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What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/19/2013 11:49:52 AM

Cilicia

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How does the submissive normally get off when he is serving a Domme?

Do you submissive males jack off? Does the Domina jack you off? Do you get off on not getting off?

There is a reason I ask and that's simply that I'm confused.
I'm quite sure all three are common, so, I should say that I do realize everyone is different, and, that everyone gets off on their own way and manner.

For me, I'm just confused, because I get off with my cock being a central part of any play game - but from my research into what a Domina:slave session looks like, it seems the slave never gets off. Or that he must get off on the entire idea of serving the Domme (which is ok by me to serve her - but there needs to be something physical, right)?

In summary, may I ask what gets YOU off when you're serving a Domina?

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RE: What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/19/2013 1:07:38 PM

Subano

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When she milks me.

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RE: What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/19/2013 1:19:00 PM

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Ah, this coupled with your other post is beginning to make more sense.

Obviously, this is very new to you, and you are trying to learn, which is a good thing. However, male sub/female dominant relationships aren't typically of the "sex slave" variety.

What you are looking for is to be more of a sexual submissive. There is nothing wrong with that, many women subs take that role. However, when the roles are reversed, I'm of the opinion that what you are looking for is going to be harder to find. Perhaps you would be better served to find a prostitute who will offer you "sessions" with her being the dominant, so that your sexual needs will be met.

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RE: What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/19/2013 5:59:29 PM

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Short answer: All of the above and none of the above.

Preface to longer answer: I'm going to use the term "get off" only to mean that which sexually excites me. I won't use it as euphemism for orgasm or ejaculation.

I don't "get off on not [ejaculating]" -- I get off on the Domme controlling if/when/how I have the privilege of ejaculating, 24/7/365. Maybe my experience is too narrow, but I always thought that was a key component in a D/s relationship. I only had one D/s relationship that didn't work that way -- I was free to do what I wanted when not with her -- but in that relationship, I only ejaculated once out of the 30 or 40 times that I was with her (she was in a generous and rewarding mood that night and apparently I had pleased her).

If you're as cock-centric as you sound, God help you if you wind up with a Domme that's really into orgasm delay/denial. :)

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RE: What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/19/2013 7:57:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez
If you're as cock-centric as you sound, God help you if you wind up with a Domme that's really into orgasm delay/denial. :)

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RE: What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/19/2013 9:22:14 PM

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i serve my mistress and She controls my sexuality. during play it is not importaint that i orgasam as the play is for Her pleasure. there have been times that i have not been allowed to masterbate at all when not with Her. for me the floaty place after play is wonderfull but seeing the way She is in top space after play is the best and knowing that i helped to cause it makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.

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RE: What gets you off, as a sub, when serving a Domina? - 3/22/2013 7:30:08 AM

RuiningJessica

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Haha very true :)

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez
If you're as cock-centric as you sound, God help you if you wind up with a Domme that's really into orgasm delay/denial. :)