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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/19/2013 10:49:51 AM

donforu

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Hi Thursday.

At first I use't to jump straight in to conversations about serving and other stuff like that(classic rookie mistake). These days I tend to get a bit tongue tied and run out of things to say. I don't know way as I have lots of female friends and in general I have no problem chatting to women except the odd occasion when I'm chatting to someone I fancy, but I'm sure l'm not on my own there!

Reading all the replies from everyone has made me see the problem somewhat clearer. I need to spend more time reading interests to get some common ground for chat..

Thanks again to everyone that posted on this topic

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/19/2013 6:09:04 PM

QueenRah

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In my mind, Dominatrix = pro, not "Dominant woman, with whom I'd like to develop a relationship." Otherwise, you've done a pretty good job with your profile. Just hoping all those pics of fabulous females is an intrusive ad and not your doing.

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/20/2013 5:50:58 AM

donforu

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Thank you, QueenRah I appreciate the feed back. I hear what you are saying about pro dommes but it was my way of finding out if I truly was a subbie. Now I am looking for someone in the lifestyle

No the ads have nothing to do with me I see them on every profile I visit, very annoying alright!!

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/20/2013 5:21:27 PM

seekingOwnertoo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: donforu

Why do I find it hard to make regular conversation when chatting with a Mistress??

Are you asking about ... chat rooms ... email ... texting ... or real LIVE in-person, face to face.

I can give you advice about "real LIVE in-person, face to face" ... but NOT the E-Communication methods of this world. I generally do not partake.

For real live, in-person face to face ... treat Her as a Lady ... and do everything you would normally do, when going out on a date.

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For example .... recently ...

A Lady viewed my profile. Typically, I don't pay attention .. BUT I noticed She lived in the SAME TOWN I DO!

So I sent a NICE, POLITE email .. thanking Her for viewing ... and for lack of anything better to say ... "as W/we are so close, let's go out to dinner! You pick Your favorite restaurant .. I will pick up the tab."

To my COMPLETE surprise, She responded ... and gave me BOTH a restaurant, and two choices of days She was available. Turned out, the restaurant is one of my favorite's too ... so I immediately responded, and OF COURSE .. picked the earliest day She had offered.

So W/we met two days after our first contact.

That night it was pouring rain ... and luckily enough, i found a parking spot right in front of the front door (i always try to be 10 minutes early for a meet). Knowing it was pouring rain, I noticed they had valet parking that night ... so I called Her on Her cell ... and said, use the valet parking ... I will pay for it.

She thanked me for the thoughtfulness ... arrived less than five minutes later ...

I just gave Her a warm smile, at the door where I was waiting ... and what do you know?

W/we sat and talked for FIVE HOURS ... had dinner, TWO bottles of wine, and marvelous fun.

I share this BECAUSE ... it is a good example of how to make a regular conversation with a Domme, in real life.

And BTW .. we never once discussed kink, sex or anything like that. No one would have know ... it was anything other than a vanilla date. Just laughing, joking and fun!

That said, I am sure I will see Her again.

< Message edited by seekingOwnertoo -- 3/20/2013 5:24:15 PM >

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/20/2013 6:33:45 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: donforu

Why do I find it hard to make regular conversation when chatting with a Mistress??

I suspect it's your ability to hold a conversation.

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/23/2013 10:24:32 AM

MsGypsey

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I took a look at the OP's profile. It reads well. In response to the "willing to relocate" filter. It simply means to me that he'll be able to find a job anywhere in the world, or that he's independently wealthy (but hasn't let on). I don't think of the ability to relocate as a red flag and it wouldn't put me off corresponding with a sub.

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/23/2013 10:27:59 AM

MsGypsey

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quote:

ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo

quote:

ORIGINAL: donforu

Why do I find it hard to make regular conversation when chatting with a Mistress??

Are you asking about ... chat rooms ... email ... texting ... or real LIVE in-person, face to face.

I can give you advice about "real LIVE in-person, face to face" ... but NOT the E-Communication methods of this world. I generally do not partake.

For real live, in-person face to face ... treat Her as a Lady ... and do everything you would normally do, when going out on a date.

-------

For example .... recently ...

A Lady viewed my profile. Typically, I don't pay attention .. BUT I noticed She lived in the SAME TOWN I DO!

So I sent a NICE, POLITE email .. thanking Her for viewing ... and for lack of anything better to say ... "as W/we are so close, let's go out to dinner! You pick Your favorite restaurant .. I will pick up the tab."

To my COMPLETE surprise, She responded ... and gave me BOTH a restaurant, and two choices of days She was available. Turned out, the restaurant is one of my favorite's too ... so I immediately responded, and OF COURSE .. picked the earliest day She had offered.

So W/we met two days after our first contact.

That night it was pouring rain ... and luckily enough, i found a parking spot right in front of the front door (i always try to be 10 minutes early for a meet). Knowing it was pouring rain, I noticed they had valet parking that night ... so I called Her on Her cell ... and said, use the valet parking ... I will pay for it.

She thanked me for the thoughtfulness ... arrived less than five minutes later ...

I just gave Her a warm smile, at the door where I was waiting ... and what do you know?

W/we sat and talked for FIVE HOURS ... had dinner, TWO bottles of wine, and marvelous fun.

I share this BECAUSE ... it is a good example of how to make a regular conversation with a Domme, in real life.

And BTW .. we never once discussed kink, sex or anything like that. No one would have know ... it was anything other than a vanilla date. Just laughing, joking and fun!

That said, I am sure I will see Her again.

I have to know after all that you wrote about meeting someone two days after your initial contact... did you see her again? I know I'm being nosy, but can't help myself. Curiousity and cats and all that.

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/23/2013 5:35:19 PM

seekingOwnertoo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

I have to know after all that you wrote about meeting someone two days after your initial contact... did you see her again? I know I'm being nosy, but can't help myself. Curiousity and cats and all that.

Ms Gypsey ... knowing a little about cats ... i do understand!

That said .. a gentleman never really tells, do they?

So lets just say ... W/we are in regular contact!

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RE: Am I just a bad conversationalist?? - 3/24/2013 8:04:28 AM

MsGypsey

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quote:

ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

I have to know after all that you wrote about meeting someone two days after your initial contact... did you see her again? I know I'm being nosy, but can't help myself. Curiousity and cats and all that.

Ms Gypsey ... knowing a little about cats ... i do understand!

That said .. a gentleman never really tells, do they?

So lets just say ... W/we are in regular contact!