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MasteroftheMuses -> Your Inspirations (3/17/2013 7:43:42 PM)
I thought this could be a fun, little topic. I was thinking about it today, some of the things I'd read or seen that inspired me to step into the world of BDSM. It's kind of strange, because it's not really BDSM, but I love the games and books from the series MYST. The relationship between Atrus & Catherine is something I've always interpreted as D/s and hoped to aspire to with my own partners, as silly as it might sound. I'm sure there are a dozen other such little inspirations that also led me to this point as well, but that one sticks out the most. What about you?

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/17/2013 8:13:35 PM)
Nothing. I've been into this kind of stuff from before I knew what sex was. When I, in my teens, found out about BDSM, I didn't "get inspired to step into the world of BDSM", instead I just figured "ah, that's what you call that". By then, I had about a decade of experience engaging in BDSM activities.

Powergamz1 -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/17/2013 9:41:38 PM)
No.

myotherself -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 12:37:15 AM)
I had a good idea about my sexuality from an early age. I knew that 'vanilla' relationships didn't work for me, so I stopped having them. It was a chance discussion with a new colleague who turned out to be a dom that pointed me in the direction of bdsm websites, and then onto munches and then into bdsm relationships. To be honest, most of the 'kinky' writing I've seen had bugger all to do with the reality of bdsm, and if they had been what I'd found first and thought they were what bdsm was all about, I'd still be single and celibate.

JeffBC -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 7:06:18 AM)
This has nothing to do with sexuality for me. My "inspiration" therefor was probably my father. What led me to the idea that you could run a marriage this way was Gor in SecondLife.

Charles6682 -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 7:52:32 AM)
I have always been attracted to Dominant Females myself.On a sexual level,I can only get off with "Fem Dom" fantasies.It has always been this way for me.I've never gotten off on just the idea of vanilla regular sex.I am actually still a "virgin" so to speak.Not virgin,as I have never done anything before with women.But as far as actual intercourse,I could still be considered a virgin.A big reason for that is because it is hard for me too get aroused during vanilla sex.I can only get aroused to Fem-Dom.I'm quite comfortable with it but I know being a "virgin" these days certainly put me in the minority of society.Thats ok.I figure when the time is right.Anyways though,I have more fun doing D/s anyways.Thats just me.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 11:23:57 AM)
I suppose my husband was what inspired me to go D/s. I already knew I liked a bit of force and fear in the bedroom but I never would have considered a power exchange relationship if he hadn't been interested (and awesome). As for kinky tastes, who really knows? Like most people I can remember themes of fear, control, capture and punishment as part of my very early undeveloped sexual and non-sexual fantasies. It's entirely possible that something imprinted itself on my mind as a young child which grew into my sexual preferences but I really don't know. Equally I don't remember anything in particular prompting me to look further into kink as I got older. Then again I'm young enough to have grown up with internet access, I had a million opportunities to look up or stumble upon that kind of information as a teen and I'm sure I did.

thornsilver -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 7:57:02 PM)
I don't think I will count Anne Rice's "The Beauty" series as my inspiration, except in discovering that "people actually found this hot". I distinctly remember playing bondage games when I was nine or so.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 8:13:55 PM)
As far as "inspirations" go, I didn't really have any. I had kinky fantasies from the moment I started having fantasies. I guess I could say I was "inspired" by rope I'd find laying around to tie myself up with, or a dog's choke chain that I borrowed. =p And oh the great times I used to have with my trusty curling iron. =p I ran into kink.com when we got internet access out in the woods and realized I wasn't the only nutball like myself. Or I guess I could say I was inspired to finally act on things when I met a great guy (RIP) who helped me feel like I was totally NORMAL. I see things that stick out like power exchange to me, now, or I like to read them that way. =p But I was kinky before any of those things...

sexyred1 -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/18/2013 10:53:10 PM)
I always had thoughts leaning towards this from a very young age. During puberty, I finally read some books, and realized what I was feeling was an interest in BDSM. I was lucky enough to get safely involved with good partners and it just went on from there.

Kana -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/19/2013 1:49:20 PM)
Those fucking hot ass Star Distributor fetish novels from the 80's sure didn't help matters one whit

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/19/2013 4:22:45 PM)
Like many women here...my first encounters were early teen reading of "bodice rippers". Before I even ever kissed a boy, I was fantasizing about being "taken" or "overcome". The difference for me is that, as I got older, I really fell into the politically correct "if a man respects you as an equal he is not going to do that" way of thinking which led to many unhappy relationships.

JeffBC -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/19/2013 4:36:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss The difference for me is that, as I got older, I really fell into the politically correct "if a man respects you as an equal he is not going to do that" way of thinking which led to many unhappy relationships. LOL, and I fell into the other side of that same trap. It's taken me quite a while to figure out that a woman who loves you (or is at least sexually attracted to you) might actually WANT to be used as a sex object.

MasterCaneman -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/22/2013 9:02:49 AM)
I had the urgings from a very young age, but I think the tipping point was when I found an old Centurians catalog while rummaging around in the garage of a house we'd just moved into. The artwork was deplorable (no one has feet like that!), but I was hooked. From then on, I tended to focus on imagery and situations like that.

chatterbox24 -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/22/2013 9:15:28 AM)
Well for me I had zero fantasies, zero experience, zero knowledge. Absolutely came from a home where there was zero hint of it. I was totally clueless as to why I had this total "What is missing, constantly seeking" feeling for most of my life. Then I was introduced rudely into it, I wasn't asked, I was taken literally by it. I think I have experienced the height of every emotion through learning and found alot out about myself in the process. Some good, some not so good. But its all honest truth, whether I like it or not. But I dont have that haunting feeling anymore "What is missing" and that was a huge gift to finally have that question answered.

cordeliasub -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/22/2013 4:59:19 PM)
Not necessarily kink because I don't know (and don't want to) the specifics of their bedroom life....but my parents' marriage relationship greatly influenced what I knew I wanted. There was respect and mutual care and all of those wonderful things....but Dad was definitely the Dominant. Mom was very successful and a strong woman, but they had a very 1950's traditional kind of marriage, and it worked very well for them. 52 years and still going strong :)

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/22/2013 5:11:06 PM)
No. I've been "into this", without having any real idea what "this" was since being tied to a tree while playing cowboys and indians at about six years old.

littlewonder -> RE: Your Inspirations (3/22/2013 5:16:58 PM)
Don't have any. This is just how I am and always have been. I've never had a dominant bone in my body in my entire life.

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