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Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 9:19:51 AM   
HERWAY


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Status: offline 		I am seeking feedback, opinions, ideas and so on as they relate to permanent orgasm denial.  Chastity has always had a very strong appeal for me right from the start and I have come to fully embrace it.  I love everything about it; the intensity of it, the longing it creates and the reality that my role and purpose is to please.  I find this deeply fulfilling.  For me; this is how it should be and was meant to be.  Nature intended for man to serve woman, as she delivered him to her through his desire for her.  We are servants to female flesh.  They have what we want and need. This is reality and a truth that cannot be denied.  Accepting, understanding this is the first step toward real fulfillment.  It is also liberating us from a false stereotype of masculinity and male sexuality.  Rejecting this and becoming the man she wants and needs you to be is the right decision. 

She needs to be adored, desired, pampered and pleasured.  Chastity will give you the energy and desire to meet her needs.  It ensures you are always hunger and eager/ready to please her.  Your sexual energy is reserved and conserved for her and her benefit.  Channeling your passion into an emotional release as opposed to a physical one leads to a better outcome for both.  She gets the attention/pleasure she needs and deserves and he gets to experience her femininity/sensuality and sexuality in a deeply profound way.  This will change him and affect him in ways that are difficult to describe  It has to be experienced.  It is as if he has been re-wired.  He will become addicted to your scent and taste.  His mouth and tongue will become his primary sexual organs.  He will be transformed.

The question of how long to keep him locked up and denied is one that needs to be decided.  Knowing that after an orgasm the male's desire and ability to please is greatly diminished (during his refractory period) the question becomes is this too much for her to sacrifice.  Does she want to be without his fervent attention for  periods of time if he is released regularly?  This may be a price she does not want to pay and when  serious consideration to permanent orgasm denial should take place.

The benefits are undeniable.  More pleasure and orgasms for her.  Sex is for your (her) pleasure only.  This fact can be a huge enduring emotional turn-on for both.  He experiences the pleasure of constant arousal.  He thinks about/desires you more than you thought possible.  He will want to do all you say and ask.  He will truly be a slave to you and your desires.  To have a man be devoted to you and aching to serve you and be your slave is pure bliss.

Permanent orgasm denial is not for everyone, but there are certainly couples would would benefit tremendously from this life-style commitment. 




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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 9:36:35 AM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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ORIGINAL: HERWAY

I am seeking feedback, opinions, ideas and so on as they relate to permanent orgasm denial.  Chastity has always had a very strong appeal for me right from the start and I have come to fully embrace it.  I love everything about it; the intensity of it, the longing it creates and the reality that my role and purpose is to please.  I find this deeply fulfilling.  For me; this is how it should be and was meant to be.  Nature intended for man to serve woman, as she delivered him to her through his desire for her.  We are servants to female flesh.  They have what we want and need. This is reality and a truth that cannot be denied.  Accepting, understanding this is the first step toward real fulfillment.  It is also liberating us from a false stereotype of masculinity and male sexuality.  Rejecting this and becoming the man she wants and needs you to be is the right decision. 

She needs to be adored, desired, pampered and pleasured.  Chastity will give you the energy and desire to meet her needs.  It ensures you are always hunger and eager/ready to please her.  Your sexual energy is reserved and conserved for her and her benefit.  Channeling your passion into an emotional release as opposed to a physical one leads to a better outcome for both.  She gets the attention/pleasure she needs and deserves and he gets to experience her femininity/sensuality and sexuality in a deeply profound way.  This will change him and affect him in ways that are difficult to describe  It has to be experienced.  It is as if he has been re-wired.  He will become addicted to your scent and taste.  His mouth and tongue will become his primary sexual organs.  He will be transformed.

The question of how long to keep him locked up and denied is one that needs to be decided.  Knowing that after an orgasm the male's desire and ability to please is greatly diminished (during his refractory period) the question becomes is this too much for her to sacrifice.  Does she want to be without his fervent attention for  periods of time if he is released regularly?  This may be a price she does not want to pay and when  serious consideration to permanent orgasm denial should take place.

The benefits are undeniable.  More pleasure and orgasms for her.  Sex is for your (her) pleasure only.  This fact can be a huge enduring emotional turn-on for both.  He experiences the pleasure of constant arousal.  He thinks about/desires you more than you thought possible.  He will want to do all you say and ask.  He will truly be a slave to you and your desires.  To have a man be devoted to you and aching to serve you and be your slave is pure bliss.

Permanent orgasm denial is not for everyone, but there are certainly couples would would benefit tremendously from this life-style commitment. 




I see no mention at ALL to HER actual needs, which for most women go BEYOND sex. Men focus on sex, women don't, so a lot of what you have described is from the MALE'S sex-oriented perspective. A male denied orgasm becomes far more productive in his work. To many of us, THAT is the goal. A woman can get sex or oral sex from ANY man, he need not be into BDSM or D/s. What makes a BDSM or D/s male more interesting are all the OTHER things that can be accomplished through psychological manipulation.
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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 10:22:56 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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Just my $0.02...

But your little permanent orgasm denial deal sounds like its all about you ore than anything else

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 10:31:10 AM   
lthrpup


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Status: offline 		Permanent seems like a long time! What about long-term orgasm denial with periodic release dependent on good performance? Potential for weekly that turns out to be monthly in practice because high standards of service and devotion are hard to reach? Hope gets added to the manipulation arsenal. And the occasional pleasure could be made exceptionally intense or turned into a tool of frustration if it is quick or ruined.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 11:35:15 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		You really tried hard to sell this as being about your potential partner, but it's all about you and what you want. Good luck finding a Dominant woman to perform the way you want her to.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 2:28:48 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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We are servants to female flesh


No, we are not. YOU might be obsessed with vagina, but I certainly don't see the appeal in them. Stop spouting off lies and start making your sentences reflect the fact that you grasp the concept that not all men are attracted to women and not all men are submissive.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 3:03:48 PM   
itsapixie


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Status: offline 		Wow, that's quite a spiel. You asked for feedback and opinions so...

I do believe, like some others, that this is geared more towards your sexual desires than the enjoyment of the woman. And I don't blame you for wanting whatever you want, it's all peachy. But you're openly stating that you want the WOMAN to be satisfied while you are left "denied". But in turn, you're the one ultimately getting satisfied because it's what YOU want.

What if the woman you're with wants you to have an orgasm? What if this woman that needs to be adored, desired, pampered, and pleasured finds great happiness in forcing you to have orgasms? Would you still consider yourself to be all serving and willing to please at any cost? Is orgasm denial your only form of sacrifice in order to bring her happiness?

You ask how long is the right amount of time. That's something that you'll apparently be leaving up to your woman. If your desire is to focus on her all the time, I don't think the length of time should even be a concern for you. Just keep on truckin' until she says otherwise. And why even question it if you believe you should never be allowed anyways? I think you basically desire glorified orgasm denial, not permanent (or else you wouldn't have asked about time), and want the woman to use that (against you?) to please herself. It's a fun thought, but I'm thinking it'll be unlikely that you find such a woman in real life.

Just don't allow yourself to orgasm and be super nice to every female you see. Done.

And you'll probably have wet dreams :P

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 7:03:31 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: itsapixie

Just don't allow yourself to orgasm and be super nice to every female you see. Done.



^^^This.

If you can do that for a month without touching your peen, MAYBE you have a chance. But it's pretty obvious from the OP you're not about what pleases a dominant so what's it matter? No dominant woman worth her salt is buying it.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 7:16:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HERWAY

I am seeking feedback, opinions, ideas and so on as they relate to permanent orgasm denial.  Chastity has always had a very strong appeal for me right from the start and I have come to fully embrace it.  I love everything about it; the intensity of it, the longing it creates and the reality that my role and purpose is to please.  I find this deeply fulfilling.  For me; this is how it should be and was meant to be.  Nature intended for man to serve woman, as she delivered him to her through his desire for her.  We are servants to female flesh.  They have what we want and need. This is reality and a truth that cannot be denied.  Accepting, understanding this is the first step toward real fulfillment.  It is also liberating us from a false stereotype of masculinity and male sexuality.  Rejecting this and becoming the man she wants and needs you to be is the right decision. 

She needs to be adored, desired, pampered and pleasured.  Chastity will give you the energy and desire to meet her needs.  It ensures you are always hunger and eager/ready to please her.  Your sexual energy is reserved and conserved for her and her benefit.  Channeling your passion into an emotional release as opposed to a physical one leads to a better outcome for both.  She gets the attention/pleasure she needs and deserves and he gets to experience her femininity/sensuality and sexuality in a deeply profound way.  This will change him and affect him in ways that are difficult to describe  It has to be experienced.  It is as if he has been re-wired.  He will become addicted to your scent and taste.  His mouth and tongue will become his primary sexual organs.  He will be transformed.

The question of how long to keep him locked up and denied is one that needs to be decided.  Knowing that after an orgasm the male's desire and ability to please is greatly diminished (during his refractory period) the question becomes is this too much for her to sacrifice.  Does she want to be without his fervent attention for  periods of time if he is released regularly?  This may be a price she does not want to pay and when  serious consideration to permanent orgasm denial should take place.

The benefits are undeniable.  More pleasure and orgasms for her.  Sex is for your (her) pleasure only.  This fact can be a huge enduring emotional turn-on for both.  He experiences the pleasure of constant arousal.  He thinks about/desires you more than you thought possible.  He will want to do all you say and ask.  He will truly be a slave to you and your desires.  To have a man be devoted to you and aching to serve you and be your slave is pure bliss.

Permanent orgasm denial is not for everyone, but there are certainly couples would would benefit tremendously from this life-style commitment. 





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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 7:48:55 PM   
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Chastity has always had a very strong appeal for me right from the start and I have come to fully embrace it. I love everything about it; the intensity of it, the longing it creates and the reality that my role and purpose is to please. I find this deeply fulfilling.
Obviously. Good for you, if you've found someone who will do you this way.

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Chastity will give you the energy and desire to meet her needs. It ensures you are always hunger and eager/ready to please her. Your sexual energy is reserved and conserved for her and her benefit. Channeling your passion into an emotional release as opposed to a physical one leads to a better outcome for both.
This will either work, or make him resent the woman to the point of becoming aggressive, and releasing this energy in other ways.

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Permanent orgasm denial is not for everyone, but there are certainly couples would would benefit tremendously from this life-style commitment.
I don't believe this is healthy, exciting, and it certainly isn't desirable to me. If the only way he can submit, is for me to prevent his sexual enjoyment permanently, I'm not interested, and I worry about the man who THINKS this is a good idea, for more than a couple of days. If you happen to be asexual, than permanent orgasm denial is absolutely fine for you. Otherwise, I woulnd't advise it. M



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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 8:05:23 PM   
njlauren


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Status: offline 		I have heard all this before, and if it works for you and more importantly your domme, good, but I think as a general rule that is a stretch. For one thing, if the dominant and sub are a couple, then putting him into chastity denies her the use of his dick for her pleasure, sure he can use his tongue and such, but what about her needs? Is part of this that she cucks you and has sex with other men? What if she enjoys getting orgasms from the guys dick?

More importantly, as someone who is into D/s (if on the bench at the moment, except for my cat, of course) the idea that I have to be kept in chastity to submit or do what I am supposed to is a bit insulting. If the idea is that by putting me into chastity I will get so horny that I will behave and do what my dominant wants to me is insulting, in that I do what I do, not out of my horniness, but because I love and submitted to her (or him if I ever go that route, not likely:) and want to show that love and submission.

I have know subs and slaves who did do the chastity things,at least one whose wife/mistress had him pierced and used that to lock it on (it was a kind of humiliation relationship, she had other men to please her, the claim was he had orgasms from watching her have sex...to each their own). One thing, long term chastity like that isn't healthy, if your domme wants that I recommend she learn how to do prostate milking, to keep the prostate in good shape.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 3/31/2013 8:30:00 PM   
SadisticMs2


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Status: offline 		Frankly, I don't want a life partner where I can't have normal penis-vagina sex with whenever I want it. Oral sex is fine and dandy but if p-v sex is out because it doesn't play into his denial fetish, then he can go pound sand if he thinks he's going to get to ever be intimate with me in any capacity.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/1/2013 12:37:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SadisticMs2

Frankly, I don't want a life partner where I can't have normal penis-vagina sex with whenever I want it. Oral sex is fine and dandy but if p-v sex is out because it doesn't play into his denial fetish, then he can go pound sand if he thinks he's going to get to ever be intimate with me in any capacity.

There you are. There it is. There you have it. And there you go.

edit : couldn't decide which went when.

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/1/2013 11:24:51 AM   
Rochsub2009


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I can appreciate your fantasy. Hopefully, you'll find a partner to make it a reality for you.

But having said that, I think you may find more dominant women disagree with you than agree with you. As an example, I remember one Domme that I used to date. She used to try placing me in a chastity device. She would threaten to keep me "locked up" for long periods of time. But it never actually happened because she would get horny and want to have sex with me. Then she'd be upset because she had to remove the chastity device, and she couldn't remember where she put the key. Having to search for a key when she was in the mood for sex was a real downer for her. Ultimately, she decided that the chastity device was more of a punishment for HER than it was for me, and she made me get rid of it.

So your permanent chastity idea really isn't going to work for any Domme who happens to enjoy having sex with her sub/slave. Frankly, sex is something that many will not want to forgo permanently. And many are monogamous, and aren't going to be interested in a cuckold relationship. So finding a bull to have sex with isn't going to appeal to them.

You may want to consider that before you suggest permanent chastity to a potential Domme.

Good luck to you.
-Roch

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/1/2013 2:26:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
As an example, I remember one Domme that I used to date. She used to try placing me in a chastity device. She would threaten to keep me "locked up" for long periods of time. But it never actually happened because she would get horny and want to have sex with me. Then she'd be upset because she had to remove the chastity device, and she couldn't remember where she put the key. Having to search for a key when she was in the mood for sex was a real downer for her. Ultimately, she decided that the chastity device was more of a punishment for HER than it was for me, and she made me get rid of it.
Good luck to you.
-Roch
LOL, that story was funny. Why didn't she make you look for the key? Did she save it in places you were not to ever touch? M


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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/1/2013 2:40:04 PM   
Rochsub2009


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Why didn't she make you look for the key? Did she save it in places you were not to ever touch? M



She was supposed to be hiding it from me. So I wasn't supposed to know where it was. The only problem was that she was notorious for losing things (especially keys).

Every time she'd leave the house, she would go through the same ritual of struggling to find her car keys in her purse. She had to practically dump her purse every time she left the house. She could never find her keys.

Since she usually couldn't find her important keys, I never expected her to be able to find that little tiny key that went with the chastity device.

Can you imagine what it felt like for her to be horny and have an available penis right in front of her, but to have a chastity device that SHE put on it prevent her from getting at it?

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/1/2013 4:36:20 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
She was supposed to be hiding it from me. So I wasn't supposed to know where it was. The only problem was that she was notorious for losing things (especially keys).
LOL, sounds a little bit too disorganized, and I'm not very organized myself. What I meant is, if I'm looking for something, and it's taking extra long to find, I would engage the sub/slave, in helping me look for it... Than I suppose find a different spot to hide it next time.

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Can you imagine what it felt like for her to be horny and have an available penis right in front of her, but to have a chastity device that SHE put on it prevent her from getting at it?
I can, which is why I don't think it a good idea. The fact of the matter is, most women would find this inconvenient; at least those that intend to use their other for anything besides cooking, and cleaning.
As for the OP, even though his handle says HERWAY, I strongly suspect he is seeking someone to fit HIS way in this fantastical thought/road. I strongly suspect, this will end up being a case of "be careful what you wish for," because I'be been told there are women out there, who take slaves for service only, and no sex whatsoever is allowed, ever! M


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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/1/2013 8:19:47 PM   
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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/16/2013 7:45:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HERWAY

I am seeking feedback, opinions, ideas and so on as they relate to permanent orgasm denial.  Chastity has always had a very strong appeal for me right from the start and I have come to fully embrace it.  I love everything about it; the intensity of it, the longing it creates and the reality that my role and purpose is to please.  I find this deeply fulfilling.  For me; this is how it should be and was meant to be.  Nature intended for man to serve woman, as she delivered him to her through his desire for her.  We are servants to female flesh.  They have what we want and need. This is reality and a truth that cannot be denied.  Accepting, understanding this is the first step toward real fulfillment.  It is also liberating us from a false stereotype of masculinity and male sexuality.  Rejecting this and becoming the man she wants and needs you to be is the right decision. 

She needs to be adored, desired, pampered and pleasured.  Chastity will give you the energy and desire to meet her needs.  It ensures you are always hunger and eager/ready to please her.  Your sexual energy is reserved and conserved for her and her benefit.  Channeling your passion into an emotional release as opposed to a physical one leads to a better outcome for both.  She gets the attention/pleasure she needs and deserves and he gets to experience her femininity/sensuality and sexuality in a deeply profound way.  This will change him and affect him in ways that are difficult to describe  It has to be experienced.  It is as if he has been re-wired.  He will become addicted to your scent and taste.  His mouth and tongue will become his primary sexual organs.  He will be transformed.

The question of how long to keep him locked up and denied is one that needs to be decided.  Knowing that after an orgasm the male's desire and ability to please is greatly diminished (during his refractory period) the question becomes is this too much for her to sacrifice.  Does she want to be without his fervent attention for  periods of time if he is released regularly?  This may be a price she does not want to pay and when  serious consideration to permanent orgasm denial should take place.

The benefits are undeniable.  More pleasure and orgasms for her.  Sex is for your (her) pleasure only.  This fact can be a huge enduring emotional turn-on for both.  He experiences the pleasure of constant arousal.  He thinks about/desires you more than you thought possible.  He will want to do all you say and ask.  He will truly be a slave to you and your desires.  To have a man be devoted to you and aching to serve you and be your slave is pure bliss.

Permanent orgasm denial is not for everyone, but there are certainly couples would would benefit tremendously from this life-style commitment. 





If any woman told me I was going to be on "permanent" orgasm denial, I'd give her a very nicely printed map to I-5, a full tank of gas and instructions to find I-5 abruptly.

(Said, of course, in the most submissive of ways).

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RE: Permanent orgasm denial - 4/16/2013 8:13:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd be tempted to go jodi arias on a guy like that. I would really like to retire my vibrating friend. I can get pampered and all that and still get laid... why would I want to ruin some good man meat because he thinks he can't be a good man unless I do? Ick!

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