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pixie131417 -> please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 2:01:35 AM)

i am very conflicted. i am 19. spent all my years of education in church schools. ten years of ballet with only one boyfriend. but lately i have been realizing that punishment, and humliation, and being reprimanded, drive me wild. and i am begging for a good, patient, but strict mistress to educate me on all of this, along with introduce me into this very different but intriguing and sexy world. i am stubborn, but i will do anything to be the best sub ever. i just nee some training. and serious mistresses: you will get a picture of me. i just didnt want to post one on this site. i am very shy about this.



LadyPact -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 2:21:25 AM)

Well, to start, this is a discussion forum. We discuss topics here. Not personal ads. What/who you are looking for is information that belongs in your profile.

You have just as much chance to explore this as anyone else. Find local munches in your area and you will get your start.

Welcome to the forums.



DarkSteven -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 4:28:35 AM)

Hi, pixie. Welcome to the forums.

Look. You've grown up in rarefied air. Ballet, church, being the nice girl. And now at the age of 19, wih only one bf and no experience with women, you want to chuck away all that and jump immediately into a wild, forbidden world of lesbian Dommes humiliating and punishing you.

Don't do it so fast. Spend some time learning about this world, using the Ask a Mistress and Ask a Sub/Slave forums especially. Don't jump into things, or you'll attract nut jobs and a LOT of men posing as women.



VideoAdminChi -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 8:55:06 AM)

FR,

This thread is now in Introductions. Welcome OP!



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 12:51:23 PM)

Got to agree with both LP and Stephen. Start local and experiment on a small scale, read up (see book list).



pixie131417 -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 1:47:56 PM)

thank you guys, i am just very lost on how to start up in this, no one i personally know is into bdsm. what are the basics? like if you could give any advice or pointers i would really appreciate it



searching4mysir -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 1:52:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: pixie131417

thank you guys, i am just very lost on how to start up in this, no one i personally know is into bdsm. what are the basics? like if you could give any advice or pointers i would really appreciate it



Hormones are a powerful thing. Don't lose your common sense in sub frenzy.

Just because someone calls themselves dominant doesn't make it so.

Have your standards and your limits. You can google "BDSM Checklist" and mark things that you are curious about and things that make you say "hell no".

Don't submit on demand to every Tom, Dick, and Harry.

A lot of guys will try to manipulate you into getting on cam. Don't do it unless you don't care if that cam show ends up posted on porn sites without your consent.




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 2:06:38 PM)

The basics are: be true to your self, respect yourself, and don't give authority or power over to someone you don't know well. As in, very well.

There is a great book list floating around; I've always recommended "screw the roses, I'll take the thorns" for those new to BDSM, as it has a great intro about trust.

It sounds like you want to jump in with both feet, please don't. You are so young and inexperienced, and you can get hurt badly by the wrong person. There's not a thing wrong with taking this slow, and like Steven, I highly recommend it.

Do you know what a munch is? A meeting of like minded people in a public place? A good place to start, b/c I always feel one of the first things you need to learn is that there are normal people who are into kinky sex, just like you.

Please try to understand that we're trying to help you, but when you ask where to start, it's like asking where to start on the brain surgery. You need some background first, right?






HarryVanWinkle -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 3:42:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pixie131417

thank you guys, i am just very lost on how to start up in this, no one i personally know is into bdsm. what are the basics? like if you could give any advice or pointers i would really appreciate it



Your profile says you live in Texas, but not where. I can understand you wanting to keep that private. But, if you live near one of the larger cities in Texas, just about all of them have active BDSM communities. Try googling, "BDSM, (the name of the city nearest you)"



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/23/2013 5:11:00 PM)

Another thought...to build on Harry's...Fetlife will allow you a certain amount of anonymity and still explore your local events... I started out with no friends, no experience...in this area...like you just knowing I wanted something different than what I had experienced. The difference is...life experience. I am a lot older and had had many vanilla relationships... Like Chatte, I think you need to be cautious--really, really cautious. Yes, the kinky world is no better or worse than the vanilla dating world but there are many who will prey on your inexperience & desire to keep things quiet...I REALLY, REALLY suggest you look into local realtime events. Even if you have to drive out of your general area. Many "events" can be completely innocent-groups here have potluck dinners, book clubs, board game nights. Those events are not as heavily attended as those centered on sex topics & will allow you to make FRIENDS..people who can watch out for you...Start there.



TNDommeK -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 3:21:08 AM)

Welcome pixie!



OohAahMrs -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 9:53:17 AM)

Welcome and help yourself.



sweets1966 -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 11:09:19 AM)

welcome pixie and the best of luck. there is some good advice in this thread.



MasterCaneman -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 3:05:35 PM)

Howdy, Pixie. I understand there's a scene in Austin if you're close. Good luck.



OsideGirl -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 3:10:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Another thought...to build on Harry's...Fetlife will allow you a certain amount of anonymity and still explore your local events...



This exactly. You may also want to see if there is a Next Gen group near you. That way you'll be dealing with people closer to your own age group.



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 4:17:31 PM)

There's a "scene" (I prefer the term "local BDSM community) in every major city in Texas, even El Paso.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Howdy, Pixie. I understand there's a scene in Austin if you're close. Good luck.





SirLangsdorff -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 6:26:31 PM)

Welcome. You've got some good advice if you take it.



Level -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 6:33:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

There's a "scene" (I prefer the term "local BDSM community) in every major city in Texas, even El Paso.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Howdy, Pixie. I understand there's a scene in Austin if you're close. Good luck.





And in a lot of smaller cities; the Beaumont/Orange group has probably 30-50 at any given time.

Welcome OP.



MasterCaneman -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/24/2013 8:11:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

There's a "scene" (I prefer the term "local BDSM community) in every major city in Texas, even El Paso.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

Howdy, Pixie. I understand there's a scene in Austin if you're close. Good luck.





It's easier to type "scene" that "local BDSM community", Harry. I only know that because one of the dancers I chaperoned was from there.



OohAahMrs -> RE: please give me the chance to explore this (3/25/2013 8:12:52 AM)

Welcome to the other side.



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