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LadyPact -> April roll call (4/1/2013 10:45:26 AM)
Happy April, everybody! It's time for our traditional beginning of the month roll call. If you haven't participated in a roll call before, this is our chance to update how everything is going in our world, what's happening, what we're doing, or who we're doing, as the case may be. Hmmmmm..... This time around, it's also April Fool's Day, too, isn't it? Here's your shot, tricksters. Have fun with it! As much as I am disappointed to put it on the screen, after a number of years, I have dissolved My poly household. I have always said that I am poly optional. When the negatives outweigh the positives, it's time to get out. Well, that kind of happened in My house, and, being who I am, I had to take charge of My life. The funniest thing is, I really am ok. I cried for a whole ten minutes or so. After that, it was just........ Over. I'm not experiencing hurt. It's more like relief. I've got to give it to MP. He's letting Me process and has more than stepped up to the plate. No, he's not submissive. He's just a good husband. There when I need him. Walks away when I don't. The thing is, I don't feel bad. On positive stuff, I will be at the April dungeon. Have already made play dates. My dungeon at home, "Leather and Lace" is holding a party on the twenty-seventh. My top side didn't die. Not My leather side, either.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: April roll call (4/1/2013 12:02:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact As much as I am disappointed to put it on the screen, after a number of years, I have dissolved My poly household. Was this an April Fool's LP? If not, I'm sorry to hear it but when a situation doesn't fit who and where we are today, we've outgrown it and it's time to move on. Here on the Central Coast, the band is celebrating our 1-year anniversary. Surprisingly, we're celebrating NOT by playing music but hiking in Big Sur with dinner at Nepenthe. We're booked regularly now with house concerts and have begun playing at elder/dementia facilities every month. While I'm an old hand at that, the rest of the band members had no prior experience. They've really taken to it. We have all kinds of fun with those folks and arrive with plenty of percussive hand instruments to hand out so they can join in. We must be doing something right; they keep asking us back. I just got a call that my custom-made Salterelle Irish Bouebe melodeon is in the mail today. That means I'll be squeeze-boxing by the end of the week! It's diatonic, meaning pushing the bellows gets one note, pulling another. Pray I'm coordinated enough to get that as well as figuring out the buttons, which are nothing like the keyboards and piano accordions I'm accustomed to. Worth mastering though, as it's less than 7 lbs. Quite a relief from the 17 lb + case PA that has to get schlepped on the road with all the other instruments. After talking it over with CB and S, I have a new part-time sub, Nick. Though nearly 20 years younger, he's one of those 'old souls' I enjoy so much and a darling individual all around. Very bright, hilarious sense of humor, great communicator, which is really helpful since he's new to the nuts and bolts of the lifestyle. While it's good fun hands-on, I really appreciate all the fixes around the property. It takes a lot of the load off S and CB (who's still overwhelmed with family responsibilities). Not only does he get stuff done, he does it right since that's his livelihood. All else is well.

ShaharThorne -> RE: April roll call (4/1/2013 12:28:41 PM)
I am dealing with a few medical issues pertaining to my knee. It started grinding so I went to the doctor. The MRI came back with a Baker's cyst behind it and a torn ligament. I see the specialist on the 16th unless there is a opening earlier. The doctor also discovered uric acid in my plasma, saying that I have gout. I am not really having any symptoms but I am taking meds for it. He is also tweaking my thyroid meds to 250 mcg so I have to beat myself to remember to take my morning meds. Lizard is dealing with painful cramps so I told her to carry her meds with her all the time. She saw the urologist last week and he is doing cultures on her urine to see why she has blood in it. He might recommend a kidney specialist. Meanwhile I am trying to convince the OB/GYN that if the cramping continues, she should perform a lap. Endo runs in the family. If Lizard has it, she needs to get pregnant because that is how I got pregnant with her afterwards...

MadamAsianDom -> RE: April roll call (4/1/2013 1:10:33 PM)
Lifestyle-wise in my world, I have a few mentees, two of which that, while I care about them a great deal, have so many personal issues on a perpetual basis, that mentoring them is oftentimes a draining experience. However, I knew when I agreed to mentor them, that this might happen, so I took that upon myself when I agreed. Still do not have a slave or submissive of my own. It becomes apparent rather quickly that communication is really not a strong suit for many people, nor is honesty, and those are two traits that I'm not going to compromise on expecting from someone in service to me. In non-lifestyle related news - the military is still taking its sweet time on each and every aspect of my medical board. After jumping through various proverbial hoops to get the things done that were expected for me for the medical board, I then had to jump through more to ensure my paperwork was fixed when the med board people continued to screw it up (they continually were leaving off 6 of my 22 diagnoses from my paperwork). From the beginning of the process to the time they sent my paperwork to Texas for the Unfit memo took 9 months. I was then told the unfit memo would take a month to come back. We're going into the second month now. The 2nd of my 4 sons ships out to Marine basic on 8 April and the 3rd of my 4 sons came home last week to tell me that he's been offered a scholarship from his band director for college at GRU (formerly Augusta State Univ). Was extremely proud of him, especially considering he's still in his Sophomore year of High School. And that's a snapshot of what's going on in my world.

MaamJay -> RE: April roll call (4/12/2013 9:57:23 PM)
LP - I'm in shock - I thought Yours was the most solid poly household! Are You sure this isn't an April Fool's joke?? If it's not, then I am sorry it has come to this, and hope everyone is able to deal with it. On the bdsm side, nothing is happening here. As I posted in another thread, a boy I'd talked to for over 2 years who lives in My new home town, and who actually came to 2 vanilla meets and said he was raring to go when he got back from vacation, seems to have fallen into a black hole. Very disappointing. I wish they'd just be honest, I could respect that. Master and i aren't being very bdsm-ish either. Hard to do much in a caravan with an over-sensitive dog LOL! But i still love Him to bits and i am so grateful that He is House-Husbanding for me as the new job is keeping me very busy. However, it is going VERY well, just had My first performance review yesterday and was thoroughly praised for all I have managed to achieve in My first 2 months. I am loving the job and enjoying the collegiality, so feel very blessed. Now, if We can just work off the debt acquired while living on a very meagre scholarship ... and persuade some nice bank to loan us $$ for a house so We can escape from this rip-off caravan park ... it would be heaven! Our little dog gave Us a fright (and expense groan) when a large benign tumour that she has had for some years on her back leg suddenly burst necessitating surgery. At her age (14 in 2 weeks), anaesthesia carries a lot of risk, but she has come through well and the vets did an awesome job. One benefit of where We are, the vets are just across the road. The kitties remain their usual fluffy and slightly annoying selves! Hope all is well with everyone, it is nice to at least have time once a week to check in. Oh, and I am still waiting to hear about My PhD, the examiners are being a bit slow. Nothing to worry about so My supervisor assures Me, but I'd really love to know soon! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: April roll call (4/12/2013 10:30:44 PM)
Well ... it's now April 13 .. and No April Fools message appears. So i guess this is real. Sending You condolences, as well as best wishes for a bright future! [:)] You deserve the good, as well as the best! Happy April! PS: Yes, there is an obvious time difference between Detroit and this site .. it really is April 13, in Detroit! [:D]

LPslittleclip -> RE: April roll call (4/12/2013 10:32:41 PM)
it is true the poly dynamic was not viable as a positive anymore. i am still growing and am taking positives from this myself, and i also give kudos to MP for the handling of this. i will carry LPs mark on my chest proudly and will alyways think of myself as Her clip. the experinces have been beyond compare i would not trade them for anything. little_clip

MaamJay -> RE: April roll call (4/12/2013 10:36:52 PM)
clip I am sorry to hear that it didn't work out, but heartened to see you on the boards still and to read your words. It's obvious how much you have learned and the maturity that you have gained as a submissive. I hope all remains well with you and wish you and your wife the very best for the future. And of course, the best of wishes to LP and MP too. LP, I can understand the relief that comes from resolving a difficult situation, but in My experience, the grieving will hit some time later. I trust MP will be equally ready to deal with that when it happens. Maam Jay aka violet[A]

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: April roll call (4/13/2013 12:02:30 AM)
I'm sorry to hear about LP's poly household dissolving, but glad to hear everyone is making it through it all. It seems that it wasn't that long ago I lost my submissive due to various reasons. Now my play partner of four years has moved away due to circumstances beyond his control. So I am totally single again & once again "looking." I'm still working on jumping through the various hoops I need to so I can get the gastric bypass surgery, probably in late summer. I've aced the psychiatric clearance and I just got the cardiac clearance testing finished today. I'm still waiting on those results to come in but it looks promising. If the news is positive, then I go to Seattle for an appointment with the Doctor who will be doing it and set up the surgery date. A couple weeks ago I strained my left hamstring but it's slowly improving. The Dr said it could take weeks or months, I'm hoping for weeks. lol NBMG

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: April roll call (4/13/2013 7:41:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact As much as I am disappointed to put it on the screen, after a number of years, I have dissolved My poly household. I have always said that I am poly optional. When the negatives outweigh the positives, it's time to get out. Well, that kind of happened in My house, and, being who I am, I had to take charge of My life. The funniest thing is, I really am ok. I cried for a whole ten minutes or so. After that, it was just........ Over. I'm not experiencing hurt. It's more like relief. I've got to give it to MP. He's letting Me process and has more than stepped up to the plate. No, he's not submissive. He's just a good husband. There when I need him. Walks away when I don't. The thing is, I don't feel bad. I tend to stay away from these roll calls, but how unfortunate to read this, and it's not an April fool's joke, since I've always thought your polyhousehold solid. I hope MP continues to be great at supporting you through these times. I hope Clip does well in his own life, and the future brings lots of posive experiences for all of you. M

Aswad -> RE: April roll call (4/13/2013 8:09:27 AM)
Best of luck in the future to LP and the rest. IWYW, — Aswad.

njlauren -> RE: April roll call (4/14/2013 9:50:19 AM)
LP- Sorry to hear about the dissolution of your poly, and to little clip my condolences as well. It sounds like you both are taking what came out of it and moving on, and bravo to MP for his support. I initially thought this was April Fools, when at the end you said you hadn't lost your desire to be in the leather community, given what you have written about being into high leather and such, but I had to smack myself to get my brain working to realize the poly and the leather family can be/are two different things in your case:). I can understand, I am not poly, but I can only imagine how difficult it can be to maintain it. My dad was a misogynist in many ways, but he once was asked if he ever had cheated on my mom, ever looked for someone else (and their marriage was not a good one), and his comment kind of comes to mind, he said he had enough trouble with one, let alone more......relationships with one person are difficult, navigating poly has to be more:)

LPslittleclip -> RE: April roll call (4/14/2013 12:37:17 PM)
much thanks to everyone for the wonderfull words of encouragement and support. may all of your days be filled with joy and happiness little_clip

VioletViolence -> RE: April roll call (4/14/2013 12:57:08 PM)
April has been a pretty hard month for me. My grandfather passed away, I've moved and had to pick up a part time job on top of my full time one. I was really looking forward to getting to meet people, play and maybe even find a pet to call my own but now a lot of that is on the back burner. Ironically if I already had my ideal little subby then I wouldn't be experiencing a lot of this stress and I'd have more free time. The good part is that my new place is far bigger than my old one, so I actually have room to play. I'm hoping that I can now attempt doing pro sessions in earnest, which would help financially as well as helping to scratch my "Wanna hurt someone" itch :P

TheLilSquaw -> RE: April roll call (4/16/2013 6:11:56 PM)
I'm not on the boards much these days but I'm only an email away. This month I am EXTREMELY busy with trying to get my new fetish site up and running. It seems I am starting to build a brand not just sites. I am also getting a lot more work from other site owners and some folks who are buying videos to post on their sites. LP, I hope that you, MP and clip can all move forward and continue your journeys where ever your paths take you.

LaTigresse -> RE: April roll call (4/19/2013 6:17:26 PM)
Life goes on. We change, our lives change. Sometimes for the better, other times for the worst. LadyP and family, I am glad things are changing for the better. As for me, I've been busy. I enjoy the new job. Especially the 7 minute commute. The job itself is not really a big deal. No great new career. BUT it allows me time to work on my business. I've made a couple of new connections that are going to allow me to grow it. Also, less sitting means I've lost 15 pounds since the end of January. Bonus! Spring is very slow in coming to Iowa. Right now it's just 39 degrees and damned wet. Because of the cold rainy weather my horses are still on winter feed which is expensive. Fortunately purchased plenty of hay last fall and haven't had to buy any this spring. Just grain which is ridiculously priced due to the drought last year. Right now it's hard to believe we had a drought last year as we've had over 8 inches of rain this last week. The river is out of it's banks and engulfing roads down the hill from us. As for kink, I am still waiting on a a young lady to follow through on a promised trip to the farm.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: April roll call (4/20/2013 4:59:12 AM)
April is more than half over and I have been busy but for anyone that really might wonder what is going on in my life......My leg is finally healed. They are making the me a new one Yay. I will, hopefully be walking soon. And...I'm pregnant.

obedientangel -> RE: April roll call (4/20/2013 1:06:53 PM)
MIP-Congratulations on BOTH counts!!!

LafayetteLady -> RE: April roll call (4/20/2013 7:29:08 PM)
Oh my gosh! Congratulations are in order on both counts!

MistressDarkArt -> RE: April roll call (4/20/2013 10:07:39 PM)
Wow MIP! That's a lot of good news for one month! Congratulations!

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