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SomethingCatchy -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/23/2013 11:05:28 PM)


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Seriously? Were you married on the twenty-third?

ROFL, yup... exactly on the 23rd. Obviously, we agree on more than "authority". We are date synchronized to boot LOL


Desperate attempt to fit in with the 'cool kids' - I was married on the 23rd (of September)



sexyred1 -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/23/2013 11:11:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LordUberMaster

JeffBC & LadyPact: Happy anniversary to you both. I hope you have a special weekend as well.

SeekingTrinity: Just to clarify - no, the person in question is quite sane and is not a member on this site. I'm also pretty sure she understands irony.


What irony?

You mean your screen name and self proclaimed fake profile?

Might I remind you that you came to a message board to ask for ideas when you should be able to use either your imagination, or hot fantasies you or your partner have discussed.




absolutchocolat -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 12:21:22 AM)

FR

Happy anniversary, y'all!

I guess I'll give this a stab...I haven't been very nice today. Chastity devices tend to make weekends fun. Also, tying someone up and leaving them chained to a bed for hours is awesome. In between play, massages and good conversation (If you are capable of that) are also amazing.



seekingreality -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 12:25:56 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LordUberMaster

I'm having a new sub over for a weekend a few weeks from now. It's the first time she'll be here - we've met at her place before - and I want to make it memorable.

So I'm thinking back to similar experiences with previous subs. One of my favourites was one time when I picked up the sub at the train station, blindfolded her in the car, and then kept her blindfolded the whole weekend, not letting her see a thing until she was back at the train station. That was a really fun experience. In another more recent experience, with another girl, I had her enter my flat on her own, giving her instructions by text message. She was naked, kneeling, with her eyes closed, before I even entered the room. That idea didn't last all weekend like the other one, but at least it got her in the right mood to begin with.

Now I'd like some more ideas for what to do this time. It could be things you've done, or not.
The sub in question is moderately experienced, but not a frail newbie. We're both very much into the mental aspects, not just random beatings. I have a tiny flat, no garden and no room for anything that takes much space.

Any thoughts?


Personally, I am not a fan of the "give me some generic kinky scenarios" approach. What makes the experience exciting and memorable is the people. The blindfold thing, which was so memorable for you with one person, might fail completely with another. I wouldn't presume to guess what might work with someone I'd never met.



Level -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 4:08:05 AM)

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Kana -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 6:12:14 AM)


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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Reality is ALWAYS better than fantasy. [:D]

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So not true.
Someone's obviously never met a really hot chick who, tragically, uses her teeth.
I can guarantee you that in my fantasy, that gal could schlob massive knob. But so often in reality, my hopes are dashed.

And we won't even discuss those cold fish, can't fuck, just lay there like dead piece of salmon chick. Cripes, what a waste. Bodies built for sin and they just lay there, as active, and sexy, as a 2 x 4.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint
You are having a lady over for the weekend. Is that true or another lie or irony?

That depends on whether you are one of those unimaginative folk who considers a blow up doll to be mere plastic.


And now I'll give you a serious answer.
Wanna make her weekend special and memorable?
Easy. Lock in and focus on her. Most sub/slave gals love attention. Treat her special. Woo her. Sweep her off her feet. Make her feel as if she's the most important thing in the world to you.
Oh yeah, and fuck her like Valentino in his wildest dreams



LordUberMaster -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 6:30:57 AM)

Level: I don't think I even own a hair brush. I could slap her with my comb, but I'm not sure it's as effective.

graceadieu: I see what you mean. But I'd like to think we've already established a connection. Maybe this weekend is more about fun.

She lives in the city, I live in a smaller town. I've known her a few months, I visit her when I'm in the city, but she hasn't been here yet. In between, we talk on the phone - as in, maybe 5-6 hours a day on average. She's made it pretty clear that when she comes here she wants to do more than talk.

tsatske: I know, it sounds pretty extreme, a whole weekend with a blindfold. I wouldn't have tried that with most people, but she was pretty unusual. I did feed her, and we talked a lot, and I sat her down next to the piano and played romantic music for her. She was a serious masochist, so I also beat her until my arm ached. The music made her cry, but the beatings mostly made her giggle.

SomethingCatchy: Thanks for the freebie. Dining is always nice. Too bad it's still about -10°C here, so we can't sit outside and watch the sunset.
I shall have to work on the hilarity, because she seems to be one of those people who never laughs.

absolutchocolat: Very good suggestions. Chastity sounds like fun, but she claims that she has a low libido and wouldn't really care. Boring, I know. Massage is good, I'll keep that in mind. There's more than one way to use a magic wand.



slaveboihere -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 6:51:19 AM)

This guy doesn't seem to get upset does he? You have got to give him some credit for that at least. I'd have crawled off into a corner hoping to die if I'd taken half this much stick! It is a really wierd post tho. If you've known her this long, visited her, and talk all this time on the phone, don't you know what turns her on??? What do you talk about ffs?! Don't you yourself have lots of ideas of what you'd like to do to her naked, helpless bod once you get it alone with you in your mansion/flat? Keerist; as a sub, and knowing f**k all about her, I could come up with at least 15 interesting, fun things to do to a willing naked woman! And that's just foreplay! Your imagination must be a very lonely place to be........



slaveboihere -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 6:52:27 AM)

Debating whether to change my profile name to 'servileunderslave' or somesuch....



Level -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 8:35:12 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LordUberMaster

Level: I don't think I even own a hair brush. I could slap her with my comb, but I'm not sure it's as effective.

graceadieu: I see what you mean. But I'd like to think we've already established a connection. Maybe this weekend is more about fun.

She lives in the city, I live in a smaller town. I've known her a few months, I visit her when I'm in the city, but she hasn't been here yet. In between, we talk on the phone - as in, maybe 5-6 hours a day on average. She's made it pretty clear that when she comes here she wants to do more than talk.

tsatske: I know, it sounds pretty extreme, a whole weekend with a blindfold. I wouldn't have tried that with most people, but she was pretty unusual. I did feed her, and we talked a lot, and I sat her down next to the piano and played romantic music for her. She was a serious masochist, so I also beat her until my arm ached. The music made her cry, but the beatings mostly made her giggle.

SomethingCatchy: Thanks for the freebie. Dining is always nice. Too bad it's still about -10°C here, so we can't sit outside and watch the sunset.
I shall have to work on the hilarity, because she seems to be one of those people who never laughs.

absolutchocolat: Very good suggestions. Chastity sounds like fun, but she claims that she has a low libido and wouldn't really care. Boring, I know. Massage is good, I'll keep that in mind. There's more than one way to use a magic wand.


I'd keep an eye on the "never laughs" part; make sure she isn't a serial killer.



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 8:58:26 AM)

I am mystified as to why everyone descended on you so harshly from the get-go. I read your first post, checked out your profile, and I understood as I read it that the profile, along with your user ID, was in jest. It was obvious. You are young, you asked for some ideas which I think was entirely reasonable to do.
I'm too new to offer you ideas to use (though I liked the bath idea if you had the tub), but I'm really sorry you had the experience on this thread that you did. Your equanimity in the face of it has been fucking impressive.



MissBlueangel -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 9:08:15 AM)

I would have 'flounced' long since....butthurt in tow.
So I do agree with Spiritedsub in as much as your having very 'broad shoulders'



Level -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 9:28:43 AM)

<<< was nice from the get go



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 9:31:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Level

<<< was nice from the get go

Ok, I amend my post to say "most everyone".
Honestly, sometimes I think it's a fucking miracle that anyone new stays here.



Level -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 9:39:06 AM)

Lol, yeah, but some of them bring it on themselves. Uber seems cool enough, though.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 10:04:36 AM)

~FRing it~

I agree with you, Level. Some people just bring it on themselves. I'll also give OP credit where credit is due because he seems to be trying. What I said in my previous post was based on that OP himself had said.

That being said...all any of us really have to go on is what is written here and in their profile. While it may (or may not) have been said in jest, how can someone take you seriously when given what has been given to work with? The name alone screamed "too much interwebz porn" and lets be honest....the profile content was a pretty damned good corroborating witness. Or are we calling it irony? But let's be real for a minute...how many people that deep in their porn fantasy world have you been able to get to see a bit of reality?



JeffBC -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 10:05:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
I am mystified as to why everyone descended on you so harshly from the get-go.

Well let's see. I'm not sure if I was harsh. I did say it looked like everything was a joke.

Profile = ridiculous
Name = ridiculous
Post = somewhat odd

Given that's the sum total I knew about the OP it seemed pretty reasonable to toss him into the troll/sock/whatever category and move on. That thought process totally mystifies you? Really? It seems pretty straight-forward to me. At a bare minimum he's obviously playing one great big ol' practical joke on me. I think I have the right to opt out.

<=== proud collarme poser professional



LordUberMaster -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 10:27:34 AM)

Thank you for your kindness. I realise I should have changed to a less sarcastic profile text, I just didn't think of that before posting.

Anyway, on topic: I probably won't go with the total-weekend-experience thing this time. I expect we'll have time to both go out to dinner, have quiet conversations over a cup of tea, and do some serious BDSM.

But it would be nice to do something to set the mood right from the start. I know she likes the feeling of anticipation, so I'm thinking maybe I'll let her enter an empty room full of candles (it's cheaper than flowers) and have her wait for me on her knees. Maybe with a blindfold and headphones, so she doesn't notice when I enter. What happens after that, I'm not sure.

I'm also not sure what music should be playing in the headphones. I might have to write something new.

Apparently the subject at hand just came home, so I'll see if I can coax some more fantasies out of her, while still maintaining the idea that I'm the creative one. I guess that means I'll be up all night again - aah, and I had so much work to do...



LadyPact -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 10:47:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
I am mystified as to why everyone descended on you so harshly from the get-go.
Truthfully, I didn't think I was harsh.

The first post made Me think that the OP didn't know these women well or hardly at all. I thought it was more a case of random woman who agreed to show up at his place after very little contact. The reason I believed this is because anybody who has spent significant time getting to know someone, where she would feel safe doing a weekend long scene at his home, he would know well enough to have some kind of idea of what she likes, doesn't like, turns her on, etc.

In other words, I thought I was dealing with one of those unimaginative people who create those "I made a date with a submissive woman and now I don't know what to do with her" type of posts. These come up only behind the "sub was bad (specific offense not mentioned) and what should I do to punish her" threads for lacking any creativity on the Dominant's part.

If that's what we're dealing with, suggestions here aren't going to be any better or worse than the OP reading some fiction down in the Creative Writing section. We haven't got a clue what would trip this girl's trigger, what kind of topping experience the OP has, or any other kind of information that would contribute to us even making educated guesses about what would make a memorable weekend for both of them.




JeffBC -> RE: Making a memorable weekend (3/24/2013 10:56:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LordUberMaster
Thank you for your kindness. I realise I should have changed to a less sarcastic profile text, I just didn't think of that before posting.


Yeah, it would have helped me at least if there was some piece of information about you that clued me in on which particular direction the humor was going. Insofar as your actual question, I can't help much since we don't "play" but good luck on your weekend.



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