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RE: Am I possessive? Is what I feel normal? - 3/15/2013 8:18:29 AM   
absolutchocolat


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Michael makes a great point. Dating someone that does sex work is definitely not for the faint of heart. Echoing what others have said -- talk to your lady.

You knew what the deal was going in, so deal with the baggage that comes along or ask her to release you from your duties. It would be silly to try to change her or force her to curb her work to stroke your fragile ego.

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RE: Am I possessive? Is what I feel normal? - 3/15/2013 8:23:22 AM   
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I'm here to tell the other half from clip's post.

I'm not a pro, but I am a casual player. I told clip right up front that wasn't going to change if he went from play partner to submissive in My life. It's exactly what I was doing when he met Me and it wasn't going to be any different just because he came along. I might be in the minority on this, but that's the submissive controlling Me, rather than Me controlling the situation.

Yes, some folks have specific rituals or certain types of play that they only do with a specific person. In our house, that specifically relates to the collar, which is a symbol of the dynamic. If you're talking about something like pouring tea, OP, I have to admit that I doubt I'd go for that one. If clip wanted to be the only person that ever served Me a diet pepsi, he'd be shit out of luck. (I doubt your Mistress wants to limit herself to only drinking tea when you are around.) Did you ever stop to consider that the *way* that she takes her tea with you is a ritual between the two of you and the way she takes her tea with the other gentleman is the ritual between them?

Like clip, you really don't have the right to dictate exclusivity. I'm sure you could ask if certain things be just yours, but the decision of whether that will be granted to you really is hers to make, in My opinion. You always have the option of not being in the dynamic if you can't handle that.




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