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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Online Master Guide (3/12/2013 1:48:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: KrazyJester
From my understanding from reading his profile. He is looking for a guy, and looking for something in person. That being said he found some that he is interested in but doesn't know a thing about how to go about owning a slave and is asking for an "online guide" to help. Not to learn how to be an online roleplay individual.
OK I'm glad I'm not the only one who read it this way.
I think the OP is looking for a guide to being a Master, that you can find online.
OP - Such things do exist, but like anything on the internet, you need to take it with a grain of salt. Remember anyone can put anything on the internet. I could type up instructions right now on how to do open heart surgery, but you have no way of knowing if I'm a surgeon or just some random kook, and as such my advice would be worthless.
Unlike the correct way to perform surgery, however, relationships are personal and subjective. So if you were to read a Master's guide online, there couldn't possibly be studies or independent evidence to back up what that person was saying. And in my experience, the more people preach about the 'right', 'proper' and 'true' ways to do it, the more bollocks they are talking. You don't even know whether they have tried these things, and even if they have...
My relationship, your relationship, the relationship of each person on this thread will look different. If I write an article on how to dominate and tell you that it's crucial you micromanage and schedule every moment of the day, that you use physical punishments for every offence regardless of reason, and that you make your slave always refer to him/herself in the third person, does that mean it will work for you? It might be the exact opposite of what you need.
If you could spend a week each with me, Oside and LittleWonder you would see three very different, but still very successful power exchange relationships. A guide would be useless because chances are none of us would agree with it.
The best advice I can give you about guides is to read as many as possible, along with some non-fiction books on the subject and forums like this, and take EVERYTHING with a pinch of salt. Unless you are learning the safety elements of a specific physical technique we can't tell you the right and wrong way to do it.
The only way to find the right way for YOU to be a Master to THIS slave, is for the two of you to sit down and discuss your likes, dislikes, interests, limits, life circumstances, turn ons, fears and hopes for the relationship. You need to come up with a shared vision for what you would like the relationship to look like - there are no right and wrong answers, as long as everyone's needs are being met. If in your relationship it's important that slaves receive a weekly foot massage, that's what you should do. You don't get your dom card taken away for doing it 'wrong' as long as you're not an abuser.
When you decide what you want it to look like, you can start working towards it and figuring out what needs tweaking.
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