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Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 3:15:48 AM

Uniquesweets

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I just made this and I already see women being offended by what men are saying.
Sorry girls, I agree with the guys.
I feel as if a man is in charge of ever aspect, I mean, No we don't have to the lick toilets, lol
But even in vanilla relationships, i feel the man should be in charge, and the women should
walk behind.
Anyways, stop byyyy and say Hi :]

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 5:06:01 AM

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Hi and welcome to CM. Isn't it cool how everyone can have their own opinion of how things work best for them? Glad you've figured out what yours is. Have fun with things!

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 5:50:00 AM

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 6:02:18 AM

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Hello and welcome to the forums and Collarme. Here's hoping all that you seek you shall find.

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 7:43:19 AM

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Welcome, make way for the Men! (they'll be along shortly)

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 9:18:36 AM

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Well thank you everyone lol

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 9:45:03 AM

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I must be behind because I am not sure what you are talking about. Welcome

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 10:24:43 AM

Uniquesweets

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You are not behind, lol
I just saw a couple posts complaining about guys being a bit degrading
but yet they have "slave" in there name, don't really understand what they expected

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 11:00:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: Uniquesweets

You are not behind, lol
I just saw a couple posts complaining about guys being a bit degrading
but yet they have "slave" in there name, don't really understand what they expected

Saying you are a slave isn't an automatic invite to be degraded by anyone who happens along - that's generally reserved for invitation only by the two people who consent to be with each other. So the slaves you are mentioning are perfectly within their right to tell these guys to zip it.

It generally speaks to inexperience with this lifestyle that people think strangers can be treated in any fashion because of a box that they checked on their sexual orientation, whether they have consented to it or not. Calling myself a submissive does not mean I submit to the world. I submit to the man of my choosing.

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 11:43:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: Uniquesweets

You are not behind, lol
I just saw a couple posts complaining about guys being a bit degrading
but yet they have "slave" in there name, don't really understand what they expected

Well, here is where you can start learning.

Lesson number one: get over being literal.

Just because you identify as a slave or submissive, does not mean you want to be degraded. Some love it, some don't. Not every dynamic is the same. There are myriad ways to be here.

You don't need to assume what anyone else expects from their own relationships; you just need to understand your own views on yours.

If you feel that men are in charge all the time even in vanilla and women walk behind; that is cool for YOU, not for every woman on the planet.

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 12:58:32 PM

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I understand what both of you are saying. I was just a bit confused with a girl
Having slave in her name and naked pictures but when the guy comments on her
Pictures stating what he'd love to do to her, she then gets mad .A bit contradicting on her
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RE: Newbeeeee. - 3/31/2013 1:27:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Uniquesweets

I understand what both of you are saying. I was just a bit confused with a girl
Having slave in her name and naked pictures but when the guy comments on her
Pictures stating what he'd love to do to her, she then gets mad .A bit contradicting on her
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So one girl is contradicting herself, that's a bit different than you saying in your OP that every woman (as per your original statement on this thread, here you changed it to a slave instead of all women) does whatever some guy who thinks he's in charge says. You took one example and generalized, that doesn't usually work too well. I might say to you..."All 18 year olds are immature." You can see that would fit a lot of people and yet not others.

If it's contradictory, that's her right. It seems a bit on the clueless side, but it's her right to show the goods and not want some HNG to give her a graphic rundown of his current wank session. Kind of like the "she asked for it" reasoning for assault victims. Do you feel you have the right to dress how you like as long as it's legal, and go about your daily business verbally and physically unassaulted? If you wore revealing clothing in a bad section of town after midnight it might be stupid, but it's your right to do that and make it home in one piece.

Calling yourself a slave means absolutely nothing in online interpersonal dynamics, unless you are entering into an arrangement with someone. I can call myself the Queen of Sheba and it means nothing, everyone here would treat me however they like. If I met someone who wanted to also call me/treat me like the Queen of Sheba then it's on. Up till then...it's a self applied and rather meaningless title to those outside of myself.

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 4/1/2013 12:46:20 AM

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Yer the term slave means something different to
everyone, same as master, I find it easiest to
assume they mean nothing and just treat people
on here as I would on the street.

Welcome and enjoy the forum.

**P.S. I get what your saying about the naked
pictures and sympathise with your confusion,
that wont be the last thing that leaves you
shaking your head on here,so buckle up.**

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RE: Newbeeeee. - 4/1/2013 3:19:59 AM

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Welcome Uniquesweets!

Doesn't make much sense to show your titties and then be surprised at the outcome, but calling yourself a slave doesn't mean you're anyone's meat. Some people live to be offended I guess. As Aries says, it won't be the first time you shake your head. Hope to see you around!

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