LillyBoPeep
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Reading the profile makes this whole thing seem extra silly. But I do think there was deceit on part of the slave; she knew that her M had particular rules for speaking with this person, and she took the ex's word, and then didn't openly share that she'd started talking to the ex for a month. That is a little deceitful and suspicious. I mean, I can only look at it through my own filter, where I would've doubled checked with my M on something like that, rather than just taking this person's self-serving word for it.
And now using this situation as a means to drag a unicorn into your life to "teach" her how to be a "twue slave" - it's definitely becoming something silly. If you, the Master, can't teach her what you want from her, maybe that's the root of your problem? As others here have stated, a person can't be "stolen" away; they WANT to go somewhere else. Sometimes that happens for silly reasons you can do nothing about, but other times, it happens for real reasons that need to be considered and dealt with.
My late M told me to whittle down communication with my ex, because I told him about it, and that this person only seeks me out and talks to me after someone's broken up with him, and he stresses me out with his "woe is me, why didn't i see how good you are?" crap in the wake of these breakups. There can definitely be good reasons to do that, that don't involve insecurity. M had absolutely no reason to fear that I was jumping ship any time soon; he knew, through and through, what my feelings for him were, how much I loved and respected him. So when he did that, it was his way of motivating me to do something that we both knew i already knew I needed to do, if that makes sense. =p I don't necessarily have a problem with D-types limiting contact with certain people; not everyone in a person's life is a healthy influence, and some people actually do begin to function as outright threats to the relationship.
But I have to ask the OP - what is your usual method of dealing with issues? Do you have clearly stated expectations? Sometimes when people act out, they're acting out against an environment that isn't working. I'm not attempting to make an excuse for the slave in this case - she did lie, as I read it anyway, and dishonesty sucks. But if a person is inconsistent and over-the-top in response, that can create a place that a person might want to jump from.
I really DON'T think bringing another person into your relationship, another slave - particularly one who suits your sexual tastes - is the way to handle this. Your sexual tastes have nothing to do with "training" to be a real slave. It's my experience that sex is rarely where people slip up; it's the day to day life stuff, the desire to obey and please, to feel devotion and loyalty -- and those things can be mentored by someone who's 300 lbs and from Columbia. =p The idea that only a bisexual, hwp, white (your preference) slave can mentor about REAL LIFE issues is what makes this all so laughable. Handle this like real adults, please.
If you want her to know what it takes to be a slave to YOU, then YOU need to show her what you want from her. You're the Master. You have to own it.
< Message edited by LillyBoPeep -- 3/8/2013 6:01:22 AM >
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RE: A lying slave - 
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can learn "the proper way to be a slave" signals disfunction so deep I'm suprised the EPA hasn't shown up on the doorstep. No 3rd party is going to do everything the way another expects. If a slave isn't taught what I expect over a long period of time BY ME then how the hell is someone outside the relationship going to know?
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