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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: A very specific interest (3/5/2013 2:50:46 AM)
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Also, don't fall into the trap of thinking that the more unusual your fetish is, the better it is. It's absolutely fine to have the same kink as other people. There's no badge for being more kinky or more freaky than the others. I know that even my wildest fantasies are shared by heaps of other people and don't even make a blip in terms of weirdness. And you know what? That's a good thing. The more people who share your fantasies, the more chance of you finding people who share it, the more erotica and porn that will cover that theme, the more places that will stock the supplies, and the less chance of a potential partner being weirded out by it.
Everyone has their own variations on a fantasy. The more time you spend fantasising about it, the more complicated your mental script will be. I think most of us have fantasies where we imagine 'he says that, she goes there, he reacts like this'. The key is recognising that in real life the other person isn't a mind reader and will have her own ideas of what is hot. If and when you get to try this, it will not follow your mental script. That doesn't mean it won't be good - what it means is that you will have to follow the dominant's lead and relax and deal with it not being done exactly as you imagined. If you approach someone saying 'I want to please you by doing exactly a, b and c' you'll put people off, because she might be more pleased by you doing a, b and g. I hope that makes sense. No one wants to be a puppet in someone else's play. Every partner you meet wants to feel they have an input and their desires are important. A dominant partner will want to feel they have the final say - that's the point.
The other thing is - with most kinks you will have a group of people who are into it, a group that won't do it at all, and a group that would be willing to do it for someone they cared about. So if you are looking for someone who wants this as much as you, that might only be one domme in ten (pulling numbers out of my ass here). Maybe only 1 in 1000 if you want it exactly according to your own script. On the other hand, another 3 dommes out of 10 might be willing to do it for a wonderful sub that they care about and that serves enthusiastically and puts her desires first. So... you could hire a prostitute to act out your script (I say prostitute because pro-dommes generally won't have sexual contact with you, and I'm guessing that's very important), you could hold out for that rare creature who is into it as much as you.... or you could cultivate a solid relationship based on service and make a domme care about you so much she wants to fulfill your fantasies.
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