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dearestdarling21 -> excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/4/2013 10:24:39 PM)

I am so happy to have joined this site, if only for the abundance of like minded people and kindness. Everyone has been more than sweet and completely welcoming. I am so excited to be educated and broken in a little :D
If anyone would like to be my personal guide or make a new friend I am completely open, and I would love to learn everything there is to know about 1950's households!
I couldnt be more excited and I hope I meet a daddy here to please and offer my complete submission to.

Good Luck to everyone
Peace <3 [;)]



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/4/2013 10:44:05 PM)

Welcome to the boards, come and join in some discussions you will learn a lot.



dearestdarling21 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/4/2013 10:54:40 PM)

Thank You :D



DarkSteven -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 4:22:53 AM)

Welcome to the forums.

The keywords you want are Taken in Hand, Domestic Discipline, and Head of Household.



TNDommeK -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 6:20:53 AM)

Welcome!



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 6:27:36 AM)

Welcome dd, there is much to learn here.

As an aside, please be aware there are those who stalk CM profiles looking for new subs -- they figure you are so deeply into sub frenzy you won't notice how inexperienced, creepy, or abusive they are.

In the beginning stages of getting to know a dominant, you are *both* equal, until you *both* decide to engage in a power dynamic. Until then, treat it as any other relationship in terms of wanting to get to know the other.

Also, many of us feel you should not engage in a power dynamic unless and until you meet. Which means you meet early in a public place with minimal expectations beyond friendship.

Best, CP




dearestdarling21 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 6:32:58 AM)

Thank you so much

That is a really scary thought, that someone would abuse the trust and openness of all of this. I hope that I am well equipped for this, but your advice is a gift that I really do appreciate.
I will do my best to be calm and selective.
Thank You so much



dearestdarling21 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 6:34:06 AM)

Thank you so much! I am crazy excited to learn more about all of this, its like school but way more fun!



Hillwilliam -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 8:00:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: dearestdarling21

Thank you so much! I am crazy excited to learn more about all of this, its like school but way more fun!

You've obviously never seen the things I can do with a yard stick have you young lady. [8D]

Welcome



dearestdarling21 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 8:20:26 AM)

obviously! you should take those skills to the schools, or mine anyway. what a fantastic sense of humor, i never imagined that I would enjoy a wonderful spanking joke today :D
:D i like your avatar too.



muhly22222 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 12:03:00 PM)

Welcome to the forums!

As long as you stick around and ask questions you might have, you'll learn a lot. And you might even have your eyes opened to whole new worlds that you didn't even know existed.

And, you know, you can still have a fair amount of fun while you're doing that.



DarkSteven -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 6:11:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

As an aside, please be aware there are those who stalk CM profiles looking for new subs -- they figure you are so deeply into sub frenzy you won't notice how inexperienced, creepy, or abusive they are.



Gee whiz, Chatte, how the hell am I supposed to take advantage of her if you warn her off? [sm=angry.gif]



dearestdarling21 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 9:38:10 PM)

no one has frightened me away yet! plenty of time to stalk and dirty talk!!!!!!!!!



DarkSteven -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/5/2013 10:15:32 PM)

Yay! A true victim! Er, I mean true submissive!



OohAahMrs -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/6/2013 3:36:34 AM)

Hey there 21, or is it DD or even Double DD I don't know where this is going?



dearestdarling21 -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/6/2013 7:04:19 AM)

lol its all of the above? but no double DD's here :( I dont have the frame for it talk about over powered!

you guys are so funny!

I want to post in the other forums but I have so many questions and it would seem silly to just post something for each silly little idea that pops into my head, or every outrageous question!

Am I allowed to ask Dom's for pics?
Should I start conversations like I would normally in public or should I be reverent and submissive from the first email?

Im still just as enthusiastic as when I started, I just am getting overwhelmed. There aren't any set rules, and just like life everyone is different. Some people want to just chat and get to know me and then ease into D/S relationship. Others want to start immediately with kinda scary and extremely intimidating messages (seriously I get a little nervous)

FIRST LESSON I'VE LEARNED----> separate being horny from being truly interested.



DarkSteven -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/6/2013 7:19:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dearestdarling21

Am I allowed to ask Dom's for pics?
Sure you are. Why not?
quote:



Should I start conversations like I would normally in public or should I be reverent and submissive from the first email?


If you want to call a Dom Sir, go right ahead. It's a free country. That said, any Dom who insists on it is a wanker - move on.

Every Dom will have his own protocol. But until you agree to be his, normal manners prevails.
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Im still just as enthusiastic as when I started, I just am getting overwhelmed. There aren't any set rules, and just like life everyone is different. Some people want to just chat and get to know me and then ease into D/S relationship. Others want to start immediately with kinda scary and extremely intimidating messages (seriously I get a little nervous)

FIRST LESSON I'VE LEARNED----> separate being horny from being truly interested.


If they want to get to know you, good. If they insist on insta-submission, they're not interested in a full relationship, just some kinky thrills. If you're intimidated at the start, drop things. You have no obligation to any pixels on the Internet.

Plus, from a personal POV - I take pride in the fact that I can drive a conversation. I can slowly find out about a woman, assess whether we'd be a good fit, and then slowly ease her in, making her feel comfortable all the while. I look down on an alleged Dom who's incapable or uninterested in doing just that.



tommonymous -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/6/2013 7:32:52 AM)

DarkSteven has some good points regarding obligation, intimidation, and individual preference. Go back a re-read them one more time.

Just because you happen to be interested in submitting and someone else happens (ostensibly) to be interested in dominating, does not require you to submit to them. Your early interactions should be just like any normal interactions would be. (Tell me about yourself: What are your goals for this and in life? What are your interests? What do you love/ hate/ etc that's not mentioned on your profile? Et cetera.)

I will say, though, that being called Sir/ Master/ Grand Poobah in a first message (or, really, most any time) kind of weirds me out. I'm probably in the minority though. I really enjoy kink, but I've always had a bit of an issue (mostly just trying to not giggle) with self-imposed titles. You should each know where the other stands, right? So why the need to put on extras? Like I said, I'm in the minority here, and others will whole-heartedly disagree. And that's totally fine, since my goals and preferences aren't necessarily theirs. (Hence the need for discussion about goals and preferences in any relationship, including our kind.)

Also, good work recognizing that there's a difference between horny and interested (on both sides).

Anyway, welcome to the forum! Enjoy yourself, and search for any questions you might have. Odds are, someone else has had them, too.

Best,

Tom.



WithBellsOn -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/6/2013 7:37:00 AM)

You should definitely go with the style that makes you comfortable, and absolutely get pics -- physical attraction does matter! Once you're ready to meet IRL, you're probably going to want to meet someone in a public place first -- don't be shy about insisting on this if they have other ideas! And once you get to the point where you're comfortable going somewhere more private with them, consider having a silent alarm in place. Basically, you tell someone where you're going to be, who you're going to be with, and what time you're going to call them (which should be after you and your Dom part ways). Then if they don't hear from you, and they can't reach you, they call the cops.

Obviously, it's VERY VERY important to make your check-in call on time -- maybe set an alarm on your phone to remind you!

And please don't be alarmed by the suggestion -- I've been in the scene for years and never had any problems. Think of this as a safety measure like having a fire extinguisher around -- it doesn't mean you're expecting a fire, just that you're prepared if there ever is one.

I also HIGHLY recommend Fetlife, if you don't have an account there yet. Lots of groups for various interests, plus information about things like local munches and play parties.



MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: excitement. like a little girl in a doll store (3/6/2013 7:45:11 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dearestdarling21

lol its all of the above? but no double DD's here :( I dont have the frame for it talk about over powered!

you guys are so funny!

I want to post in the other forums but I have so many questions and it would seem silly to just post something for each silly little idea that pops into my head, or every outrageous question!

Am I allowed to ask Dom's for pics?
Should I start conversations like I would normally in public or should I be reverent and submissive from the first email?

Im still just as enthusiastic as when I started, I just am getting overwhelmed. There aren't any set rules, and just like life everyone is different. Some people want to just chat and get to know me and then ease into D/S relationship. Others want to start immediately with kinda scary and extremely intimidating messages (seriously I get a little nervous)

FIRST LESSON I'VE LEARNED----> separate being horny from being truly interested.


Listen to your Red Flags, they pop up for a REASON. Stay away from the ones who scare you or make you uneasy. And take PRECAUTIONS when meeting the other ones who have gained your trust, eevn when you "feel safe because they are nice". It's the same rule as with any meet-up, keep personal safety in mind, and initial meet-ups are just to get to know each other. Don't submit until you are "feeling it", don't let him pressure you into submission. Submission should only happen after Trust is established.

And don't let the big bad Steven scare you...he's one of the GOOD Doms, so take his advice.
(good ACT though Steven! LMAO)

--MM



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