work". If it isn't a life and death matter, then if the last five percent isn't exactly right, but it is done on time, that's good enough.

Which brings us back to the cell phone. Ask her to time you doing standard tasks. If you know that cleaning the silver should take two hours, set your cell phone for two and a half. That means you stop and it doesn't matter if there's a little tarnish inside the scrolls on the candlesticks. Keep a written list posted of what time things should take and set the alarm for that time with a little extra.

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RE: going overboard - 2/26/2013 7:13:37 PM

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It depends really.

Sometimes I will go overboard on what he has asked me to do but that's because I know how he likes things. Sometimes he will just tell me to do very basics because he thinks I might not have the time or just doesn't think of taking it further or it's just not a big deal to him. In those instances, I will go above and beyond just to make his life simpler.

Other times I only go as far as he tells me because I know from knowing him for so long that if I went further it would somehow interfere with his plans or how he likes something.

I think it all comes down to how well you know the person. I'm pretty good at reading into what Master needs or wants or doesn't.

I guess having adhd it could be a little more complicated though but not having adhd I can't really comment any further.

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RE: going overboard - 2/26/2013 9:04:12 PM

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yes with me i get excited when doing things and just keep going or go too far and carried away with whatever i am doing

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