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SeekingTrinity -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 8:23:19 PM)
OP, I frankly could give less of a shit who you screw, who blows you, or any of the other stuff you go on and on and on and on and on and on and on about. And on and on and on and on. It's the same song, same verse. Always about who all is lusting after your junk, how you truly get off on being a bully to others, and how you are straight as a drunk dude's line at a sobriety checkpoint. My question is...who honestly gives a fuck? It's your life, it's your trip down denial...oops I mean denial...no wait, damned auto correcting iPad...denial. [8\|]. In all seriousness though...if having sex with one of these lusting after your Johnson dudes just isn't your thing, but getting blowjobs by them is...more power to you. If you don't want to hear people's honest opinions, there's one simple solution to it. Don't babble over and over and over again about the same shiznit. The answer isn't likely to change and you just end up confirming the very things you claim to deny. Just sayin' How important is sexual relations to BDSM? You can ask that question to 5 different people and get 5 different answers.

sexyred1 -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 8:36:40 PM)
OP, With your last post, you have now confirmed that not only are you delusional, but you are a total douche. You have insulted pretty much everyone who even bothered to post to your drivel. You call women shrews because you don't like the answers you get. You think sub women don't understand the male dominant POV? Get over yourself. I would venture that we know the male dominant mindset one HELL of alot better than a confused person like yourself. You think BDSM is not about sexuality? Stop lying to yourself. Your pontificating is getting really nauseating.

lizi -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 8:41:13 PM)
Cripes, more of the SOS... OP, do you ever leave the house, or do you sit in front of the mirror all day long telling yourself how unique and wonderful you are? Couple of things- no one cares about your sexuality, you're the one who keeps up the endless speculation on it. The only comments on it are for you to call a spade a spade and stop thinking you're some special rare flower. What you are sexually is dead common, stop attributing magical properties to the arbitrary way you use whatever orifice is in front of you. It's not BDSM, or D/s, or some unique flavor of sexuality; you'll take whoever is there, big whoopdedoo. Lots of guys do this. Sorry if that bursts your bubble. As far as the audience here behaving like "old shrews"....gosh, I'm so hurt. Look up NPD, it's you. The others responding to you are not so much querulous elders finding fault with you, as a body of disparate people who are finding your protestations of how special you are more than a little nauseating. You're a pouty little princess who is enamored with himself. We've seen it before, it's old; it tries one's patience. It's not Dominant by any means; to be fair you should drop that label. Honestly, the best thing I can tell you is to get some therapy, but you won't see the need for it. You'll go on thinking that you're the only one who is right and that you're oh...so special. The postings you post are always the same- no one cares about analyzing you, contrary to what you think. You're a shallow mirror worshipper that has an inflated view of himself.

Poloboi234 -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 9:30:32 PM)
Sexyred- Sorry, that's my observation. Many of the same posters seem to "cut off" someone's head for asking a question or try to "belittle" them and try hard to let them know that they shouldn't be in the "life style" or that they don't know anything, or treat them like crap. Look at any post from a person that is entitled "My master says to do this? or what should I do?" and it's harsh and far from caring. Lizi- Yeah, in some instances my last post was douchey, Sorry just was annoyed with people not answering the question, or even entertaining the question i posed(on previous post as well), and it seemed that they wanted to attack the poster, and not the argument. That's a logical fallacy if I ever saw one. Sorry, to say this, many regulars on here come across as "old shrews" that seem to think that there BDSM relationship is the right way, or the best way, any variation or asking of advice is met with belittlement or trying to "pick apart" the poster's relationship etc... look at what I recieved back? I am mentally disturbed, I need to see a shrink. So let me get this straight... if I'm clear of the view of various posters on here that have a angry "hard on" for me... I am mentally disturbed because I like to role poly as a "Bull" which a person does for power, and I like the "role play" and don't engage in abusive, violent, angry, or mentally destroying sex over some childhood problems, humilation, or pain to get an "orgasm"... and the some of the Shrews (said, some not all) that need to be whipped into submission, beaten until bloody, forced to do every vile or disgusting thing from piss play, to scat are the sane ones? oh, got it... check. I guess you're right.. I need the therapy... Alas, I am kind of a douche, but I am a good guy and a good dom (have gotten no complaints...).. I don't think I am great or unique... many of you put that on me... Shoot, I asked the question to see if any other's were like me.. and what did many here do? shoot me down, and attack me for posing the question, or keep harping on that I am "gay" though I told and stated I wasn't. I also said I have taken on gay and straight subs... but they digressed. I wouldn't lie on here if I wanted a true answer... But I was attacked... now I am being called a "douche" because I am an "Alpha Male".. maybe I give off the typical vanilla guy vibe that many posters here hated, and wanted to get away from... sorry but for your info.. your master, or dom (if male) is just like me... or else he wouldn't be a dom... even if he is nice, or polite not in the dom mode... He does the dom mode for the fact he has these innate male feelings of "power" and being a "dom" helps him assert that or get that urge out... To the fem doms that seem to get pissed at my thoughts, or that they are more compassionate than me.. that is left up to how the sub feels. My subs like the fact that I am an Alpha, arrgoant, douche All-American manly type.. shit, that's the reason they want to be my sub... I embrace it.. difference is.. I take care of my subs desires, or provide a program for what they want, by asking questions, getting to know them, and understanding what it is that they want.. and I go about it in our role play... if that pisses some of the "old shrews" off so be it.. BDSM isn't only for those lost or in the outskirts, or the wall flowers anymore.. it is a style of play, or roleplay I like... I'm not into the whipping, or beating etc.. but I like the dom/sub dynamic... anyone else... I did not mean to offend or disrespect anyone.. it just gets annoying when you ask a question, and instead people want to question your sexuality,or your motive, or try to tell you your too "deranged to be a dom".. etc... since when is there an established criteria? oh, yeah... many think they are because... they like how there dom or sub is? oh.. I get it...

theRose4U -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 9:48:41 PM)
Again with the special little snowflake BS!!! Read up on narcissistic personality disorder. Prime reason this is getting pointed out -you actually believe we give a damn where your dick goes -you actually believe we give a damn WHO is involved -you actually believe harming others is power -you actually believe harming others is acceptable & have provided page after page of in depth sexual detail to justify -you actually believe an Alpha is excuse to harm (in my world you read as anything BUT) -YOU ACTUALLY BELIEVE WE GIVE A DAMN!!! You keep trying to convince everyone how special, superior, straight & ok your actions are...to what end?? "Dominate" all of us with belittling comments for weak "power" to feed insecurity? Funny thing about the power that comes from an Alpha is they don't need weak confirmation of their status, they especially don't need to harm others to get it. My Alpha mate experience very closely followed wolf pack theory, no "proving himself to strangers" was necessary. Hell even his timberwolf pet was the same calm confidence & security of position...even when his shoulder was my pillow.

Poloboi234 -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 10:56:29 PM)
theRose- Umm.. I spoke on my background to show that I wasn't "mentally disturbed" as some pointed out, in fact I was asked, "Why would a straight master take on a male sub"? it was a question I answered.. This is ridiculous, I explain I don't feel special and many doms feel just like me, and you tell me, "I think I am superior to everyone and the best!"umm.. what? I think some people must feel inferior if a person states something, to highlight a question and they say they feel that I am projecting my "superiority" to the group.. I mean... what? listen.. calm down.. it isn't that serious.. this is supposed to be fun... sorry that I may give off the typical "All-American, straight asshole, douche vibe" I guess in my demeanor.. it's the way I was raised. Doesn't take away from my questions... Funny how not one person bothered to answer it really... a lot seem to harp on the fact that I think "I'm superior, perfect snowflake" when I've stated that I am like many doms, and just talked about my experiences.... I don't understand how that pisses people on here off.. Oh. those in BDSM must be mentally disturbed, or dark, or demented to be involved in the culture? is that it... oh, let me make my sub hack off his finger in devotion... haha j/k

Poloboi234 -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 11:00:54 PM)
Rose4U- sorry to burst you're bubble. But your "wolf pack" Alpha is just like me. Obviously I went on my own as I don't engage in sex with my "subs" as many told me that is the standard or only reason...(I guess that's lone wolf) and you're point about "harming others to feel dominant..." ummm.. that is probably exactly what you're dom does to you or other subs... Let's not split hairs here. He probably crops them, makes some tasks that are impossible to keep to give him justification to punish, and what is he punishing the slave or sub for? to better please him, or do as told... I think that is what he is doing... as am I. I guess my attitude is just a bit off...but I digress... no disrespect..

FrostedFlake -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 11:04:19 PM)
For the folks just tuning in, the question was : quote: We'll that's it in a nut shell. I ask you subs, have any of you desired this? have you heard of masters like this? and what would you do if you had a master and no sex was involved with the actual master?

GoddessManko -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/17/2013 11:10:13 PM)
Domming makes me cum so it doesn't matter either way. It's better than sex :)[sm=mistress.gif]

LadyPact -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/18/2013 12:19:08 AM)
OP, I think it might help to have better discussions if you did a little better in some terminology. If you are addressing male subs in your post, that may clarify some things. If the question that you are asking to male subs would be how they feel about penetrative sex, you may want to specify that. Otherwise, you make your point confusing because you say that you will receive oral sex if you are 'hard up' enough, so that makes it confusing. That is, however, exactly why I think you would be more clear in using the term hetero-flexible. If you are willing to engage in sexual acts with the gender other than what you are sexually attracted to, that's kind of the definition of the word. It's the exact fit for the situation you described with people in jail. Basically, you'll do it because there are other factors involved. Just like some Dominants have their submissive engage in sexual acts because it pleases the D. The s-type wouldn't have sought it out, but it is something they engage in sexually because of another influence. Something similar to this topic came up at the munch I was at this evening. See, I happen to like many of the kinks that you like, but I don't engage in them with women because........ drumroll........... I really am straight. It's why I love Dominating men, but I have absolutely no interest in Dominating women sexually. If men fell off of the planet, I'd be celibate. I've owned a cuckold. I can tell you that when I say I've been involved in that kink, the bull isn't in charge. I set the rules, tell the bull what he can and can not do, and if he attempts breaking those rules, he's out. I've always been the authority figure for that set up. While the bull might be a secondary power person, might even have fun with his part of humiliation for the cuck, but if the woman says the scene is over, the bull doesn't have the authority to say it will continue. In prior posts, you have said that you have a lot of success in your kinks, so it confuses Me as to why you are looking to ask male subs if this is an acceptable arrangement. If you are partying with folks and all of you are happy with the arrangement, cool deal! If you are looking for folks who are willing to engage in this with you, some clarification would help.

Poloboi234 -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/18/2013 1:12:14 AM)
LadyPact- I guess you understand me. I'm heteroflexible. I like the dominance of being an ALPHA bull. Also I feel sucking another man's cock is the ultimate humilation (jail terms) and that turns me on, I guess the perversion of it. I guess you could say I am a bit "bi" and i'm okay with that. I just like BJ"s and power. and I won't have sex with a male or be screwed. The male is there mainly for my own power, or my own dominance... haha I guess it's strange. I assume when I get a vanilla GF, I will leave it... but right now I'm exploring my sexuality and my kink. Realized a lot. But I love having sex with woman, i don't mind a voyeur in the room, and I love it when I'm the one controlling a scene.. even better if the male and female have an emotional connection. I guess I just love being a "Bull" and the power that brings me. I agree with your sentiments..

Poloboi234 -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/18/2013 2:41:34 AM)
WINNER WINNNER! CHICKEN DINNER! All those who said I was weird, or crazy, or gay.. you're all idiots... or don't read much.. Here is what I am.. A sadist... wow.. I guess I'm not a special snowflake... As per Wikipedia... Sadism is the condition of enjoying inflicting suffering on others, or exerting control over them. It can be sexual or non-sexual. Some sexual sadists may be aroused or gratified by actual violence or inflicting pain, while others simply enjoy domination over a sexual partner. Sadists often engage in sexual activity with masochists, and many people in the BDSM scene are both sadistic and masochistic. It should be noted that sexual sadism is not a mental disorder except in certain rare and extreme cases. Non-sexual sadism is the enjoyment of cruelty or power in a general sense. Sadists are often drawn to positions of influence or authority. As with sexual sadism, some may actually enjoy causing suffering, while other sadists have a fixation with having control over people or situations, manipulating them at will.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/18/2013 9:15:39 PM)
Personally I think you are overestimating how much people care either way. Contrary to popular opinion, not everyone in the world is as obsessed with your junk as you are.

theRose4U -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/18/2013 10:06:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Poloboi234 Rose4U- sorry to burst you're bubble. But your "wolf pack" Alpha is just like me. Obviously I went on my own as I don't engage in sex with my "subs" as many told me that is the standard or only reason...(I guess that's lone wolf) and you're point about "harming others to feel dominant..." ummm.. that is probably exactly what you're dom does to you or other subs... Let's not split hairs here. He probably crops them, makes some tasks that are impossible to keep to give him justification to punish, and what is he punishing the slave or sub for? to better please him, or do as told... I think that is what he is doing... as am I. I guess my attitude is just a bit off...but I digress... no disrespect.. Again with the clueless I crop my sub because I feel like it. I need no contrived excuse, intent to harm or macho bullshit to do it. As for the deeper cluelessness of my mate. He was alpha because I said so(pack theory females are actually in charge & eat first), he was poly because it was an option I gave him. His wolf (the real 4 legged kind) was my pillow because of mutual respect, mutual gain & mutual admiration. The fact that an abusive tosser tries to claim alpha as a label to justify piss poor behavior just gives kink a bad name. ...But then you knew that already didn't you???

theRose4U -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/18/2013 10:12:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity Personally I think you are overestimating how much people care either way. Contrary to popular opinion, not everyone in the world is as obsessed with your junk as you are. There is no contrary there trinity...we really don't give a crap about his junk & he's to busy justifying his "uniqueness" on wikipedia to notice!! Think this special lil snowflake is lemon yellow & dogs don't even want to check out his junk.

searching4mysir -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/19/2013 11:38:48 AM)
quote: I am into BDSM for the dominance and role play. I'm not in to it for being in a sexual relationship. When that "dominance" includes a blowjob, it's a sexual relationship. Stop kidding yourself, Sparky.

searching4mysir -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/19/2013 11:43:13 AM)
quote: but I am a good guy and a good dom (have gotten no complaints...) Perhaps because they already understand that complaining isn't worth the time. How many of them continue to stick around?

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (3/19/2013 12:33:04 PM)
Quite true, Rose. quote: Contrary to your popular overinflated self opinion, not everyone in the world is as obsessed with your junk as you are. Fixed it. Sounds much better. [:D]

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (4/16/2013 7:50:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact OP, I think it might help to have better discussions if you did a little better in some terminology. If you are addressing male subs in your post, that may clarify some things. If the question that you are asking to male subs would be how they feel about penetrative sex, you may want to specify that. Otherwise, you make your point confusing because you say that you will receive oral sex if you are 'hard up' enough, so that makes it confusing. That is, however, exactly why I think you would be more clear in using the term hetero-flexible. If you are willing to engage in sexual acts with the gender other than what you are sexually attracted to, that's kind of the definition of the word. It's the exact fit for the situation you described with people in jail. Basically, you'll do it because there are other factors involved. Just like some Dominants have their submissive engage in sexual acts because it pleases the D. The s-type wouldn't have sought it out, but it is something they engage in sexually because of another influence. Something similar to this topic came up at the munch I was at this evening. See, I happen to like many of the kinks that you like, but I don't engage in them with women because........ drumroll........... I really am straight. It's why I love Dominating men, but I have absolutely no interest in Dominating women sexually. If men fell off of the planet, I'd be celibate. I've owned a cuckold. I can tell you that when I say I've been involved in that kink, the bull isn't in charge. I set the rules, tell the bull what he can and can not do, and if he attempts breaking those rules, he's out. I've always been the authority figure for that set up. While the bull might be a secondary power person, might even have fun with his part of humiliation for the cuck, but if the woman says the scene is over, the bull doesn't have the authority to say it will continue. In prior posts, you have said that you have a lot of success in your kinks, so it confuses Me as to why you are looking to ask male subs if this is an acceptable arrangement. If you are partying with folks and all of you are happy with the arrangement, cool deal! If you are looking for folks who are willing to engage in this with you, some clarification would help. I swear, I will NEVER understand why more women aren't interested in a cuckold relationship. I know you (LP) have touched on the complexities of such a relationship in the past, more so how it's a tad more difficult for the woman in that...the cuck's desires...feeding them etc. but honest to gawwwwd....it just seems like a win/win to me.

DesFIP -> RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master etc..) (4/16/2013 8:51:57 PM)
You're bi because you get off on receiving oral sex from other men. The fact that you need it to be inside of specific circumstances doesn't change things. I'm straight. Which still doesn't mean I have sex with every guy around. I need it to be inside of specific criteria also. You need to accept your sexuality and stop lying to yourself about it. I suggest calling your local LBGTQ group and asking for recommendations of therapists. You aren't the first nor will you be the last guy who lies to himself about his sexuality. Get help.

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