njlauren -> RE: Gun play in bdsm? (3/16/2013 1:00:09 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote:
ORIGINAL: HisPet21 Honest to goodness, I don't know enough about guns to make a judgement call on them. I don't know enough to decide, for myself, whether or not I think gun play can be responsible. But I do wish to comment on this little tidbit... quote:
Lots of people are saying, "I would never engage in gun play, and here's why." You're repeatedly saying, "Anyone who engages in gun play knows nothing about guns, and is a general dumbshit." I'm not trying to be a dick, Red, but I think this is a little more than unfair. It's very possible to disagree with someone's choices or habits---even to condemn them as idiotic---and not think of said person as a "general dumbshit." I don't think you are a dick. I agree with your statement. There's a big difference between making a judgement like, "That's unwise," or even, "You should go to jail for that," and stating things that are factually incorrect. njlauren's comments crossed that line. (The people I personally know who have engaged in gunplay are intelligent, and grew up around guns. Not people who never had any gun training as children.) It's easy for that to happen when one analyses a situation from personal triggers instead of looking outward to try to understand the lives and psychology of other people. Here's an unrelated example that is a good illustration of how easy it is to be factually wrong. Everybody who has read crime novels or watched crime shows "knows" that serial killers tend to be connected to the "triad" of bedwetting, animal abuse, and setting fires. The only problem is that it isn't true. There's no such scientific relation. Wouldn't you rather hear from people who engage in gunplay what makes them do it, and what their personal histories are, instead of hearing from people who would never engage in gun play but who are happy to proclaim what all gun players must be like? I would. That's because I prefer science over circlejerk. My thoughts are based on personal experience with guns, and I was talking about something that is quite factual. Take a look at the stats on guns in this country, and a lot of them are accidental shootings, and in more then a few cases, it is caused by complacency, where people have been around guns a long time, and forget what they were taught, what they know. What 'science' do you have that shows I am wrong? I didn't say people doing gun play were untrained, I am saying they are forgetting their training, you talk to an NRA safety instructor and give him/her the scenario you are talking about, and see what they say, and why. I have seen the results of that one careless moment, and yes, I am sensitive to it. The people involved in the incidents I am talking about forgot what they were dealing with, they were complacent, and that is what I worry about with gun edge play, when you turn it into a prop in what is basically an adult form of play, you are taking a step towards complacency, and that is why I say it is foolish. I didn't say people who did gun edge play were stupid, the most intelligent people do foolish things, even stupid things, I just feel they are taking risks they may not even be aware of.
|
|
|
|