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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 5/6/2013 6:14:32 PM

LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You're bi because you get off on receiving oral sex from other men.

The fact that you need it to be inside of specific circumstances doesn't change things.

I'm straight. Which still doesn't mean I have sex with every guy around. I need it to be inside of specific criteria also.

You need to accept your sexuality and stop lying to yourself about it. I suggest calling your local LBGTQ group and asking for recommendations of therapists. You aren't the first nor will you be the last guy who lies to himself about his sexuality. Get help.

Des....I don't get that from his posts (although, he does have a strong proclivity to not listening when asking questions that then result in responses).

What I get is, he's young, experimenting and frankly....honestly, with (most of) societies acceptance today of just about anything and everything (whereas in "my day"....a few thousand years ago..."things were {quite} different"), truly...I'd be doing everything (at 31) and everyone....at least twice, and in at least 17 or more different positions than I tried when I was 31 (prior to automobiles, electricity, the wheel, fire, etc.).

Shit, if I was 31 today, with the access to data I now have at (mumble....mumble....), I'd be fucking everything that moved.

(And a few things that didn't).

Although, if old wives tales are to be believed....at least (thanks to my having been born later) I never went blind.

< Message edited by LookieNoNookie -- 5/6/2013 6:19:05 PM >

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 5/7/2013 1:23:52 PM

littleone35

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Do i need to have a sxual relationship wh my Dom.? YES Or i would not be in a relationship wiht him.
Of course it is more than just te sex , but just answeit tke OP;s question.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 5/7/2013 2:59:31 PM

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I totally get what the OP refers to, and can easily see/imagine the blowjobs he receives from males might have nothing to do with sex, but only power display.

I can think of situations in which sexual acts have nothing to do with sex, but power.

In rape, it's about power, and overpowering someone, which in a way might translate to the ultimate in topping...most distastefully, no doubt, but topping, nevertheless. It is forced upon one, and at that moment, the rapist/topper is king of the mountain. Having the ability and power to be able to shame another man in such a socially unacceptable way may feel like the ultimate in aphrodisiacal power.

In war, it's similar... it's not about sex, but power and overpowering. There are combatants that relish raping the vanquished (mostly females, but sometimes males), not because they're sexually attracted, but because they want to conquer, shame and humiliate (plant their flag, as it were), as well as impregnate the vanquished which not only spreads their seed (power play), but diminishes the purity of the bloodlines of the vanquished (more power play...a takeover, as it were), so the conquered are mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, sexually and socially annihilated in the most obscene way...completely taken/overpowered.

When the OP receives a bj from a male perhaps it's like a "subject" paying homage to the king, no matter how distasteful it is to the subject, to the king, it is defined, expected, and received in the mindset of it being a power play to make/show the subject, in this case male, that the king has the ultimate power position.

That the dom/top gets sexual pleasure and release out of it is a nice side dish, but is neither the point nor purpose of the act.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 5/8/2013 7:58:29 AM

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I am so confused as to what OP topic is about.

What does he want? Validation from others that he is not gay?

What is the crux of this topic?

Why do you feel the need to justify your personal kinks and the reasons for it?

We all have different kinks, there is no right or wrong kinks as long as it's all consensual.

So what is this about?

And yes, sexual relations is compulsory. Not fucking me is punishment to me.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 5/9/2013 10:30:53 PM

alildifferent

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Sex used to be important. It no longer is all that important. I think hormone changes have rendered sex a less immediate need. I love that. Don't get me wrong I still love sex. But I like that I'm not "needy".

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