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RE: For the casual players - 3/22/2013 8:40:17 PM

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I dont do casual sex.

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RE: For the casual players - 3/22/2013 9:05:57 PM

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Here's where My mind is...........

Flogging somebody isn't necessarily associated with foreplay to fucking. My sadism isn't necessarily linked to My sexuality.

Top space? Check. Sub space? Check. Good scene and all of that other fun stuff? Check!

Sexual excitement? Nope.

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Well, I'm not into the group gatherings, so I don't go to dungeon parties, but I TOTALLY agree with you about achieving "Top space" not related to sexuality, and subs say I am getting them into to their "sub space" (a "gauge" of success which to Me is as enjoyable as the RUSH I feel while Topping)
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RE: For the casual players - 3/26/2013 2:04:04 PM

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I don't engage in casual sex when I play casually - but am I sexually excited? You bet your sweet ass I am! I can't imagine play that doesn't turn me on, I'm not sure why I would be doing it. Being in a relationship is different - I'm happy to do things that please him even if they don't turn me on. But s&m play, for me, is always about sexual excitement, and I always presuppose the sexual attraction of those I am playing with (or else, why are they playing with me?!). No sexy feelings, no s&m!

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RE: For the casual players - 3/26/2013 7:14:54 PM

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I don't play at parties often. When I go, I mostly go for socializing, though lately I have convinced myself that I can socialize without so much cost. =p
Some of the things I really like, or places I want to go, those things involve trust that I can't form in a brief period of time in a dungeon. Or no one's interested in me. I never push the issue with anyone. I mostly just to go hang out.

I can feel all hot 'n bothered during impact play or whatever, but any casual scene I've had has never lead to sex.

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RE: For the casual players - 3/26/2013 8:15:05 PM

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Same here I have also gone to both a Dungeon and a play party as well as i have been a good friends Observer when a break out play happened when a submissive ( who was at that time un partnered) and wanted to experience barehanded spanking. For Me if I do play and that is not that often- either as a top or a bottom have happened it was non sexual. Did I get turned on by it? Yes I did, and yes I either went into sub space or Top High but that was as far as it ever went. For Me to be able to go further I need to be connected to that person and have the utmost trust in them. But can I separate them: yes I can and even those that I happen to play with casually I do know them personally tho.

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RE: For the casual players - 3/28/2013 8:58:36 PM

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We used to go to play parties and for a while, hosted them. I enjoyed some forms of casual play, whether it was flogging or spanking a sub boy or girl, or even joining a couple of gay Doms in torturing their gay boy sub! That was often a real mind fuck for the boy. I was fine with Master Topping a sub too ... and it got sexual as far as touching boy bits or girl bits, or even allowing the subs to cum (if that was within the rules of the space). Sometimes He and I would co-Top a girl which was a lot of fun. And yes, we often got hot and bothered and usually went home and had great sex afterwards!

BUT we didn't have intercourse with the subs in question, and generally, they didn't get to make Us cum in any way. If We allowed them to cum it was for Our viewing (and control) pleasure (though of course, We were happy they enjoyed it too). It takes Me a while to allow a sub to get intimate with My body, only one exceptional visiting sub got to orally please Me (and got a GS for it as reward) the first time I played with him (that was in the privacy of Our Dungeon space, and only he and I there, it would NOT have happened in public).

So I'm somewhere in between some of the other posters regarding casual play. It is LINKED to sex but does not have to lead to sexual intercourse.

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RE: For the casual players - 3/28/2013 10:47:30 PM

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I've done casual play before, though I'm not currently seeking it. I don't do casual sex/genital play, and I don't want to have an orgasm from someone I'm not in a relationship with. I've had to turn down a couple of potential playpartners due to incompatible approaches, but everyone has been respectful of my boundaries.

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