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OsideGirl -> RE: what would you do? (3/9/2013 5:19:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Asyra Good point... thanks, it's comforting. I know I must really seem stupid, but I'm just so deceived and fed up that it happens all the time. I'll be honest. You allowed it to happen. You had a sexual discussion with a stranger instead of shutting it down. Then got upset when sexual conversation got him excited and he asked for more. You'd be surprised how saying "I don't discuss my sex life with people I don't know" will weed out the wankers.

DesFIP -> RE: what would you do? (3/9/2013 7:11:07 PM)
He got excited and started thinking with the small head. You told him to stop and he did. Now see what the next conversation is like. If he repeatedly goes too fast that's one thing, if it's just the one time that's another. Everyone makes mistakes. The better ones don't repeat them. With that said, he's allowed to want to know if you're sexually compatible before wasting three months time on you. So did you tell him when he's allowed to talk sexually to you? And did he agree to allow you to control his sexuality in the meantime?

DomMeinCT -> RE: what would you do? (3/9/2013 7:35:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl You'd be surprised how saying "I don't discuss my sex life with people I don't know" will weed out the wankers. I'll heartily second that. And if they don't self-select after they read that in your profile or respond to it in conversation, you can cut off the conversation (and not invest more time or emotion) with confidence knowing that you're not moving forward with someone who ignored your wishes from day 1.

littlewonder -> RE: what would you do? (3/9/2013 9:34:33 PM)
Yes you are right. Move on.

Sirspassion -> RE: what would you do? (3/9/2013 10:05:38 PM)
I am happy to see that you posted this question. I always feel a little arrogant to say right up front, I'm sorry I do not wish to get sexual with you... It seems that it is not arrogant at all but simply a way to 'weed out the wankers' :). Good job for you reaching out and getting advice, i had neither the courage nor the confidence to ask. thank you sincerely.

JeffBC -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 8:56:13 AM)
In what way is asserting one's boundaries "arrogant"? Don't we all have a right to that? Nor is it "arrogant" for a dom to assault that boundary if he doesn't like it. Then it becomes a win/lose thing. If he is actually dominant over the other person he wins. Otherwise he loses. Then we know the truth of the D/s dynamic.... sans agreements and roles. I think the arrogant thing has to do with role-based D/s, eg: "as a sub/slave I should not...."

Dyfrynt -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 10:12:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Asyra No, I was just sure of this one. And I think the fact that I'm under lots of stress atm didn't help in judging. Of all your comments this is the one that is most alarming to me. How did you come to that conclusion by a phone conversation? I'd really like to hear your answer to that. Please also understand that lots-of-stress should never be used as an excuse for hasty judgment. If you are under that much stress that you cannot think clearly, now is not the time to be looking. Take a break until things settle down a bit.

Heavenly1 -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 4:33:51 PM)
I have run into similar situation. though we met several times and then I went to his place and once he had me I was forgotten and he fell asleep...I left without him knowing as he was asleep. I know as a sub not always will we get pleasure but it really made me feel insulted, and vety unattractive. I told him of my feelings the next day he told me I was making a mole hill out of nothing and has not contracted me again. Now I thought u supposed to express something when it bothers u to the Dom and we were to discuss it...

OsideGirl -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 4:39:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Heavenly1 I have run into similar situation. though we met several times and then I went to his place and once he had me I was forgotten and he fell asleep...I left without him knowing as he was asleep. I know as a sub not always will we get pleasure but it really made me feel insulted, and vety unattractive. I told him of my feelings the next day he told me I was making a mole hill out of nothing and has not contracted me again. Now I thought u supposed to express something when it bothers u to the Dom and we were to discuss it... How is that even remotely the same? She was having a conversation with a stranger that asked to her to masturbate on the cam and got butt hurt when she said no. In your case, I would say that you're involved with someone doesn't really care what you think....which means that you should probably re-think who you get involved with.

littlewonder -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 8:37:59 PM)
So he fell asleep after you had sex with him. So? Honey, I'm gonna let you in on a secret. All men fall asleep after sex, at least every man I have ever known and that's quite a lot. I think you sneaking out and not sticking around was more tacky to be honest. It makes you sound like you wanted the sex and nothing else...wham bam thank you Ma'am and I'll call you.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 9:03:22 PM)
Are you new to male female relationships? It's called "sweet talking." Men's manliness is often judged on how good we are at it. quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: Asyra Sigh... I think so too... I just can't believe this happened after all he said. I don't get it. Maybe they do have 2 brains after all.... Seriously?!?!? Are you new to the internet?

absolutchocolat -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 9:10:09 PM)
Hell, I fall asleep after sex...and if it's really good, I even start snoring. [;)] Also, even if it's a booty call, I leave a little note on a napkin. It's good manners. As for the OP, I just posted this on another thread, but it bears repeating -- until you meet someone offline, it's just wank fodder. They could shoot Skittles out of their ass, but I am not putting my heart in it until I can smell or touch the person. It saves valuable time and energy.

OsideGirl -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 9:13:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: absolutchocolat They could shoot Skittles out of their ass, but I am not and do not put my heart in it until I can smell or touch the person. It saves valuable time and energy. I love this!

absolutchocolat -> RE: what would you do? (3/11/2013 9:24:07 PM)
LOL, thanks. I love Skittles.

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: what would you do? (3/12/2013 12:36:47 AM)
Remember Dominant does not mean Decent... When I first joined here someone pointed out I was romanticizing doms.. they are still people and each one still has or lacks morals, values, strengths, weaknesses. Go on a vanilla dating site and you will see the same thing..men who will say what you want then, if they think you are buying it..will revert to form

kalikshama -> RE: what would you do? (3/12/2013 2:20:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Heavenly1 I have run into similar situation. though we met several times and then I went to his place and once he had me I was forgotten and he fell asleep...I left without him knowing as he was asleep. I know as a sub not always will we get pleasure but it really made me feel insulted, and vety unattractive. I told him of my feelings the next day he told me I was making a mole hill out of nothing and has not contracted me again. Now I thought u supposed to express something when it bothers u to the Dom and we were to discuss it... Sweetie, it doesn't sound like he is your Dom. It sounds like you were his booty call. Additionally, if your expectation is that you get an orgasm, you should discuss this ahead of time. Ditto for aftercare.

Theservileone -> RE: what would you do? (3/14/2013 3:02:44 PM)
I say block his troll ass.

tazzygirl -> RE: what would you do? (3/14/2013 3:16:06 PM)
quote: Hell, I fall asleep after sex...and if it's really good, I even start snoring. My feeling is... if I can still walk enough to make it out the door after sex, it wasnt good to begin with and I definitely wont go back for more.

darkangel66 -> RE: what would you do? (3/18/2013 9:23:19 PM)
Kick him... Don't waste your time, your energy or your resources on this guy.

theRose4U -> RE: what would you do? (3/18/2013 9:57:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UnholyBear quote: ORIGINAL: Asyra Sigh... I think so too... I just can't believe this happened after all he said. I don't get it. Maybe they do have 2 brains after all.... The reality is anyone is able to say anything they want while sitting behind a keyboard. They can portray themselves to be a paragon of virtue one until they are called on their bullshit and lies. Sad fact is many of the male species derive a twisted pleasure of talking a damn good speech simply to get their dick wet. Oh you've met my ex? [:D]

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