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Specter326 -> Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 2:31:41 PM)
I'm looking to attract a submissive, myself being a dom. I was looking for feedback on my profile and any changes you guys think should be made. I sincerely appreciate you help. About me: As a person, I'd like to think that I could easily compare to some of the characters in Atlas Shrugged, my favorite book. I'm an exceptionally confident person though I'd like to believe I don't come off as a**** I can easily pull of the country boy, relaxed, laid back look and feel while at the same time walk in to a room with a suit on and command everyone's attention. I enjoy roughhousing, playing in the mud, and getting dirty out in the country, yet just as easily, I enjoy discussing the bouquet of a fine wine, going to black tie events, and traveling the world. I have a politically incorrect sense of humor and I'm pretty good at sarcasm. I like to have a good time. I can be serious when I need to be but I do like to play as well! I live by my morals and values. I enjoy the acquaintance of many people, yet I only have a few individuals in my life I would truly call friends. To me a friend is someone you'd do anything for at a moments notice. People like that are few and far between these days. Honor, Strength, and Faith are probably the three words I'd use to describe myself. My word is important to me. I treat everyone I know with respect and expect the same in return. I will not tolerate anything less. I'm kind of old-school when it comes to dating and relationships. Deep down I am a romantic. I love sitting by a fire, glass of wine and book in hand with my partner cuddled up beside me. "Just because" flowers are pretty frequent occurrences and I can definitely get cheesy-romantic on special nights. Movie nights in PJ's with popcorn are fun and I think a necessary part of a healthy relationship. Also, I am not in to feminist women who don't appreciate a man opening a door, or for that matter a woman who won't offer to pick up the tab and say thank you when I cover it. Also, though the lifestyle I want is a bit on the kinky side, to the outside world I'd expect my relationship to look as vanilla as any other relationship. I want to have a family one day and I would not want our private activities to get the way of our public social life. What's that saying? "A lady in the street's but a freak in the sheet's"? Ya, something like that :) If you hadn't guessed, I am a dominant. I am both dominant in the relationship as well as in the bedroom. That being said, I will frequently ask for, and consider my partners opinion. I would never want my partner to feel as if I didn't listen to them. I expect, in the majority of cases, to have the final decision. In any other cases, the decisions will be made together. In the bedroom I expect someone who loves to submit and lose control, though a bit of struggling can be fun. They also need to have a kinky mindset and enjoy the more taboo fantasies. I expect my partner to be extremely open minded and very sexual. Bisexuality is preferred and if not, at least a desire to play with women in sexual situations. Also, they can't have any issues with any type of oral or anal play. Cum should be something they crave, and pleasing me should be something they live for. Though there will always be a safe word, I expect to have access to you wherever and whenever I want and there should be very little you would say no to. This is important: I've been a part of a polyamorous lifestyle in the past and it's something I'd like to rekindle with my future partner. To explain a little further, if my partner and I ran across another couple that we became very close friends with, I would want there to be a possibility of an open sexual and intimate relationship between the four of us. Make sure you are completely open to this being a possibility. If this doesn't really make sense feel free to ask questions. I am an open book, if you want to just ask questions or are curious about this type, or similar lifestyle's, feel free to send me a message. I eventually wish to find a primary, someone who could one day be my wife. However, I am in no rush to get married and do enjoy dating until the right match comes along. Random facts Favorite sports: SCUBA diving/Wakeboarding/Snowboarding/Shooting/Watching college football Favorite books: Atlas Shrugged/Lone Survivor/LOTR/Count of Monte Cristo Favorite Movies: 300/The Matrix/Bourne Series/Marvel Movies/(I do enjoy romance comedies) Favorite Music: Most Country/Nickelback/Linkin Park/38 Special/Journey/ACDC/Train/Classical Close ad AdChoicesAdChoices

OsideGirl -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 2:44:09 PM)
It's well written and you have a good blend of kink and vanilla. Your market segment will be small, but you're ahead of a lot of the guys out there.

JeffBC -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 2:45:18 PM)
I think your profile speaks eloquently although in this case I'm not sure "eloquence" actually works in your favor. It's kind of like a profile which starts out "Hi, I value total honesty so let me start right out with admitting I'm an axe murderer..." On one hand I have to admire the integrity and honesty. On the other hand... ick. If you're actually wealthy though then it hardly matters.

Specter326 -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 2:56:57 PM)
Thanks OsideGirl! Jeff, Not really sure what you mean. "On the other hand... ick."? What does wealth have to do with this?

DarkSteven -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 3:46:47 PM)
The pics are good. Show you to be athletic. The ending gets muddled. If you have couple-couple interaction, does that mean you intend to be bi? Basically, you introduce a huge wild card that could be a hard limit to many women, and don't explain it.

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 5:06:25 PM)
You had me ready to drive to Leesburg until the bisexuality! I think everyone above has made excellent points about having a narrow target market but that is preferable to those who say "interested in true subs only"

kalikshama -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 5:23:35 PM)
quote: "On the other hand... ick." I think you're too explicit. I know I do things with my man that if he'd laid it all out in his profile I would have not emailed him back. Our kinks don't align perfectly. But because I adore him, his kinks are now my kinks. I'd kill the parts about oral, anal, and cum craving as being gratuitously explicit. I'm not sure what to recommend about the poly section. I think you should either add more detail to clarify other posters' questions or just mention it in passing and say you will explain over coffee. (ps - this feminist appreciates having doors opened and tabs picked up ;)

theshytype -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 7:20:22 PM)
I personally like your profile. I believe it's well-written and the opening paragraph kept me interested. I also like the pictures you chose. Based on some of the other profiles I've seen, I think you should have a much easier time finding a match. If I were single and 10 years younger, I'd be swooning.

Specter326 -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 8:16:03 PM)
First, thank you so much for all your feedback. I guess I'm torn. The polyish lifestyle is what ended my last relationship. No I am not bi, it would be more of a situation where if we went and stayed with that other couple, I'd want to be able to pass the women back and forth in a very hedonistic way. Also, the specific couple I have in mind I share a deep emotional connection to and I'd like my sub to be open to that. I know it's a huge expectation but unfortunately it's kind of a deal breaker. My last sub was to jealous and could never handle that. The bi thing, they don't necessarily have to be full bi, just enough to be able to have fun with the other girl. Not necessarily oral but fun with toys kissing etc. I guess I just don't know the proper wording to get that across. How would you briefly mention it or mention it in a way that wasn't so intense?

sexyred1 -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 8:19:53 PM)
I love your profile. You probably will do really well here.

DarkSteven -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 9:15:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Specter326 First, thank you so much for all your feedback. I guess I'm torn. The polyish lifestyle is what ended my last relationship. No I am not bi, it would be more of a situation where if we went and stayed with that other couple, I'd want to be able to pass the women back and forth in a very hedonistic way. Also, the specific couple I have in mind I share a deep emotional connection to and I'd like my sub to be open to that. I know it's a huge expectation but unfortunately it's kind of a deal breaker. My last sub was to jealous and could never handle that. The bi thing, they don't necessarily have to be full bi, just enough to be able to have fun with the other girl. Not necessarily oral but fun with toys kissing etc. I guess I just don't know the proper wording to get that across. How would you briefly mention it or mention it in a way that wasn't so intense? Just say "I've done swinging before and would like to do it again". That implies swapping partners, but in a strictly het way.

muhly22222 -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/28/2013 9:26:06 PM)
FR Overall...a very good profile. And I have fairly high standards. With that being said: The part where you talk about your sub having a craving for cum is probably too much for a lot of people. As kalikshama said, it's gratuitously explicit. You can get the idea across without having to be so crude. You've begun to answer some of your own questions on how to handle the poly situation: quote: Also, the specific couple I have in mind I share a deep emotional connection to and I'd like my sub to be open to that. Expand on that.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/29/2013 12:30:36 AM)
fast reply The others have covered the text pretty well (even with the bits that need a polish, still one of the top 5% I've seen) so I'll just say this: LOVE your profile picture. Full body shot, smiling, clothed, engaging in a vanilla interest. Perfecto.

phoenixasubbie -> RE: Help with profile and responses (3/31/2013 11:15:50 AM)
Although it is not my cup of tea, I think it is very well written. I'd 86 the cum speak too. We are on CM. I think that's pretty much a given.

subkj -> RE: Help with profile and responses (4/3/2013 4:10:01 PM)
Ok... here's my honest opinion as a sub... I believe you are super hot... Add a close up pic... Your profile about you section is well written but may be too revealing... Take a bit away and make a sub want to ask you questions about yourself... The other thing is add more interests and fetishes you may be into... I hope this helps...

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Help with profile and responses (6/2/2013 11:02:24 AM)
quote: Also, I am not in to feminist women who don't appreciate a man opening a door, or for that matter a woman who won't offer to pick up the tab and say thank you when I cover it. This is where I lost interest. There are lots of fabulous, sexy, feminist women who would be open minded, kinky, poly, bi-curious. Why put them off with a badly written line? I frequently offer to pay my half and am always appreciative if they want to treat me. It has nothing to do with feminism and everything to do with being polite and well-mannered. Your criticism of feminists makes it sound as if you might have sexist beliefs and can't handle women who would challenge you on that. I also think you come across as a bit of an asshat with your opening line about being 'exceptionally confident' and there are some spelling mistakes in your profile. I'm only pointing this out because you asked for feedback and, to me, it's not really helping you at all if I don't say honestly how it came across to me. Others will obviously have their own opinion :-)

Endivius -> RE: Help with profile and responses (6/12/2013 2:19:44 AM)
Smart and funny is how to attract women. Stick to that you, can have your pick.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Help with profile and responses (6/12/2013 9:49:12 AM)
Not sure which is worse, the bit about being bi or an adult liking Ayn Rand. All kidding aside, that's a damn fine profile!

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